For polyamory to work for you, you might have to throw caution to the wind completely.

You will dump people. You will leave. They will leave you. That’s the nature of the game.

The virtue of a polyamorous lifestyle is that it will pick and choose the people whom you share a natural bond with. COMPLETELY natural. You may realize this, but what about the people who don’t? Who are still looking for a guarantee in love, or seem to be begging for chances that you know they will never “cash in” on?

In some sense, you need to humble yourself to be loved even when you know you cannot love them back. In other words, Don’t tell them you’re too good for them; let them find that out for themselves.

Don’t hide your virtues AT ALL, ever. Don’t put yourself down in order to seem more approachable to another person. Let them be put off by you. Let them be intimidated. Confused. Don’t hide; shine. Don’t fear for them; let them fear for themselves. Let them see the terror of the inevitable day when you find someone much better than them and leave with them.

This takes a quirky style of humility. You’ll let in people who you don’t wish to let in, the people you don’t really like. Keep them close until they no longer feel comfortable there, when they start feeling like an outsider quite naturally.

That doesn’t mean sex necessarily, but it may. Depending on how you feel about it. Just don’t fake orgasms. Don’t pretend to be having more fun than you are. Maybe reminiscence out loud about another girl or guy who gives you orgasms like nobody else. Don’t let them lull themselves in the belief that you’re incapable of enjoying yourself. Let them in on the secret that THEY are lacking, not you.

At the same time, you sort of force your True Emotion Mirrors to perform better than your best random fucks, and THAT can be a good thing, if they try to play it safe just not to scare you off. (Go by your instinct, tho, imagine and feel how they’d react and to what. Remember you are their REAL love – pretending one way or another will be a turn-off for them.)

Remember this: Your real self is a turn-off for your fake lovers and a turn-on for the right ones.

One way to be more real than ever is your social media. You have no idea how your “friends” hate your social media feed. 😀 You know you adjust to your friends and family when you’re in the same room with them, you alter who you are, right? Make sure your social media is more real than you are with your acquaintances.

Don’t polish your social media even if you can do it. If you do, show somewhere how you do it. That YOU are doing everything for yourself if you are. You know how your True Emotion Mirrors will react to the poor you taking care of everything in your life. Accept help and appreciate it just as much as you do. Don’t be afraid to say: “Thanks for that, but I prefer my own version.”

And how is this a type of humiliation? You’ll need to show your weaknesses the same way as you as you show your strengths to people you don’t even like. But it doesn’t mean you need to love them, like they think it does. Show your weaknesses to everybody, and you’ll have no secrets to share with those who are willing to keep them for you. The Normal Person* are suckers for secrets. Keep none.

Show your mundane life and let people react to it. Show how you do you. Let them feel GUTTED that you still reject them even though you have nothing to show for yourself. HUMILIATE THEM the same as you humiliate yourself.

Create a behind-the-scenes YouTube channel or something while you want to show off your ability to look like a million bucks on another. Show them pieces of shit how you don’t need a team of fucking professionals to make you who you are. You are who you are because you’re WAY BETTER than anyone else. 😀

Now, imagine your True Emotion Mirror or the person you admire the most in this world if you haven’t met yours, doing the same thing in his or her situation, and you seeing it. How do you feel? Nobody else matters, really.

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