For those of you who don’t believe you’ve been truly rejected

OK, I’ve done some work here to explain the difference between a True Emotion Mirror fake rejection that is really just a temporary runner, and a REAL rejection by someone who is truly not interested in having a (continued) relationship with you. It seems that there is still a will to not accept that sometimes people you are fucking crazy about will reject you… And mean it. And won’t change their minds. And that they are not there waiting to surprise you with a romantic orgasm that you’ve been denied so far. Or… Any such a thing.

Signs that you are truly rejected (broken up with, canceled)

There are NO mixed signals

There are and have never been MIXED SIGNALS. They’ve NEVER told you out loud they love you. They don’t talk to you, they don’t answer your emails. They’ve blocked you on Social Media. IF they unblock you to talk to you again, and you take it as a green light to a relationship, they block you again. (They wanted to be friendly with you, but since you insist on making it romantic, they’ll return to the blunt rejection -state.)

They may answer your messages either shortly or not at all.

There is NO reason why they should reject you, such as latent homosexuality they’re rejecting in themselves (CAREFUL before you decide someone else is gay!), a conflicting religious belief, they’re not married or in a relationship with someone you know, or you’re not married to their best friend or something, or existing marriage they may be protecting. In other words, there is no external reason they reject you for, as in: “I would date you, surely, it’s just that…” If they are free to date you, but won’t, a complete cut of contact is a sign of a rejection you are not accepting.

They avoid eye contact with you, they don’t seem interested in you in a social setting. When you ask their friends if they’ve said anything about you, they’ve got nothing to tell you, certainly nothing positive.

They NEVER give you a wink, a hint they are going to come back to you, or that they’re sorting something out for you.

If you happen to be telepathic with them, even their subconscious mind tells you to go away.

Extra pointers

While you may have been rejected for no particular reason at all (like they just didn’t like you enough for a continued relationship,) they may have given you a reason for the rejection. Whether YOU think it’s a reason enough or not doesn’t matter. To THEM it’s enough, and that’s the way the cookie crumbles for you.

Be careful not to project your own feelings onto another person, as in, the belief that they are doing what they are doing for a reason that sounds positive to you, without you having any real evidence that this is the case. For instance, if you want to find reasons to believe someone is secretly gay, you’ll find a crap ton of them, no matter how straight they are.

You cannot decide what values another person will live by. EVEN IF YOU KNEW FOR A FACT they are, say, a homosexual, but they decide to live a heterosexual lifestyle even if it kills them, the loving thing is to keep your distance and your door open for them in case they change their mind – NOT to be banging onto THEIR door applying pressure on them to do what you want them to do.

You don’t HAVE TO FORCE people into doing what they WANT TO DO, you have to secure a place for them to do it without it trashing their entire life – if you want to be GOOD for them. NEVER betray their trust in this, however, as that’ll kill the last of your chances with that person. Don’t become the person who will cost them EVERYTHING ELSE, particularly not by YOUR decision on THEIR behalf.

In case the rejection IS about some taboo or secret

If there is a real reason to believe that this person is rejecting you because they don’t want to admit to loving you for some reason, you have to understand what that reason might be. So, the fear of, for instance, being labeled gay, comes from the fear of being rejected or ostracised by other people. In the case of bisexuals, it’s the fear of losing the love of one lover in favor of gaining the love of another. For instance, a man might not want to admit to bisexual feelings to a woman if he fears her love for him would vanish if she knew he was part gay. Therefore, he needs to know this woman would keep loving them and caring for them regardless of him being bisexual.

So, the question is, what do they fear losing if the truth came out? Whose rejection they fear more than losing you? IS there anyone like that, or are you simply making things up because you WISH what you wish for to be true?

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