Finding Freedom from the Normal Person*

Your True Emotion Mirror or your Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* will love you for your selfishness, not for your obedience. While this rule applies across the board, what the Normal Person* and the Savants* consider “sexy selfishness” are opposite things. The Normal Person* want your selfishness hidden from the public but revealed to them, but the Savants* want it out there in the open. However, what the Savants* and the Normal Person* consider “selfish” are two entirely different things.

While you should let your friends see you for everything that you are, it is wise to leave some big questions for the Normal Person* who don’t know you that well to ponder on. Finding the balance between not-your-business-lie and reality can be a life-mastering task for a Savants*.  Telling the truth while you’re lying is something a masterful the Savants* will learn to do. (My Instagram profile is an example.)

the Normal Person* try to push the Savants* into hiding – not that much into stopping what they’re doing.

the Savants* are inherently impressive. They are intelligent, charming, nice, good with people, and utterly alluring. They can outshine someone who theoretically outranks them (like a parent, teacher, or an older person), and the Normal Person* consider outshining your superior rude and selfish. The Normal Person* are very aware of hierarchy, and the Savants* don’t really care for it. The Savants* value people based on what they know and can do, not by what their birth order or job title might say. Therefore, the Normal Person* try to push the Savants* ‘shine’ under the rug (tall poppy syndrome) while considering going behind people’s backs to do whatever they want as “sexy” and “alluring.” the Savants* do this to be discrete (polite) but hate it in people, especially in their True Emotion Mirrors.

The Cat Thinking logic of being “discrete” means that someone is trying to control them in a way that they feel is not their business. But to avoid the drama, they do what they’d do anyway behind that person’s back. They can also justify things like cheating if they were “manhandled” or felt pressured to stay in a relationship they didn’t truly want or they felt betrayed in it. If their spouse doesn’t grant them a divorce, they may well decide to “divorce them” anyway by cheating on them. The Normal Person* cheat, too, but it’s more of a cultural thing, a habit to them. Something they might feel they have to do “as a man” or as a “liberated woman.” However, they attach NO emotion to their cheating.

the Normal Person* always put harnesses and gags on the Savants*; they “clip the wings” of their child and the sort. They do this out of love, but that is not how a Savants* sees it. To keep the peace, they’ve often learned to go along with it – up to a point, at least. The Cat Thinking men have also learned to take this the Normal Person* Thinking trait as a “female trait” that they need to surrender to if they want a lasting marriage (and most of them do), but they should know this is not a female trait; it’s the Normal Person* Thinking trait or, if you believe modern psychology, a narcissistic trait.

Openly hedonistic (selfish) living has interesting effects on all people

Living selfishly has interesting effects for both the Savants* and the Normal Person*. The Savants* admire you and want you to take them with you for the ride, and the Normal Person* want to tame you. Be aware of this difference regardless of which type you are: If you are the Normal Person*, the Savants* will drive you further toward reckless behaviour, as YOU won’t have breaks on you. The Savants* come with breaks installed and they wish to control their own breaks independently, the Normal Person* need other people to put breaks on for them.

If you are a Savants*, you have to learn to identify and ignore the Normal Person* attempt to “rescue you” from what you truly want (not thinking drugs or alcohol), BUT make sure you have your own breaks on you as some the Normal Person* will also try to use a gas-pedal on you, to see how far you’d go. (I’m thinking drugs and alcohol.) As a Savants*, you MUST remain in control of yourself at all times, and the Normal Person* must realize that no matter how reckless you get, a Savants* won’t save you… At least not until you’ve TRULY made a real mess out of your life and they’re afraid for it.

the Savants* feel safe much further down the track than the Normal Person*, BUT

What also needs said is that what the Savants* consider “safe speed” is much, much, much faster than that of the Normal Person*. This means that at first, the Normal Person* try to keep up, but once they get past their safe speed, they tend to get so scared they lose sight of what they’re doing completely, and rather than slow down, they put a blind fold on and hit the gas. The Normal Person* start to panic before the Savants* have even reached comfortable cruising speed, so to speak. The Savants* also often consider themselves cowards, because they know and do use their own breaks – even though they’re much more comfortable in high speeds than the Normal Person*.

However, in addition to drugs and alcohol, the Savants* can take risks and take part in behaviors that seem “attention seeking” to the Normal Person*. They may quit their jobs and start a business on a whim, on a gut instinct, and “move to  Hollywood” to be a movie star, even though they have nothing much to fall back on. The Normal Person* are quite scared of the way the Savants* want to live their lives, and that, to them, seems “attention seeking.” Much of it, they don’t understand.

Some weird advice for the Savants*

Something as simple as wearing a biker jacket as a teenager will alert the Normal Person* Thinking parent to think that there’s something seriously wrong and “my child needs psychiatric care” and whatnot. That will make the Normal Person* Thinking parent lasso the child back into fold, and the Savants* won’t appreciate it.

So… A the Cat Thinking child of the Normal Person* would do wisely to go through all the motions that their parent wants, and go behind their backs completely. (I’m not kidding.) For instance, a Cat Thinking child should NEVER reveal their business plans to the Normal Person* Thinking parent until the business is a success. Otherwise, the Normal Person* will get involved. Just look like you’re doing what they expect of you, go to Uni if you have to, but choose the easiest possible topic, EVEN IF that costs your the Normal Person* Thinking parents their life savings, and you have no intention of graduating. Still, you need to clear your exams and pretend you’re doing fine. Your the Normal Person* Thinking parents will forgive you what a Savants* never would. Once you’ve got enough money… Vanish. If you’re a good kid, put a good load of money on their bank account and leave. You may send someone to check up on them under some excuse, but for your own good – and theirs – never get caught.

You gain freedom from the Normal Person* by lying. Even if they knew you were lying.

the Savants* must learn to give the lip sync to their the Normal Person* Thinking parents. (Obviously, how you know, is that you don’t actually love your parents even if you feel like you should. Your feelings are more nostalgic and maybe appreciative, but not really loving.) As in: you tell them what they want to hear. You pretend. You create such a pretty picture about your life that they don’t want to shatter their fantasy world with the reality. You don’t gain freedom from your the Normal Person* Thinking parents until you’ve learned to lie to them. (I say as I’m still struggling to utter a lie, being a pathological truth teller…)

If you’ve told the truth so far, and still feel “tied in,” here’s a suggestion. Cut contact with your parents for a year or two. Maybe a few months. Then, return with glorious news of a promotion, a new job, anything that your parents would be impressed by but not comfortable enough to ask to see where you work. The Normal Person* know “it’s none of their business” if you lie to them. Even if they knew you were lying, they’ll know lying to them means “butt out.” Telling them to fuck off means: “You don’t care about me. Pay attention!” Cutting all contact may work, but it may not clear the spiritual bond.

Think of your “lie” as personal marketing or image building. While a savvy person can see what is what, you’ll be able to live up to a fake image when a Savants* comes calling. (Use a ton of image filters, hire actors if you must, so it looks fake even though it was inherently real…)

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