Fake it ’till you make it – the merits and culprits

There’s a popular saying: “fake it ’till you make it” for those who are looking for success. It is sometimes very beneficial for you to fake success where it doesn’t exist yet. Tony Robbins parked his clunker of a car far away from the venues where he knew multimillionaires were having a social get-together, owned nothing but one good suit, and then, he started talking. A few years later, he’s a multimillionaire.

Steven Tyler hung around the clothing stores he knew rock stars used, making sure he knew exactly what “the right look” was, talked tall, and acted like a narcissistic rock star – often to the annoyance of his future guitarist and “brother from another mother” who was working at an ice cream bar forced to clean up the mess the fake rock star Steven Tyler and his then band left behind; he was living the life before the life found him.

And why would you do that? There is a good reason to paint yourself in the light you want people to see you at IF you know you can deliver on that image. If you’ve got the goods, you can do it; pretend to have already made it if your word is good.

There’s another reason to fake success. When you’re aiming toward a goal that your friends and family do not approve of (you’re planning on leaving them behind, for instance,) you may want to loosen their grip on you by faking success that isn’t real yet. This works both spiritually and psychologically speaking: They will start to see you as “too good for them” or no longer feel they’re “in on your secrets” when they don’t know what is real and what isn’t. They may have their doubts but no information on what’s actually going on. That reduces their feeling of connection to you and their sense of ownership to you.

The culprit of this is that you will have to fake success to people who know you the best. That may be either entirely undoable or very difficult… Still, you know these people. How much could you get away with?

You may first fake one thing to your existing friends and another to your new crowd; small success here, and then a bigger one there; climb a fake ladder on your way of making it real. That is, of course, if you have the goods once you get there and you’re actually determined to burn bridges on the way.

Faking everything is not smart, of course. You’ll make a laughing stock out of yourself if people figure it out. People who don’t even know you will find it exhilarating to find out someone who faked an entire life “for likes.” Don’t do that. You don’t want to become famous for being anything but who you say you are.

Then, there’s this: When you are faking it, fake it for OTHER PEOPLE. Once your True Emotion Mirrors or Precious Soulmates come knocking because they recognize you from your fake, tell them it is what it is. Ignore everyone else. “You’re too busy to even read your messages” or whatever.

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