Don’t know how to approach people? Who to approach?

Popular people are rarely a good place to go looking for a good friend if you’re socially anxious. While they are well-liked, they’re also well busy, and they can also be picky and expect you to be equally easy-going with people. They tend to have very little understanding of the reasons for being socially awkward, and while they’ll treat everybody nicely, they won’t really resonate with your problems.

Instead, look for friends among other socially awkward people. There’s nothing wrong with you or them; you just haven’t really mastered being charming on the superficial level yet. Popular people can interact with everyone without a true commitment to many of them, and even though they’re popular, they don’t have many more real friends than anyone else – real friends take time and attention, and that doesn’t change with popularity.

Socially awkward people will be thankful for someone talking to them. Anybody. That’s all you need to do. Say anything. They’ll say something back. You’ll be giggling with them in no time. Socially awkward people are just as good for your self-confidence, if not better than popular people are. Go there. They won’t judge.

People are not nearly as choosy for acquaintances and friends as you think. They get picky about their significant others, but typically, people are not too fussed about who they hang out with, so relax and find someone who will have time for you. Someone as unpopular as you… Someone with few followers on social media or someone sitting in a corner alone at a party looking sad – although if that person also looks cool and indifferent, they probably know how to make friends, they just don’t see anyone they like here – that includes you.

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