Don’t assume you know or understand the first thing about the people you love.

This is not my best post ever. Still, my guides have been bugging me for it, so… Here it is in it’s raw format. Maybe this version popped up because it offers you something that the more polished version won’t. I’m sure there’ll be one eventually. (This seems to change topics half-way through… But there’s a certain time line so I feel like leaving it in anyway.)

Without a conversation, you just don’t know for sure.

It is quite dangerous to assume you know what your friends and loved ones are like without ever having a good conversation with them. While there are people who understand each other instantly from the moment they meet, it’s not a guarantee that you know… anything about your family members. You can watch your child grow, and the more you think they are like you on the inside, the more you need to get a confirmation of it from them.

People almost never deny being something that you get spot on. People love being understood, even if understanding would mean “Why did you kill so-and-so?” When a person denies your assumption to be correct, ASSUME you are wrong, and they are “right.” No matter how much you’d despise them for what you assume if you get it right, they’ll admit to it.

There is a potential that sometimes people take a moment to realize you were right, but you’d have to have a LOT OF confirmations from A LOT OF PEOPLE that you read people in general well. Sometimes, a very insightful person can pick something that the person themselves wasn’t aware of before, but give them a few days, and they may realize that you’re right. But forget about insisting upon insisting, arguing year after year that you know someone better than they know themselves – that is nothing but short-sighted and arrogant to assume you’d be more aware of someone’s inner self than they are themselves.

If a person tells you that you don’t know or understand them at all, believe it. For your own good, for their good, believe it.

Never assume you know something never spoken about WITHOUT A DOUBT.

The short and sweet of it is this: You will never reach the position of being so insightful about people that you can confidently say you know them better than they know themselves. You can say that as a joke; you can say that as a tentative truth sometimes, but never with absolute confidence. That’s why understanding others is such a great sport and a hobby to get into. It is DIFFICULT. It is awakening. And there is no end to it. Another person is a Universe in one person. There is no end to getting to know someone.

Even when you get CLOSER THAN THEY CAN, they won’t admit to it until you hit the nail on the head.

I do “mind-reading” or “emotional scanning,” if you will, as my primary practice. I know there are times when I get closer to the truth than some people get themselves, but the time when they accept something I say to be true is when I am absolutely right on the money.

Even if you’re just a fraction off, they’ll keep denying it. “A fraction off” is often quite good information for yourself, but you won’t get a confirmation from the subject themselves (especially the Normal Person*ic one) until you’re spot on. (A non-the Normal Person* will give you points for getting close, then they’ll help you get closer. Narcissists** want you to figure them out on their own – makes them feel special – and they won’t give you points until you get it 100% right – and they also think you are having just as much fun figuring them out as they have hiding.)

(A Normal Person* should be aware that mostly people want to figure out how to destroy them, break their heart, or to hurt them properly, NOT if the Normal Person* secretly loves them. Narcissits believe they’re always loved, “deep down” and they hide their own love “deep down” and think that’s what people are after when they come digging. In truth, others are often after that “deep down” hidden vulnerability that they can shoot an arrow into and hurt them enough for them to go away.)

Biggest one of them all… Maybe.

One of the biggest misunderstandings between people who are somewhat close is the Lover-thinking* belief that everyone they love also loves them back “deep down.” This gives them the permission to treat the other person as brutally as they see fit, as they are under the impression that the love that they feel “deep down” allows for it. They take it for granted they are loved, and as such they think that hiding their own love “deep down” keeps the chase exciting, and that the prize at the end is the mutual love confession.

It would be a surprise to them, that the person who took a long time to “warm up” has never truly loved them – now they’re simply too angry not to react and “play the game” of mutual insults and injuries. When the Normal Person* eventually reveals their love to their “chasing” the Savants*, they may just crunch their eyebrows and ask: “Do you honestly think I give a fuck?!”

The Normal Person* can also be very slow in even getting their words 100% right: “Well I guess you’ll never admit to loving me,” instead of “Well I guess you really don’t love me…” revealing how they can, to the bitter end, believe they are loved, even though they’ve been fighting this person for years.

That said.

There is a good number of people who love the “oh I thought you hated me!” “Oh no, I always loved you… I just didn’t know how to tell you,” -storyline. Maybe that’s you… But you know… I wouldn’t get myself shredded too bad hoping that is where things are going if you’ve spent months or years fighting someone.

Also, if you have a loved one that you communicate with in a spirit conversation (~telepathically).

Let me tell you one thing: Even if your True Emotion Mirror tells you they don’t love you in real life, they won’t deny it in spirit… For long anyway. It’s too difficult to. If the consciousness you’re communicating with in spirit is saying “fuck off” and “the person on the ground” is saying “fuck off” maybe you should listen instead of hoping “deep down they love you.”

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