Do not let people shame or guilt you for being who you are and loving the people you love.

Platonically or sexually. Do not let people shame you off your authentic self. I know it’s hard to fight the urge to be acceptable but inauthentic. To hide your true self because you think people will hate you for the real you – or consider it their sole right to be what you want to be. (It isn’t.) You don’t have to give anyone way, but you can’t block them from the competition.

You have the right to be you. The way you define yourself. It is dangerous to let other people define you, even if they authentically try to help you.

How do you know who you are? You are what you enjoy (the thought of) being. Whether you give yourself a permission to be that or not – you should – and find people who support you in being that.

You’ll find far less people judge you for being authentically you than what you think will.

Accept yourself for who you are (that is who you wish you had permission to be, not what you’ve been told you are,) and organize your life so that you can be free to be what you are. (If you are at the end part of your life and feel you’re too old, just daydream like you were a child, and let the Universe (your soulmates) know what you wish for in the next lifetime. The ones who wish to be to you what you wish them to be will join you in the next lifetime, the ones who don’t won’t. Don’t worry,  there’ll be people who you don’t know yet that match your description, it’s like creating them out of nowhere – you’re not creating anyone, you’re just inviting the ones you want to join you.)

Don’t be afraid of not being loved back by people you like. The more you are alike someone, the more you’ll like each other. You’ll think the other is picture perfection, but since their definition of perfection is the same as yours, the likelihood is that you love each other. Like attracts like. BE what you like and like will be attracted to you.

Let people hate you for your choices, but let them disown you and walk away from you for who you are rather than who you’re not. Stop pleasing people you don’t even like yourself, because you’re too afraid of their judgment.

And lastly… It is ENTIRELY possible that you are IMAGINING the judgment, shame, and guilt others are subjecting you to. There are a lot of reasons for that. There’s a good chance everyone who you think doesn’t like you doesn’t like you because you’re this meek, suppressed, shy, and ashamed of yourself thing that hates oneself rather than something fun and exciting like the person you wish you had the permission to be.

You don’t need anyone’s permission. Just be a disappointment and an outrage, and be what you wish to be.

You too, Young Souls*. This means you, too, although you always like to whimper and claim you’re the ones that all fun is forbidden from. It isn’t. You’re just too much of a pussy to go be free and like to blame others for it. If you don’t want to be forced to be what you now feel like someone is forcing you to be, just stop fucking playing along. They’ll have to give in eventually. Just grow a fucking pair.

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