Confused about gender/sexual identity? (Keeping it simple.)

If you are growing up or grew up at this time in 2020’s it is no wonder if you are a bit confused. I would be, too.

The reason for all the confusion is that it’s not permissible for a teacher to use certain materials that would actually add clarity rather than confusion to that discussion. To talk about sexual identity without sexual material is more or less impossible.

Let’s fix that right now.

Go to Porn-image.net and find photos that interest you. There are more categories under the gallery, go by whatever interests you. You might not find what you like straight away, but keep looking (as long as you are interested. This is not an assignment that you HAVE TO do.)

The reason I’m guiding you to images rather than videos is that on videos, the models are kind of doing everything possible to a person, to cater to all categories at once, and it often just won’t work. Some of it will turn you off and we don’t have time for a full video here anyway. 😉 Images allow more freedom for imagination – what happens next? Pay attention to where your mind is drawn, what do you add to it – even if it’s not “acceptable.” (Just so you know, the most common female fantasy there used to be was some form of rape before woke got to us. That’s probably still the case if the guilt and shame of it wasn’t there. I’m sure young men find it even harder to accept that’s what turns them on.)

Now. Questions:

1. What gender combination did you hope to find?
2. Who did you feel like you were in the scenario: the boy or the girl?
3. What did you wish to be done to you or to do to another?
4. Were they male, female, or some specific non-binary?
5. What did you find was lacking or missing or disappointing? (There’s probably plenty.)
6. When you find what you feel turned on by, ask yourself why, especially if there’s guilt in play. You’ll find that you’re probably not a horrible person, no matter what turns you on. The why is more important than what.
7. Did you notice skipping over categories because you felt it would be wrong to explore them even though you wanted to? Maybe worth checking anyway.
8. If NOTHING worked, you maybe too young for it still, or you maybe what’s called an asexual – a person without sexual drive.

Your SEXUAL IDENTITY vs. your GENDER IDENTITY

Your sexual identity is defined by what combination of people you want to see in the act. Your gender identity is defined by which role you feel natural to play in the act.

Inclusiveness

Inclusiveness means that even if someone chooses a different category than you, you won’t hate them for it. It is also natural that you want to spend MORE time with people who choose the same category as you, and who are open to sex with you, than to spend it with people who don’t want to have sex with you or who you don’t want to have sex with. It is NORMAL to choose friends based on which ones will get you laid.

Still, you should not actively hate on those who choose other categories, as long as they let you be who you are, and pursue sexual relationships of your liking.

Rebellion

What used to be considered fringe or non-conformist is no longer that. Currently, as of writing this, it seems that people conform to non-conformity just to seek acceptance from people. Your gender/sexual identity should be based on what you wish you had the liberty to be, not on what is acceptable and celebrated. Currently, the most rebellious thing you could possibly be, is a CIS-gendered heterosexual monogamist. However, that’s not what you need to be, that’s not what I am (I am a CIS-gendered heterosexual polyandrist).

The “norm” is to present as the gender you were assigned at birth. Currently, that is the rebellious act. That’s cool. Imagine you HAD TO be a masculine man or a feminine woman, and marry the opposite gender monogamously. What part, if any, would you rebel against? THAT is what’s your gender identity, not the WILDEST version you can put together of all the available options. Your true gender/sexual identity is the CLOSEST THING to a heterosexual CIS-gendered monogamy you can comfortably and happily live with. Nothing in this time is as rebellious as living and presenting as a CIS-gendered monogamist.

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