Don’t ask another woman how to love your True Emotion Mirror.

Look. I know it’s difficult to accept. This person is your perfect counterpart. For as long as you try to love her the way that a generic woman is loved, you’ll get it wrong. You have to love her like you’d love your perfect counterpart. You don’t have to convince yourself that some basic person is your True Emotion Mirror; that’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying IF and WHEN you’ve correctly identified your True Emotion Mirror, you can rest assured you can love them like your dream girl or dream guy.

You’ll show them you love the way you’d love to show them the love, I mean. You can’t love a BDSM girl with pink rose petals and white virgin gowns or praise her delicate nature. It just doesn’t work that way. (Maybe, in some cases, you can. I mean, people are multifaceted, but it seems unlikely that someone who loves metal and punk would appreciate you treating her like mommy’s little flower girl to prove to her you love her.)

What if it’s a role?

You cannot say to a person you love everything they are and then try to prove that love by treating them like they were some other person entirely. That is to say; unless she’s completely fake with you trying to portray the woman you’d want, hoping you’d see through her and dig up the little porcelain flower… And that’s exactly why you need to buy her act… If that’s what it seems to be. If she’s going to play a role, assume she’s going to continue playing the role.

And yes, I understand. We associate certain things as “romantic” and other things not so much… But… Is she sexy? I mean… Does she love sex? Then maybe you blend sexy into the romance. Is she a little perverted? Celebrate that rather than try and “respect her” by the standards of a closet lesbian.

At least for the love of God, love her like the woman you wish she was, and if she’s not that person, she’ll maybe take her exit before you accidentally marry the wrong woman.

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