Easy way to decide if someone is your poly-bonded True Emotion Mirror

The signs that you are directly somebody’s direct True Emotion Mirror is one thing, but to be in the same TrEmoR Soup with someone is another. It is somewhat difficult to assess another person in terms of whether they are your True Emotion Mirror or not because we tend to have this tendency of photoshopping another person into our ideal partner. I mean that you easily convince yourself that someone’s personality traits, as in “flaws” are something they’d be glad to change if they had the self-confidence/help to do it. That is an easy way to deceive yourself, however, it is more than possible that person would NEVER want to be the way you wish they were, and their ideals are different from yours.

Therefore, let’s try another approach.

Signs that you are possibly True Emotion Mirrors

1. Obviously, you’ll have to have a compatible sexual identity; you must identify as polyandrous, polygynous, polygynandrous, or as monogamist to even get off the ground… (If you’ve ever even given that a thought.)
2. Your base (moral) values are the same. In other words, you are MINIMUM Basal Principle Mirrors* to each other. Whether or not you are something else, too, is up for a discussion, here. This is a long conversation, though, so let’s get down to something simpler:
3. You would name the same people as sexually ideal partners to yourself. To put it more clearly: You would both *die* to get to fuck the same person – let alone be in a committed romantic relationship with that person or persons, for the same reasons. (This, obviously must match your sexual preferences, as in, if you’re polyandrous man and woman, you both have to agree on a man, if you’re polyandrous men, you’d both need to agree on either a man or a woman, if you’re polygynous women, you have to agree on the ideal man or women, if you’re polygynous male and female, you have to agree on which women are ideal. You also can’t FIGHT over it, you must genuinely agree on this matter in an “I like him/her the most, too! OMG!” manner.)
4. If you look at a near-perfect person with this friend/partner of yours, you’d make the same adjustments on them to make them to your liking.
5. If you have this conversation: What does a person NEED TO BE in order to qualify as “perfect”, you wholly agree on all points (once points are made).
6. If you describe your ideal relationship, your hottest sexual fantasy, and your most romantic relationships, you’d wholly agree on what is perfect/sexiest/most romantic. This is especially true if you describe this in relation to a specific (hypothetical) other in your soup, and that person’s role in it.
7. If you were to suggest to a True Emotion Mirror that they need to make a change in their attitude, they would feel RELIEVED because you gave them a permission to be what they always wanted to be, but dared not to, fearing losing love over it.

Signs that it is IMPOSSIBLE you are True Emotion Mirrors to each other

1. Your taste in men or women is different slightly or completely different. You wouldn’t point out the same person as the most coveted sexual partner in existence. Your ideal sexual partner is different.
2. Even if you would entertain the idea of a relationship with the same person as this person idealizes, because you love that person, you’d PREFER another shared partner than what is their first preference.
3. If you would be coerced to change your mind about what is ideal, you’d feel disappointed.
4. You feel that when they get their way, you’re unhappy, and when you get your way they’re unhappy. There are clearly “two ways”; your way and their way, and you’re never 100% happy at the same time, even if you were willing to make compromises for that person.

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