Don’t explain what you need to people who you don’t want it from

This is somewhat of a no-brainer to a lot of people, however, people who have gotten used to people wanting to please them a lot, like reincarnations of lords and ladies, kings and queens, and the like, it can have formed into a habit to allow people you don’t love or care for to cater to your needs. Added to that, a lot of people feel the need to explain why a relationship cannot continue by explaining to that person what they need that this person isn’t giving – and more to the point, not capable of providing.

When you form serious relationships, people want to know how to make you happy. What do you need in order to feel content, happy, and blessed at that moment? If you now give that information to someone who you don’t want to form a bond with, you’re giving them the impression they get to love you; you are seemingly giving them the keys to your heart. If someone asks you to tell them what you need, don’t cave, if you don’t want them in your life, and you’re not literally paying them for a service, don’t divulge.

There’s also a danger, that you will give an impression that you don’t have needs at all, and that you are completely happy NOT being given anything or served at all, and that you’re easily pleased. If you are trapped in this manner, you have to demonstrate your frustration somehow, but never direct that frustration to anyone in particular, as that will give them the impression you need THEM to be responsible for your happiness because you love them.

Happiness for serving your needs

You can test people’s love for you by asking them to do small favors for you. Start by something as little as passing you the newspaper or the salt, and see if they feel pleased and happy to be the one who gets to do you favors. This way, also, you won’t come off presumptuous or demanding – you’re just testing waters. But if someone is in love with you, any attention you show them, even if you need something from them, feels divine to them. It gives them the chance to glance you in the eye for a moment, and that alone is amazing to someone who is head-over-heels in love with you. If you call them by their name when you ask them… OOOOMMYYYGOD!

However… If you want to send a person you love to the moon for serving you, don’t seek for their attention by their name to ask them for the newspaper, as: “Greta. Greta? Greta…?” “Yes?” (She replies full of hope for something SUPER IMPORTANT. “Would you pass me the newspaper, please?” Grrr. Disappointing. But casually, amazing, as if you were making excuses to talk to them, and making a conversation out of a twig so to speak.

But I’m getting a little sidetracked.

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