Denying/hating who you are will force you to hate your closest soulmates

Your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates* are your two most important groups of people. They are the people who you AUTHENTICALLY love, deep in your core, without any ability to change that fact. However, you are more than capable of hating yourself. When you hate yourself, you deny aspects of yourself. You tell yourself that you are not *like that* and start editing yourself accordingly.

If your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates* are in your life, you will start forcing them into the same mold of self-denial that you are feeling. “I hate this about myself, and therefore, you are also not permitted to show that side to yourself, because I hate me, I hate you, and I hate what we are, and I feel like I’m bringing the worst out in you, so you have to be like me, suppressed and oppressed!”

Who are you? How does one define “myself”

We are defined by what we love doing, feeling, and being, not by what we hate. We are defined by what we enjoy, not what we don’t want to do. This way, if you enjoy killing, that makes you a killer. If you don’t want to kill, that means you are not a killer even if you were forced to kill for a reason or another. Whatever you want to get away from defines what you are not, and whatever you want to get into defines who you are.

Whatever you wish you had the permission or the opportunity to be or do, defines you more than what it is that you are able or unable to do in this current time. What you wish you were tells more about you than what you actually are says about you: “I wish I was famous” says more about you than “I am not famous”, if famous is what you wish to be. “I wish I was normal” says more about you than “I think I’m weird” if the ‘wish’ statement is true.

Also, a false “I wish I was as selfless as you” doesn’t mean you are selfless, of course. That is a part of your false ego, a false goal that says NOTHING about you. A true “I wish I was as selfless as you” does, but it’s a rare few people who ACTUALLY mean it, but they do exist of course.

We have a power to change

We all reincarnate endlessly. Whatever goal you have not achieved in this lifetime will still follow you into the next lifetime. You, the immortal spirit, will always remain who you are unless you, yourself, change yourself, or willfully allow someone else to truly change you.

We all can change who we are, but we can’t change other people. We are not TIED or FORCED to being what we once were, or how we were, so if your self-loathing is authentic rather than based on shame (there’s a difference) you can change the way you are and stop being it. This, however, means that whomever you were connected to prior to the change, will stay on the other side, if they, unlike you, LIKE who they are.

A person who doesn’t want to be who they once were may feel a tremendous need to firstly STOP being who they are, and also force the people they love (for some other trait of theirs) to also stop being who they are, so they can move onto the new type of a life together. This can cause a bit of a problem, if your new values are conflicting the old values of your former True Emotion Mirror or your Precious Soulmate*.

Magdalene

Mary Magdalene is an epic character that people are still gossiping over. Was she a whore? Was she not a whore? Was she the divine wife of Jesus or was she an independent man-hating character. :p People don’t know. They are fighting over the legend of this spirit, because they all connect to ONE part of her, and they want to claim the entirety of that woman to their own camp so to speak. The only spirit able to answer that question is Mary Magdalene herself. What group will she bind herself to?

If one of Magdalene’s friends takes another path, they are driven to separate. Each of them declaring their own truth, that may contradict the former mutual truth. If one of them truly was a whore, the others may have wanted to be loved by her so much they, too, went down that path, but now, they want their own selves back, and insist she too was a good woman so they can justify dragging her along…

(Yes I see something. 😉 )

Who are you?

We get attached to those people who we feel grateful to, who we’ve taken solace with, who have protected us and been kind to us. A life alone feels scary. Dependence on a person is not a True Emotion Mirror bond, that bond is nearly non-existent, yet, unbreakable, because it is based on each person’s authentic being. What they WANT TO BE without any influence from other people. If I authentically want to be X and you authentically want to be X, then we meet where the X marks the spot.

Self-denial and being pushed into a box by other, lesser soulmates will damper your truth, and instead of X, you’ll resemble a Y… But you insist on approaching X, no matter how much resistance others put on your way.

Who needs to change for you to be free to be you?

Examine it. Who do you need to change so you can be free to be who you are? If the person who needs to change is other than you, you’re attached to the wrong person. How much are they resisting? NOBODY resists the permission to be who they are, people only put up a fight when they are forced into being something they don’t feel they are nor want to be, no matter how much you promise to love them in their new identity.

Who is trying to force you into changing so they can be what they need to be?

You may be pressured to change so that someone who loves you, is attached to you is free to be who they are. They may put a lot of guilt on you, try and shame you and embarrass you, just so you’d change into what they need to be. This is where you are starting to turn away from your true path and towards a false idea of who you are, you will build yourself a false ego if you choose to follow these people.

What motivates your change?

Are you changing yourself because that would make you more loved, or are you changing yourself because you feel JOY of being allowed to be that, and STILL be loved for it? Like having your cake and eating it too! Someone telling you that the condition to their love for you is that you are exactly what you’ve always tried hard not to be! It may sound false, but I assure you it is not. It is the most real thing there is.

When your need to be X meets another person’s need to be exactly the right counterpart, that is love.

Forcing others to let go and accept who you are is not what they want you to be

To be reunited with your True Emotion Mirrors and your Precious Soulmates* requires you to become brutally honest about who you are. Turn people off you if you must, let them hate you. Let them battle within themselves about whether they should change to be with you, or whether they should enforce their pressure on you to be what they need you to be in order to not hate themselves.

To love without the insistence of sameness

The only way to love someone who is not your True Emotion Mirror or a Precious Soulmate* is to allow them to be different to you, and to have other love greater than you – sometimes to people you can’t stand. The greatest love a parent can show for a child is to allow them to grow up any which way they grow up, only guiding them to be safe, not the same. Give them wisdom, not box to fill.

To love others is to allow them to be who they are, and to help them find the people they belong to. To love should NEVER mean the PRIMARY drive to tie them to you, but as the primary need to liberate them into being who they are, return them back to themselves. To give them the gift of who they already are, to give them the permission to be whatever they are, without judgment. To love is to let go of control of that person,

and to love sexually, is to control. All need to control, I dare to say, is sexual in nature. (I’ll explain this another time.) Therefore, a parent should never seek to control their child, only to protect them – unless, and this is how open minded I am – the relationship is between True Emotion Mirrors who happen to be a parent and a child – sexual. (Probably best to nurture it in a non-sexual context until the child is old enough to give consent, btw.)

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