Do not get into a relationship with a “I’ll change him/her to a better person” mindset (without a permission).

Some people want to be a project to their lover, yes. There are people who wish someone would see their potential to be a perfect person. Sometimes, they dress in a weird way to denote that they are in dire need of someone to help them figure things out, but other people may dress in the exact same way to send the exact opposite message: “Look, I’m not interested in your BS. I dress in whatever way I like.”

Now, if you get into a relationship with someone, there are two options:

a) They believe you love them for the way they are now because they know many people think they’re cool, lovable, charming, etc.

b) They believe a relationship should change a person and that the more successful partner has to mold the less admirable into a better person. (Dating solves which one is going to change.)

Do not make assumptions about which category your supposed partner belongs in. ASK before getting serious with them.

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