Gender transitioning (or any other big life choice) is not something you do as a favor to other people.

Transitioning genders can be a nuisance for everyone around you. You’re being a pest, right? The thing is, however, that you have every right to be a pest in this world if your happiness and well-being require it. You are allowed to be difficult, but you are NOT allowed to be difficult ON PURPOSE, just to annoy others. You don’t have the right, nor do you have a responsibility to be disruptive and annoying. In addition, you don’t have to join a cult or a movement like LGBTQ+ or even start a family of your own just to please others. Huge life decisions like choosing a partner, having or not having children, or having a freaking gender-reaffirming surgery are nobody’s business but your own. You are FREE to choose whatever you want and obligated to choose the EASIEST, MOST PLEASURABLE, and HAPPINESS INDUCING WAY FORWARD for you. Whatever that is. We all have the same right to strive for personal happiness, no matter HOW UNCOMFORTABLE or displeased it makes others around us.

THAT SAID, your rights end at deliberately making other people uncomfortable, displeased, unhappy, feeling unappreciated, dumb, or inconsiderate, just so that you can feel like you have an impact. Just to feel like you matter. YOU MATTER, but you will matter more if you make people around you HAPPY rather than just plain NOTICE YOU. It is much more admirable to blend into the background without impact than it is to make others around you wish they never met your bitchy ass.

“Trans community job”

I shudder to think that there are trans people who think “somebody has to do this,” so they volunteer for this “community job” as a favor to other people, which it was never meant to function as. It’s not a favor. It’s a nuisance for EVERYBODY, but you have every right to do that IF YOUR HAPPINESS AND WELLBEING SO DEMANDS. We don’t need clowns or freaks to feel good about ourselves. You don’t have to be one. You have every right to be NORMAL. Just average, and unimpactful. There is no need for you to be a social justice warrior. Leave that to people who actually care. Like myself. I cannot stop talking about things that matter to me. I’m not doing this as a favor to others, either, I’m doing this because MY FUCKING HAPPINESS DEMANDS THAT YOU ALL STOP BEING FUCKING IDIOTS. 😀 I’m calling ALL OF YOU, not just trans folk, idiots, mind you. You’re all god damned morons, and I need you to stop. 😉

Now, to be less of a nuisance to me and other awesome nice people, stop doing shit for other people. Stop trying to fit in and to be a good person when it goes against your very own happiness. I know there are real trans people out there, and I feel… Terrible for anyone who doesn’t feel right in their own gender, but PLEASE do feel the RIGHT to the body you were given. It is YOURS, and YOU decide how you do male or female; you don’t have to ask permission for it or a diagnosis on how masculine or feminine you need to be to pass for male or female. You’ll ALWAYS pass for your own birth gender, no matter HOW freaking weird you are, yes? The difficult part is to pass for the opposite, isn’t it?

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