Forcing things, going with the flow; measured use of force and effort

You know how spiritual people tell you to not to force things? To go with the flow, right? Then, there are people who ABSOLUTELY believe that forcing things into being is the very ONLY way to go about it. They get results – or so they claim. The right way, as per usual, is somewhere in between.

There are situations where you must use a level of force and effort to make things happen. I like to use a balance of “flow” and “force” in everything I do. I don’t like to WASTE energy on things that won’t happen. To me, there seems to be a certain “knowing” when it’s worth the push and when it isn’t. I think it is an important skill and sense to have in life.

I know there are a lot of people who will WASTE THEIR LIVES pushing for something that they will never have. The opposite mistake to do is to go with the flow so much that you wind up in a random place in life, somewhere where you TRULY didn’t intend to wind up in, because you had too much trust in the Universe to deliver you where you wanted to go. If it was all automatic, it would be boring, OK? Sure, you’ll find a place where you are WANTED or WELCOME, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that’s where you want to be.

Use force to get where you want in life, and try not to break too many things on the way

The thing is, going with the flow will always get you SOMEWHERE, that’s for sure. You’ll find yourself where you are wanted, as I said. However, to get where YOU want to be, using force and effort is needed, but pushing open doors that are securely locked from you is energy wasted.

Let me use a metaphor along with the explanation to see if I could make a point clear. You have a sturdy door that opens one way. It has no handle, and you have no key, but it is a door. You’re not SUPPOSED TO enter the door, but you want to, because you think what is on the other side is good for you. You push and push and push, wasting a lot of energy and time in your pursuit. The other alternative is that you get through, but you break the door in the process. You may not really care about the poor door, but the door does.

Let’s assume the door is a homosexual who you have decided to “realign” to heterosexuality “for his own good”. You may manage to get through to him, but you’ll break him/her in the process. You got the results, yes, but you broke him (or her) in the process. Being too proud about succeeding, you may not notice the damage you did, but those who see your handiwork realize what you did was nothing but damage.

Just because “the Universe” tries to push you toward something, doesn’t mean it’s right

I know I say the Universe is perfect, and it is. However, what is in the Universe is a complicated push and pull of different things, and there seems not to be any steady fast “apply to everything for great results” rules for it in existence. The active parts of the Universe are conscious beings “DOING” things… consciously. Part of the “get everything you want” gimmicks is that you can’t always get what you want from other people, as then, the things you got would be false.

Let me clarify.

NOBODY wants love to ALWAYS respond to you positively when you want it. Even if you now think that it would be GREAT if you could just snap your fingers and have people fall in love with you straight away, you don’t want that. You really don’t. You certainly don’t want EVERYBODY to have that same kind of power. To most of us, love is meaningful partly because it is not automatic or certain, or obvious. PARTLY. PARTLY. Not only because it is not certain, but partly.

If we always got what we wanted, 100% of the time, (which we do simply because we DON’T want everything easily or without effort,) we would be BORED with life in about one lifetime. It’s just that we have an eternity to spend, and this means a little pushback is absolutely necessary for anything to remain interesting.

Even people who are addicted to the notion they always have to get what they want, are truly attracted TO THE FORCE they need to employ to get the results. IF it was easy, they wouldn’t be so obsessed with getting their way. They feel good because they HAD TO FORCE IT.

Even though some people will lose their interest in you when they get you too easy, you can’t be a complete pushover

OK, another example. Sometimes, you have to push back with the same force someone is trying to change your mind for you.

In my mind, a great example is a bunch of very willful bisexual women who truly don’t seem to be able to comprehend the notion of a heterosexual female. They’ve used every trick in the book to get their way, from insisting they love me to manipulation and force, blackmail, demand, guilt trips, bribery, using hostages, whatever, (I’ll explain this someday). I cannot give them what they want because I have only two options to choose from: allow myself to be raped or… Not.

I choose not.

(Not fighting back still results in you feeling you got raped, doesn’t it? Not putting up a fight means you CHOOSE and ALLOW a rape to happen, and if you never even say NO, you didn’t even allow your rapist the OPTION to back off… And that leads to situations where you were raped by a non-rapist who had no intention to rape you, which is a trick and a half to do… And you’ll have nobody to blame but yourself.)

You cannot allow things to go too far from your way, or you’ll allow yourself to be damaged… Even by people who didn’t intend to, if you’re ENTIRELY too soft.

Head-to-head

Us Earthlings love a good competition. We love to go head-to-head sometimes and see who comes up top. We LOVE a good rough and tumble. If you always choose to go with the flow, you miss out on a good freaking showdown every once and a while! You’ll miss your OWN showdown!

Some of us are very dominant, some of us are quite calm until someone tries to dominate us. I am one of those people. I’ll leave you the heck alone until you come begging for it by trying to push your will on me. There is never going to be a time when I’ll go down without a fight. But this is what I’m telling you: If I don’t want you to do something to me, I’ll fight until YOUR DEATH if I need to. If you manage to take me down, you’ve effin’ earned it.

Do you know what is the hardest thing to fight? Entitled stupid. Those people somehow manage to always get up the top, and usually, you’ll run out of time before you take down someone whose illogic always arrives at the conclusion that they had every right. “Well, I don’t understand how, I can’t explain to you how, but I know I’m entitled to hurt you.” If you manage to inform them that their actions are hurtful to you, they insist they are hurting too, because they can’t have their way and that’s extremely insulting to their ego and sense of The Order and that makes you a hypocrite.

See where you’re at. Find a route to where you want to be

NOBODY is entitled to order you to your place if that place isn’t where you’re willing to sit. If you want something different, it is for you to have… As long as it’s not a conscious being (person) who GENUINELY doesn’t want you. It’s yours as long as it is not a person and you can go grab it from someone who also wants it.

You’ll always find the thing you want though. The reason how I can promise you this, is that you’re going after a FEELING, not really A THING or even a person. You’re going after the FEELING something or someone gives you. And I promise it’s always best when the perfect person wants you back, too, compared to the perfect person just going along with you for the time being because you’re so pushy you’re easy. You’ll find the perfect feeling, the BEST feeling, eventually, and then that best feeling wants you, too! Eek. You’ll get there, because you have an eternity to fuck things up.

Oh, and a real eternity to learn and fix your fuck ups.

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