If you got a result of “the Survivalist*” in the Simple Test, especially if you are the Survivalist* Follower or the Idealists* leaning towards Follower, you need to be aware of something about yourself, and that is high suggestibility, and the opposite side of that coin; a potential of being or becoming a tyrant. You have the potential to be a danger to others or a danger to yourself, but this doesn’t have to be so, you just need to notice this about your thinking mode. I know you are surprised about this, too.

The one character trait that is typical to the Survivalist*, in fact, the defining character trait, is the need to fit into a group, and the trouble thinking independently follows as a result. Because your mode of thinking is always geared towards fitting in, that overshadows EVERYTHING ELSE in your life, and that is very dangerous to your own well-being and the well-being of people near you. Here’s the kicker: you become a danger to others when you are happy and a danger to yourself when you are unhappy.

The reason for this is, is that because the Survivalist* want to fit in, and this is their Most Important Life Goal, to fit in, they believe that EVERYONE has the same deep need and pain that they NEED TO fit in. But in the case of the Idealists*, that is not the case: They think for themselves, and they have a high need to be free, MUCH MORE SO than to fit in. An Idealist* wants to fit into a group only after every other condition has met: This group must fit them, not the other way around, and they will always attempt to FIND a suitable group, rather than to force the group to suit them. A Survivalist* who thinks they’ve got all the answers to a happy life won’t understand this, but they will get an overwhelming need to “teach” the Idealists* how to think so that they, too, could fit in. When the Survivalist* is especially sure that they know “how to live right”, they feel it is their DUTY to force others into living their lives the same way as they do: they turn into tyrants, bible bashers, and crowd controllers; a danger to all freedom.

An Idealist* is a danger to others, when under pressure from the Survivalist*

An Idealist* assumes everyone can make choices for themselves. Therefore, they do not emphasise the point when they are making decisions that are different to the people surrounding them. If they decide to try drugs, they do not ask if their the Survivalist* friend would like to try drugs, they offer them a chance should they be around, expecting the Survivalist* to decide for themselves whether they want the drug or not. Because the Survivalist* needs to fit in, the chances of them taking the drug is super high, if they don’t have a strong enough group mentality to say “no” from their family or a teacher they trust. Therefore, the Survivalist* are the people who “fall into the wrong crowd” while the Idealists* are the people who choose their crowd, and can be held responsible for their actions – the Survivalist* cannot, really. They are subject to good luck with friends… But… If fitting in with drug users made them happy, they will be more than capable of pushing drugs as the key to a good life, with no notion of how bad idea that is. An Idealist* would never pressure others to make the same choices as they are making, but their strong assumption that let everyone speak for themselves makes the Survivalist* think that the choice has already been made for them and they have no other option but to follow suit. (Check this video “if you are drinking, I must, too” if you haven’t, yet, to illustrate the point.)

An Idealist* becomes a danger to others when they have to defend their right to not fit in. An Idealist* surrounded by a lot of the Survivalist* who think they’ve got the right answer, and that they need to teach this the Idealists* the right way to live, are MORE THAN CAPABLE of pushing the Idealists* over the edge: Including to mass murder. Therefore, it is very important for the Survivalist* to know when not to push their ideas on others too hard because they do create mass murderers by this blind need to force everyone into the same square mold.

When the Survivalist* is unhappy, they become a danger to themselves

When life isn’t going too well, the Survivalist* is actively looking for the next guru, someone to solve their problems for them, and anyone who they admire will do for the job. They may find a good teacher, or they may wind up with the worst possible role models they could think of. Nazi Germany was formed on the unhappiness of the Survivalist*.

An unhappy the Survivalist* has no breaks, and a happy one has nothing but. (A happy the Survivalist* hates nothing more than change, because to them, all change or instability poses a threat to them: if others change their minds on how to live, they need to follow suit. There is no other option, not even if they knew how they, themselves wanted to live their  life. Stabilising themselves is a problem for them, so if everyone else sifts, they have to sift with them, even if they hated the proposed change.) So, an unhappy the Survivalist* will go anywhere with anyone and they have no power to stop the train unless they make a conscious effort to do that. A Survivalist* who is blindly following a leader can be an accessory to a murder if they feel pressured to (a Idealists* never is, not against their own, sound decision to be) and the Survivalist* who hasn’t found the magic pill to happiness yet, will do ANYTHING anyone tells them to. Being highly suggestible, their inability to say no in the fear of not being accepted will make them a danger to themselves.

If they are “doing well” in the ill-advised social group of theirs, they will also become fierce recruiters “for the cause”. Terrorist groups would be filled with the Survivalist*, because they see no issue forcing their own ideas onto other people, and from going to extremes to spread their way of living to others – and kill everyone who doesn’t see things the way they, themselves see. If they are happy killing people, they assume others will be, too… Obviously. They do not believe in diversity, but believe, quite blindly, that whatever makes them feel like a part of a group is justification enough to do anything the group leader tells them to do. Their morals are directly linked to what the closest people to them want them to do; morals do not exist as a value outside their group, only their group opinion of them matters. In terms of terrorist groups, the group leader would fit the description of the Survivalist* thinking Leader. (I have a cause, and I will force others to have the cause, too, at all cost, for the good of humanity.)

The most dangerous thing of it all; (This comes from the spirit of Osama Bin Laden of all people:) “We are not happy, we simply fit in, and if the most important thing in life is to fit in, this is what happens! What have we done?” What is also sad, to me, is to look in the eyes of Osama Bin Laden and see an incredible intelligence – in another culture, he would have been an incredible philosopher, a truely inspiring mind, a liberal, and a humanitarian. In a strongly the Survivalist* thinking culture, he never had the opportunity to think for himself although he had every inborn resource of doing so. He was a Idealists* broken by the Survivalist* thinking machine of a culture; “If you do not think like us, little Osama, we will beat you until you do.” His choice was to become the leader of his people or be beaten to submission, and he was definitely not a follower. “If I cannot choose the way I live, I can, at least, be the leader of my people, to ensure as much personal freedom as I can gather.”

Learn to think for yourself and to be critical of new suggestions

As the Survivalist*, your primary need is to become aware of this one thing: You suck at being critical! You will have to learn this now! You were lucky enough to be born in a civilised, safe country now (I assume) but the next address to your life is out in the open. Essentially it will be wherever your the Idealists* friends deem fit, and their choices do not include you. They choose to go wherever they want, fully assuming you will stay where you feel happy, but you, if you do not make a sound judgement, will follow in their footsteps to the worst war zone known to men as it may be, and you have no way of stopping this. The Idealists* in your life MIGH CHOOSE to be born there because they feel they can help people to end the war or to survive it, but you will be born there too if you don’t learn to make your own choices.

The insane part of being the Survivalist* is that you will cling onto ANYONE AT ALL, and you make no judgement on who you cling onto. Therefore, you will always be at someone else’s mercy. Following their whims. No wonder your life keeps changing all the time when you have no control over it yourself. No wonder you don’t know what’s going to happen because you simply allow your life to change when someone else changes it for you! The Idealists* are curious people. They WANT change. They enjoy new challenges and new ways of living. When you cling onto someone who loves change and challenges in order to feel safe and secure, it is like strapping yourself to an atomic bomb because people say having one around makes you safe!

the Idealists* derail under strict control, the Survivalist* derail without it

The Idealists* has a weakness, too, but not as bad as the Survivalist*. They tend to do the opposite to what they’ve been told, simply to show defiance and teach the Survivalist* that “you can’t control me”. Because the Idealists* rebel against strict rules simply for sport, strict parenting drives them off the rails. Strict parenting keeps the Survivalist* thinking kids on the rails and derail the Idealists*. The Idealists*, the more pressure you put on them, the more they rebel, and they ARE going to break free from your control unless the price of rebellion is their life or severe torture. THAT is how futile it is to try and make a mass of the Idealists* to conform. Where they stop is where their life is on the line, and some won’t even stop there but rather take a bullet than an order.

In your private life, you will chase a Idealists* out of your family and circle of friends if you try and “teach them how to be loved” or “how to be happy” without noticing that he or she really doesn’t care about your opinion of them. They don’t need to fit in, therefore, they’d rather be alone than be told what to do or how to think. To them, nothing is as precious as their own way of thinking, their own personality, and their own freedom of choice. They will forever be seeking for people who appreciate their way of being because they would never disrespect someone else’s freedom of being who they are or their freedom of choice. “I am leaving you because I would never do to you as you do to me.” Is their motto. If you force them to stay with you, you WILL choose to be their bitch, let me tell ya. They either will be free or they will be cracking the whip on your ass – your call – and your precious way of life will be at their mercy to change whichever way they choose, assuming you do not threaten to kill them should they change something.

How the Survivalist* cause domestic violence on themselves

Yes. I am going to blame “the victim”, and this may be a tough nut to swallow but you need to, because if you don’t, you’re going to put yourself into a very bad situation one day if you’re not careful.

The deepest need, the most overwhelming of the Survivalist* needs is to form a connection to other people; to fit in. This need can also take tyrannical forms, at some stage they no longer ask whether or not they are accepted into a group but they DEMAND IT. If they believe their life skills are at an acceptable level, they believe this gives them the right to never let go of other people, and that these people belong to them… because they know them. Therefore, whenever someone attempts to break up with them or to leave their family, the Survivalist* thinks: “oh my god that controlling bastard! He/She thinks they can control me by threatening to leave me!” They see the Idealists* need to find people closer to their own personal liking as a personal insult or a threat with a purpose of forcing the Survivalist* to change their minds about something, or to manipulate them to “live the wrong way”. If the Survivalist* is convinced they’ve got life down pat, they will see the threat of leaving as a sign of immaturity and attempt to rebel against the system because A BREAKUP is merely a form of extreme torture, not a real thing! So, when a Idealists* is “trying to threaten them with a breakup”, the Survivalist* will up the anti and make sure they do not conform to the Idealists*’s wishes – after all, the Survivalist* here has got all the required life skills, they somehow graduated with top marks from the school of life and the Idealists* just better accept the fact they are not as skilled at life as the Survivalist* is. The Survivalist* sees the Idealists* acting up because “they don’t know how to live life right, and they feel embarrassed and want to pretend they don’t care about the Survivalist* or their opinions.” They believe this because that is the way they themselves think. They, then, do as they wish someone had done to them, call their bluff, stop them from leaving, and continue educating them on how life is lived; To not give up on them when they tried to leave! This is the justification of not letting someone leave a relationship or a family, but turn a home into a jail house. (Both men and women are capable of this.)

This following paragraph is going to be very unprofessional, but also, very needed, because nobody ever says this out loud and directly enough for the Survivalist* to understand this (because it’s rude): Just writing this, as a Idealists*, makes me want to shoot that stupid ass the Survivalist*. I am telling you this because this needs to sink in with the Survivalist*, that you have one life skill BADLY missing; the ability to understand that people are different and not everyone thinks you fart rainbows, no matter how good you think you are at life. For the record, most the Idealists* call you by the name of “a drone”, “a sheeple”, “a zombie”, “a robot”, and other words to ridicule your remote-controllability, your inability to think for yourself, that is, and how you follow the pack like a blind fool. THAT IS NOT a life skill, that is being an idiot. I need to point this out bluntly because the Survivalist* thinking illogical pride of how they live their lives and the blind, unquestioned feeling of superiority of their own choices is absolutely DANGEROUS to themselves, to others and the world peace itself!! I am also convinced that you have told someone, somewhere, or you’ve thought about it to yourself, that you would erase (teach) “stupid people” off this planet if you could (aka people who do not think like you). Guess what? The majority of people, when they say “stupid people” they mean you. All of you the Survivalist*, because You Do Not Think, you simply follow a pattern, and that, is absolute moronity in action.) Further, something you haven’t noticed yet, most movies about a horrifying future event, where all people are given a role to fill at birth, and a sterilized culture where everyone follows the rules like… robots, that is about you. All of that is about you and your kind of people, how you would love everyone to be just like everyone else (you) and how you would love everyone to simply follow orders and never think one original thought of their own. All of that is criticism about your way of life, but you have probably been too self-righteous to notice or even understand what the movie is about.

Some historical events the Survivalist* can take the credit of:

The Holocaust

The terror attacks

The crusades (the Idealists* would be involved to spread the good news, the Survivalist* would force people to convert by the sword (it’s quicker than to actually talk to them, you see).)

The witch hunts and burnings

All offensive wars (wars with the purpose of forcing those people to live like us or to “stop them from coming here by going there first”)

All of these events rely on group mentality; a sense of unshakable unity, “us against them”, “you are with us or you will be killed” way of thinking. If all of the people involved would have or could have thought for themselves, none of this would have happened.

Some historical events the Idealists* can take the credit of:

Leading successful defence wars. (the Survivalist* are bad at self-defence, so the Idealists* make a better defence army leaders than the Survivalist*, whose resolve fades when facing an invader. “The best form of defence is an offence” is the Survivalist* thinking idea; “get them before they get you” because they do not know how to defend themselves when they need to.)

The innovation of democracy

The innovation of computers

The innovation and advancement of all medical treatments

All major scientific breakthroughs such as electricity and astronomical advances, (all that requires independent thinking that challenge previous ideas) apart from perhaps, complete pot luck discoveries like… The use of botox as a beauty treatment instead of as a pain killer.

The revolution of Paris (The move to further independent thinking) The guillotine was also a Idealists* thinking idea; “in the defense of Paris”

The hippie movement

Animal rights movement

First Wave Feminism

Innovation of modern art and music

Innovation and perfecting classic art and music

The early education systems

The freedom of speech

The idea of living in peace

All innovations regarding cleaning the planet and stopping the pollution;

the idea of preserving the forests and our nature reserves.

Sex apart from the missionary position, or perhaps, all new sexual experiments that came after the doggy style. (You have a Idealists* to thank for the idea of a blow job.)

Fun and entertainment. Even joking is a Idealists* thinking idea! (The amount of trouble the Idealists* have had to go through in order to have the right to have a simple laugh is mind boggling!)

Last, but not least, and I kid you not, even the Evolution of the species depends on the Idealists* thinking: The Idealists* evolve, innovate, try new ways, are curious, push forward: the Survivalist* slow this process down enough for a new species to be evolved before they follow suit into the new species (reincarnation). However, it is the Idealists* that stay in the remaining species: They like living that way and the popular opinion “humans are great” doesn’t sway them from thinking that hell, being a rhino still beats being a human.

So don’t tell me you know how to live better than we do! The only thing the Idealists* are guilty of, really, is the constant failure to predict and prepare themselves for the Survivalist* incredible ability to turn every new beautiful idea into a form of mind and mass control.

So finally; Even though nobody thinks you fart rainbows,

The Idealists* refusal to live like you doesn’t mean they hate you they hate you they hate you either

To sum this post up, for the Survivalist* the need to fit in is so strong, that they will automatically change their behavior to match the behavior of others in their group. If the Survivalist* does not mimic their friend like a chameleon, it is intended as an insult or is simply an inability to mimic (as in you don’t know how). But: the Idealists* CHOOSE to do things differently, not because they HATE you or your way nor because they are unable intelligence and skill wise to follow suit, but because they simply prefer to do things differently for themselves. Most likely they do believe their way of doing things is better than yours, and you would, probably, do the same if you knew how, but since not everyone is talented, the Idealists* is going to do what they do because they can.

Their choice of doing things differently is not a reflection of you, their choice had nothing to do with you. They do not assume everyone is the same or should be the same, so when they choose things for themselves, they do not, at the same time, intend to flip a bird at you with the intent of defiance: “Look how much I hate you, here, look! Look at me not wanting to be a stinky asshole like you!” They simply thought… “hey, nice day. I think I’ll eat outdoors.” They didn’t look over the fence to see if the neighbors ate inside or outside, this has nothing to do with them. They also might choose to wear a different style or color of clothing as a form of self-expression or because the color you wear simply doesn’t look good on them, and it doesn’t mean they hate you for wearing that color instead the color that looks good on them – see what I’m saying? They make decisions without second guessing what kind of a decision YOU would make in YOUR life and in YOUR situation because they do not live YOUR life in YOUR situation but that of their own.

Also, if you both are good at both maths and arts, and they choose to pursue arts despite your earlier choice because they enjoy it more and you choose to do maths because you think it’s sensible, their choice of arts isn’t a reflection on your choice; your choice was your individual choice, and they chose differently. This doesn’t mean they HATE YOU, unless you tried and tried and tried to ram the choice of mathematics down their throat because YOU chose that; that is when they DO HATE YOU and might choose arts just to make sure they are not following stupid orders, or so that you wouldn’t think that their choice of maths now gives you the right to make another life choice on their behalf in the future.

The Idealists* believe that their life is their own, their choices are their own, and if you would never live your life the way they do, nobody should force you to, and they would be the first to defend your right to live your life the way you like it to, too… So they’re a good friend to have but DO NOT push your ideas on them like they were the word of God.

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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.

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