Don’t worry about worrying: stop manipulating your own feelings

This is something I have become quite aware lately: When we read spiritual information, be it The Law of The Truest Wish, True Emotion Mirrors or anything else, we start monitoring our own emotions and feelings constantly. When we want a certain result out of our spiritual work, we try to force ourself into a state of calm, a state of assurance and confidence, and into positive thinking; to the state of mind that is often described proceeding getting what we want. If we sway out of these feelings, we get scared that okay I just pushed out the one thing I wanted to manifest or bring about (my true love in most of our case). “It’ll happen just when you least expect it” is the promise, aimed to give you peace while you wait, so that you wouldn’t need to worry but we try to not expect so the magic would happen, but we still expect. We try to force it out of our minds. “Right after I gave up” so you try to let go to bring about the thing we look for. What ever we believe will bring about the change we are hoping for, we emotionally mimic. We fake confidence, we fake calm and we fake love and appreciation toward fellow humans – all in the name of achieving enlightenment. In other words, we are bottling things up and twisting one thing to another, by force, ignorance or avoidance.

This is a process. Life is an experience. We didn’t come into this life in order to fake the feelings it makes us feel. All of this that is happening around you now is not here so you could avoid it and not feel the feelings associated with uncertainty, worry, fear and loss. Nor is this life here so that you could keep your distance from love, passion and desire, either. You should not avoid feeling hopeful any more than you should avoid feeling hopelessness if that’s what you truly feel. The more we try to avoid things, or force ourselves into feeling them, the bigger obstacles they become. What would happen if you would attempt to avoid feeling happy? Hmm? Consciously, at all times: “Just don’t feel any joy!” Wouldn’t it happen that a dog wagging his tail might actually force a smile on your face… This might happen during a time when you’re supposed to be grieving someone that died, when you don’t really feel sad at all… When a smile appears on your face when you should be bawling your eyes out… Woopsie!

We even worry about worrying. You’re not supposed to worry when or how your life will take a positive turn or if you can make it that far. So you are afraid that soon you’re going to worry! You might not be worried now, but it’s bound to happen! So you worry about maybe becoming worried about something else. I remember once, in a poor financial situation as I was moving to Australia and didn’t know if I could actually buy the tickets when the date was arriving, I laid awake in bed with this worry knocking on the door and I was pushing it out of my mind trying not to think about it because it won’t make a difference… Then I just allowed it in, I thought that what the hell, I’m worried, might as well feel what that’s like. The feeling came in, stayed for a second and moved on. I did make it to Australia on time, although I worried and then didn’t.

How complicated is this?

What if you just allowed yourself to feel whatever comes naturally? (And try not to worry about not feeling the feeling you actually was feeling but avoided because it wasn’t the right one and then wondering if you really felt that way or another way and which of these emotions was the right one… *sigh*) I believe it takes a bit of practise to get there, but I think we can all make it. And as the feelings arise, we should observe them, not judge them or twist them or force them out, but to observe them: Where, why, how…? What is it that you are feeling exactly and why? This is awareness. This is what we are about. This is what we are here to do: to know what we are feeling about this experience that we all call ‘my life’. All of it, the good, the bad, the ugly. I promise that in time you notice that there is really nothing to fear about different emotions, they are just like notification lights on a dashboard. This thing happened ‘flash’. When you allow everything through, you can also let go of them just as quick. It’s just a passing thing. Everything is in motion. Nothing needs to stay the way it is. Not your emotions, not your life, not this current situation.

Everything changes.

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