As an individualist, you value free will above anything else in this Universe. Therefore, concepts like True Emotion Mirrors or soulmates (where you cannot choose who you love and you are bound to one individual that you didn’t exactly choose but was chosen for you) and the idea of someone being able to control your mind even to an extent will make you very uncomfortable, doesn’t it? (Some people love this idea of mind control because they always see themselves in the position of the person who controls, not the one who is being controlled.) True love is not, however, controlled by an external force or by an unbreakable bond between two people; it is a lot more complicated than that, and something that safety-driven people wish they could control easier… Hence a lot of over-simplified variations of true love, such as “commitment” and “marriage” exist. 😉 Free will is the most precious law in this Universe, however, it does come with the fact that other souls have the freedom to attempt and control anyone they like… Or love.

Your personality is locked from “unauthorized access”

So what happens is this: Destination Soulmates are so closely attuned in their energy, that they are already preconditioned to understand each other on a telepathic level without even trying. When they tune to your frequency, which they do very easily, they can access parts of you that you would never allow someone else to come near. With the love that they feel for you and the love that you accept, they have an access to your “programming” that you have given the admin rights to do with as you please if you allow a nerdy analogy. (There is very little about spirituality that cannot be explained through a tech metaphor.) These people, that you love more than anyone else in this world, have the programmer’s rights to do with your mind anything they wish – including agreeing to who is the master programmer and who is the hired help – because the same way as them, you have an access to their programming, and you modify each other’s coding until there is a conflict (usually only mild) that the master programmer can override if needed. (Most often) Your “emotional settings” are ALWAYS protecting your free will, however, and the final say is with you if you have a clear “access denied” setting somewhere, that is so important to you that you will never allow anyone to change about you. That setting may even be an agreement between yourself and your True Emotion Mirrors , such as; “no matter what, you will not turn bisexual because that will ruin our fun”.

Because your personality is a precious thing, such things as schooling, teaching, your upbringing and your girlfriend’s or boyfriend’s training only has as much of an effect as what your “programmer access settings” allow for “public access”. The rest is accessible only for those you have given an access to in this lifetime or another. (Unfortunately, you might have not always made the smartest of decisions in your previous lifetimes.)

Mind-melting love

In practicality, when you are with your True Emotion Mirror, they will have an idea about something in their mind, and no matter what you have thought about the actual action before, the idea that they hold in their mind is likely to resonate with you in such a way that you can see yourself doing something that you’d never thought you’d even consider. Sometimes True Emotion Mirrors freak out about this because they feel like they are losing control with their True Emotion Mirror, but in reality, they are simply seeing a new perspective to something they thought they’d made up their mind about.

Let’s  think one night stands, for example, or sleeping with someone on the first date (or meeting). You might have decided a long time ago, that you will NEVER have a one night stand. That is simply not the kind of a person you are. In comes your True Emotion Mirror, who is more than accustomed to one night stands. To them, one night stands are fun and playful, and they feel a connection to a new person that they feel they can hold while they’re both looking for True Love, knowing full well, that the next person they sleep with next MAYBE their True Love. To you, those two things don’t go together because that is what you have been taught. “If you sleep with someone on the first date, they only want that one thing and then it’s done.” In their mind, however, that is not at all the case, if someone won’t sleep with you the first night you’re together, it means they are not sexually attracted to you and as that is the case, they are will not interested in sharing their lives with them (or they feel the No Sex On First Date -person just wants to keep them as a backup plan in case they get nobody else and train them that “sex is not happening in this relationship”) so they feel 100% rejected (turned down) or used, and will never be seen again. However, you might feel like they are THIS CLOSE to talking you into sleeping with them, and you feel manipulated, and at this stage people make a judgement call; to trust the instinctive knowledge that this is not the same thing you’ve accustomed to or were warned about but that this is the beginning of a love story, or do you talk yourself out of it because you are being taken for a fool… Can be the life and death to your True Emotion Mirror connection, depending on which stage it is on at the time of your meeting.

Your True Love will show you appreciation for things you never knew how to love

In a relationship with a True Emotion Mirror, you are BOUND TO learn A LOT of new things and find appreciation for things you have never thought about. This is because you both value the same things and you automatically talk to each other in the way that speaks to the other person on a level that another person could not tweak to. (Of course this is not to say that other people cannot teach you new stuff and that if you learn something from somewhere they are automatically a True Emotion Mirror, but that True Emotion Mirrors ALWAYS teach each other new tricks when they are in an actual relationship with each other by simply talking about the stuff they love with the exact right words to make sense to and resonate deeply with the other. For instance, something as innocent as a good suit. Your True Emotion Mirror might have been dating a tailor at some stage, and they’ve picked up an appreciation towards a well-tailored suit, and, as a result, they look at your suit, shriek in horror and demand you to, at once, get yourself a great suit – and as they talk about the suits, you start seeing them in a different light, as a form of art and high culture and tradition, rather than the monkey suit you thought of them as before as you begrudgingly wore one. When a Trail Companion* would demand you to wear a suit so you don’t embarrass them, a True Emotion Mirror would want to pamper you with a good suit because you deserve nothing but the best.)

This process is natural between True Emotion Mirrors , they become more alike as time moves on. In the next life, they are already well adjusted to each other and each other’s ways, that are their own ways as much as each others and they feel instantly comfortable with each other – even if the rational mind does it’s best to screw things up for them both and often succeeds, too…

The True Emotion Mirror relationship is always based on free will and authentic love

As a former True Emotion Mirror (soulmate) coach, I know a lot of people who abuse the True Emotion Mirror theory to use it as a weapon to coerce an unwilling partner to a relationship with them, because THEY see True Emotion Mirror signs and what not. A real connection should NEVER feel like something you agree to do reluctantly “if you must”, but it is something that you do not even dare to THINK something as good as that might be available to you. No matter what you wish a perfect relationship is like (perverted sexual fantasies included) the True Emotion Mirror is the one who has the same fantasies from the other perspective. (If you want a sub, your True Emotion Mirror is submissive etc.) You will NEVER have to compromise with a True Emotion Mirror – by the very definition of the term. If you feel like you have to compromise, that person is not your True Emotion Mirror but a dirty, sly imposter and you should run like the wind.

If it, however, feels too good to be true… It probably is TRUE. (False soulmates feel a sense of ownership like you were a car to them, and they do not see the true human value of this person. A True Emotion Mirror could hardly believe their luck that they might be the one you’d choose for a lifetime… if you dared to hope.)

(There is plenty of ways to misinterpret True Emotion Mirror or soulmate information, for instance, I was writing here “they are someone who you just HAVE TO have…” and realize that might sound like: you are forced to accept them because this is your…. rather than you are so in love with them that you simply HAVE TO have them, if you dared to even touch them…  It is also not an obsession, it is simply a state of undying love. None of that stuff should be allowed to sneak into True Emotion Mirror / True Emotion Mirror / soulmate advice let alone it’s interpretation.)

If you feel you are being forced or coerced into a relationship, no matter how old you are, no matter how unlikely it is that you will ever give your parents grandchildren if you wait another year or two… Just don’t. 😀 Not for that reason alone.

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