Forgiveness, loyalty, and being a good person.

There are many rules in relationships that some people consider to be toys. While I have no issues with it, per se, it’s good for everyone to know this is the case. Some people LOVE playing with each other’s feelings, some people hate it with everything they’ve got. Some of us can learn to enjoy it – or at least see the merit in it.

The trouble is, that if you’re not playing with your partner’s or friends’ emotions, but they are; you are playing the same game with a different rule book, and that’s certainly not fun for you. The player may feel they get to do anything with you and you’re always forgiving them when you don’t even notice what they’re doing – until you do. They assume you’re watching what they’re doing, and you’re watching for the game of it, but if your thing is to TRUST your partner, if you feel “there’s nothing in a relationship if there’s no trust” you will let them do things without checking up on them – because to you, the fact you DON’T HAVE TO check up on them is the wow-feeling.

Whatever kind of relationship you’ve got, and whatever the game may be, you have to look out for yourself. You have to be aware that different people do relationships with different rules, and where one person is serious when they say things, another is simply playing a game – for the amusement of both of you, they think. “Frenemies” is an example of these games, where the objective is to simply experience dramatic manufactured feelings in the absence of real ones, the way I see it.

And as sanctimonious this may feel, I have decided that MY game is about REAL feelings; I will no longer put my own real feelings aside for the sake of YOUR appearances or your sense of comfort, appearances, self-image, and entitlements – that’ll be the game I play. I’ll show you your reality. Just saying.

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