Don’t overthink it – go with your biggest rush.

Generally, you should always follow your biggest temptation, your biggest crush, your “I WANT IT/HIM/HER” -feeling. Only when the object of your desire has a mind of his or her own and tells you “no” should you slow down before you ruin your entire relationship with them. (You can also say yes to people you don’t really like if you feel like doing it because sometimes people need to get what they want before they know they don’t want it.)

Whatever it is that tempts you now – it doesn’t have to be love forever, and it doesn’t have to be where you end up – the journey matters, too. Have fun on your way to where you want to be, and don’t make life-long promises to temporary lovers. You don’t need to know if somebody is for you forever; you can see that card if it tempts you. The only word of caution; be prepared to disappoint people and to break hearts as you go along. Don’t be talked into making commitments before you feel absolutely right about making them (and don’t lie to yourself about feeling right about it, either. It’s not that you’re immature or have a commitment phobia – you’re just not with the right person.)

Avoid dating people who require several dates before sex. It sounds awful to say, but they’re still playing their cards too safe for you. Take it slowly only with people who you feel are too hot to rush things with. Some people make you feel like you’re entering a hot or freezing cold bath and you feel naturally inclined to slow down – always listen to your instinct.

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