From Cot to Grave as the Survivalist* or a Idealists*

Both the Survivalist* and the Idealists* were born the way they are. The way they conduct themselves from there on is determined by their inherent type. Parenting has nothing to do with how the child develops toward the positive, but unfortunately, if the child develops to the negative, that has bad parenting written all over it. (In other words, you are justified in blaming your parents for your failures but you cannot take the credit of your child’s achievements, only for not stifling them.) However, this is not about parenting, but the way the individual operates despite their parent.

Child

As a child, the Idealists* is a dreamer. In fact, the Idealists* is a dreamer their whole life, but they are definitely openly a dreamer as a child. (A parent can certainly force them to not express those dreams by treating the expression of them with disproval or insensitively otherwise.) An the Idealists* child is preoccupied with their dreams for their future, once they grow up, what they’ll be once they grow up, developing a value system, and solidifying their own personal belief system.

As a child, the Survivalist* is much more focussed on their parent and emulating their parent in everything possible. They follow namely their same-gender parent around and try to learn how to become that. An the Idealists* child does this far less if at all. If a Idealists* child wants to learn from their parent, it’s more a coincidental interest in the same things, rather than a need to become “like dad” or “like mom”.

An the Idealists* has a stronger will than the Survivalist*, and they rarely ask for their parents for help. In fact, they may be quite militant about wanting to do everything themselves, learn new things, and the like, while the Survivalist* wants to learn from the parent or another adult directly.

the Idealists* love stories, movies, and video games, the Survivalist* are much more directed toward learning to do what their mom and dad do. (This may drive a Idealists* parent onto the walls, as they’re trying to work while a child demands education.)

Teen

A Survivalist* child will have a strong teenage rebellion phase. They are testing their parent’s certainty as to what they should do in the future. An the Idealists* child is likely to be either completely aloof toward their family or they conduct themselves very maturely in terms of “getting into trouble” as in, they won’t get into trouble.

A Survivalist* teen can try everything and everything, kind of to find out what they can get away with and what they can’t. If you tell the Survivalist* pre-teen to NOT do something, they’re more than likely going to try and do just that. Then again, if you’re diligent about punishing them, or scolding them, they may do everything that you didn’t specifically tell them not to do in order to get onto your nerves as much as possible.

A teen the Survivalist* is testing how much you love them, and how to deal with you in the future, as they do intend to stick around. An the Idealists* is preparing for a life outside home town – the world’s their oyster – therefore, their interaction with the locals is not important to them at all.

A teen the Survivalist* is very prone to peer-pressure and they are likely to change everything based on the current fashion trends, the current hot recording artist, they feel “but everyone else has one” is a perfectly valid reason for them to have something or do something. “I MUST have that” is their motto. An the Idealists* doesn’t really care about must-have items, and rarely argues with their parent about material stuff they should buy him or her. An the Idealists* kid will go to school wearing a blanket if their parents feel it’s too expensive to buy him or her clothes. A Survivalist* would die in shame if they don’t get the latest gadget that “everyone else has”.

A Survivalist* teen is easily embarrassed by their parent’s behavior, but a Idealists* teen doesn’t take ownership of their parent’s bad behavior or other flaws. To them, the parents are a completely separate unit, but to the Survivalist* teen, the parents are an extension of their own image.

A young adult (single)

A young the Survivalist* adult will demonstrate “single behavior” to those around them. They want to ensure others know they are “cool”, and that they are “wild”. This is to attract a partner, really, by demonstrating how nobody is calling their shots, but they are their own master, aka. SINGLE SINGLE SINGLE AND LOOKING, PEOPLE!

A young the Idealists* is mild-mannered as always. They may well dress to a subculture, but they’re rarely boisterous in their behavior. They are looking for people who they feel they can be free to be themselves with, but they can be understated in going about it. A young the Idealists* acts pretty spoken for the way it looks like to the Survivalist*, but if they find out they’re single, the Survivalist* may deem them an easy target for a relationship. An the Idealists* young person is often impressed by the Survivalist*e’s boisterous way of being, as they are looking for a liberator, and the Survivalist* fits the bill perfectly.

A young the Idealists* is always looking for permission to be themselves around others. They feel themselves is somewhat offensive to those who believe in the norm, so they are looking for people who like them being the way they are. Therefore, they are drawn to the people who are most boisterous, but they truly should be looking to connect with those who are understated like themselves.

As time goes on, the Idealists* give themselves more and more freedom.

A young adult (dating)

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