Hiding your feelings works, people!

We all hide some of our feelings. Guaranteed. It takes years, if not lifetimes, to practice not to. We hide our fear, sadness, love, desire, hopes, dreams, romanticism, naivety, stupidity, insecurity, dislike, like, guilt, feeling abandoned and worthless, emotional pain… Lots and lots of different things. We pretend people don’t matter to us as much as they do. We pretend we’re not in love with a person, or admire another. We put our egos in front of truth and authenticity. We fake being brave and unaffected. We fake friendship. Sometimes, we do this with a deliberate attempt to deceive with malicious intent, but usually, we do this to save our false ego.

Not only that, we don’t want to feel another person’s pain sometimes. Sometimes, people hide their pain, so we become oblivious to it. There are people who cause the same pain in a lot of people because the same pain has been hidden from them always – as sometimes people are very predictable; men don’t let a beautiful woman know how much power she has over his emotions, nor do women let handsome men know how much they mean to us. People hide less from average-looking men and women, I am certain of it. They think average-looking people need love and admiration more than beautiful people do, so they’re less scared of rejection.

The downside to this is, that if you pretend you are unaffected by someone or something, they’ll believe you. If you spend a lifetime trying to prove to your beautiful daughter that the world doesn’t revolve around her navel, don’t be surprised when she acts like you authentically don’t care about her and what she’s doing with her life, and she lives her life for herself alone. If you want to make a man aware that his opinion doesn’t matter, don’t be surprised when he feels free to say whatever pops into his head without a filter. If you pretend that someone’s actions against you do not cause you pain, don’t be surprised if they feel the need to find out why they are so worthless to you by trying to cause you more pain.

The thing is, there are people who don’t matter to us. There are people whose opinion doesn’t count to us. People who we dislike, all of the above. We know we have rejected people for real, we have left people we don’t love, so when someone does that to us, we are prone to accepting that what I’ve done to others is now being done to me, and that’s all there is to it. If you pretend you don’t care, DO NOT BLAME THE OTHER PERSON FOR BELIEVING YOU. Give you another thing to consider: A person who acts like they don’t care about you MAY NOT BE PRETENDING (anymore). Feelings change. A person who loved you once as the best person in the world may meet another person they love even more… And may not be pretending.

NEVER hide your feelings from a person who you love. It’s the DUMBEST FUCKING SHITTY THING YOU CAN DO TO YOURSELF. Worst plan in the world. It is NOT OBVIOUS you love someone, no matter how much you think it shows. It isn’t. People are usually more than open to believing others don’t care about them. It is much harder to make someone aware that they matter to you… (as a person rather than just someone rich, handsome, good-gened powerful and well-mannered husband candidate.)

Don’t blame others for not understanding the feelings you are deliberately hiding from them. And understand that no matter who you are, mom, dad, sibling… You are replaceable. People WILL move on.

Read on: What to do with people who are hiding feelings from you, but still hang onto you in spirit demanding you show yours.

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