Female Hysteria has turned into Insufficient Masculinity disorder

The time has come for men to take back their rightful position next to their women. Didn’t that sound grandiose? 🙂 In our not so distant history, it was men who controlled everything that women did, and they were the only ones who could tell what was psychologically wrong with women. In the late Victorian era, a physician (obviously a male one because women didn’t have brains back then) developed a description for a disorder called “female hysteria“, to which there was only one relief; orgasms (administrated by doctors). The trouble with female hysteria was that the list of symptoms was long as your arm, (in fact, much longer; 75 pages long, and the list was considered ‘incomplete’). It contained anything from sexual desire to the lack of sexual desire, from show of will to the lack of it, and what was left in the middle was a very narrow field of behaviour that women were allowed without being considered hysteric. If a woman was considered to suffer from female hysteria, clearly they could be then declared unfit to make up their own mind and put to the protective and nurturing care of their husbands or fathers. Those who were not suffering from female hysteria, would have been smart enough to allow men to take care of them without too much of a fuss anyway, in a sort of arrangement of “obey willingly or be declared unstable and obey by doctor’s orders”.

With the rise of feminism ailments such as hysteria have left our society, but the tables turned. The more men were shown the error of their ways of treating women, the more they have forced to give up their right to understand relationships, their own mind and the female mind. At first, they were right to take a step back and consider their motivations and observations, but feminism became a habit and now we are, as women, basically treating men the same as they once treated women. Maybe not quite that severely but we are sadly not far enough from that situation. We treat men as children in their own relationships, accessories at their own wedding and utterly incapable of voicing their own opinion on their own thoughts, motivations and feelings, with the very reverse-victorian notion of “men are not in touch with their feelings” or “men cannot understand/cope/deal with their emotions”.

With new awareness we must understand that men and women are equal but different – however, not from different planet but from the same rock called Earth, and to top that off, we belong in the same species! We CAN talk to each other and understand each other, but we must stop stereotyping each other. We are all, regardless of gender, perfectly capable of handling relationships and assessing what is wrong with them, if we look at things honestly and with care, love and respect. We cannot blame men for “running” because it’s “too intense” or “they can’t deal with their emotions” or “they are not enlightened enough” these are all examples of the same kind of thinking that led women into being diagnosed with female hysteria but other way around. Our lists of symptoms are not quite as clearly defined, which is unfortunately driving men mad, most of them probably would like a clearly laid out list of symptoms of “insufficient masculinity disorder” to live by. Let’s just end it here and balance the scales, no?

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