In reality, we get turned on by all the wrong people. Respecting and loving someone is a tricky thing when our natural feelings of respect and love are attached to people who society tells us not to respect nor love, or even look at as a human being, let alone someone you should respect… Then again… You might want to fuck someone you truly respect, but don’t know how!

Sex and respect have a funny relationship. They do not seem to get along too well. There is a reason why this combination is such a difficult one, and it has nothing to do with men and their attitudes again, but have everything to do with the attitudes of women.

I believe that most people are polygamousORpolygynandrous by nature. This doesn’t mean promisquous, but in need of holding very close relationships to more than one person at a time – it makes perfect sense in so many ways, survival and security being one of the obvious reasons; if one partner dies, there won’t be a widower. I also believe the polygroups should be rather large, so that there is a mix of ages in each group. I also believe that most women are polygynous and most men are polyandrous, and what this means in practise is that most women want to have the one and the same guy and most men want to fuck just that one girl that is “every guy’s type”, and everyone who can’t get it on with the top dog or the top cat, will have to have sex with someone with whom sex is a bit of a nuisance.

And now we are getting to the actual topic: Because women don’t really like men that much, they admire women who do not let men touch them. As women want to impress other women, their self-acceptance and respect of other women is directly tied to their refusal of men. Men operate much the same way; to not let a woman walk all over them is their natural instinct, albeit culturally sifted to a form of pride taken for how much shit a guy can take from his wife before bailing on her. All of this works great for the average woman, but not so great for the girls who these men actually do feel authentic, effortless respect for; The women who have NO ISSUES with sexuality, their desire for men, their openness about it and so forth, the women who do not see themselves as untouchable holy mothers-to-be, something that a lot of men find utterly infuriating about women; the woman all guys want is the centric of a polyandrous unit, the same as the guy all girls want is the centric figure of a polygynous unit.

Polygynous women have hard time respecting polyandrous men, and vice versa… But that is what we have all gotten used to, and once we meet The One…

We arrive to the question of how to fuck someone you respect…

First, you have to ask yourself whether you respect this woman as a person or as your lover. For instance, if your respect for her is akin to the feelings  you feel for your beloved mother or your sister, should you have either, then probably there’s not going to be much fucking going on in there. However, if your respect for this woman comes in the form of knowing how she loves sex, how she loves men, how her self-respect is not tied to sexual purity or her ability to push men away, then your chances of being able to fuck someone you respect are getting a lot higher.

What will stand in your way though, is that for the first time you feel authentic respect for a woman, and you don’t know how to deal with it. You are used to fucking women you don’t respect, and that act is directly connected to hate and dislike and disrespect, even loathing of the woman at times, and you really don’t care about her as a person, and using her as your cum bucket doesn’t give you emotional qualms of any kind… Or at least that many of them, and you have learned to connect those feelings to women you don’t like, want, or care about… But now… There’s someone who you really truly respect and the last thing you want to do is to treat her the same as the women you normally fuck like there was no tomorrow (because you really don’t care if there is a tomorrow with this one or not).

The unfortunate thing is, that you will have to fall in love with this woman before you can truly fuck her, and the other way to express that is that you will have to learn to forget about labels and trust your instincts fully. To not think about what it is called but to focus on how it feels. To forget about whether you love her, respect her, want to marry her or for her to have your children… (Argh) All of that should fly out of your head and you should simply go with the flow. Then you will worry about coming too soon because you actually want to make her feel good, but you are afraid that she won’t enjoy it if you just go with the flow, aka. think about yourself and your own pleasure… But you have to trust it. The less words are spoken, the better.

You have also been taught not to respect a girl who sleeps with a lot of men. You’ve been taught to mistrust her because she is only using you or what not, but… What if all of these warnings were just a way to make you conform into a traditional marriage with a woman who kind of tolerates you? Are you allowed to get turned on by the fact there are other men in this girl’s life? Are you still allowed to respect her if you knew 24 hours from now, she’s going to have another guy balls deep in her? If you are this type a guy, and most guys are… Your blood pressure is rising right now – in the good way.

“If men didn’t love bad girls as much as they do,
they wouldn’t need to be constantly reminded that they do not.”
Jenni

Similarly, women have been taught not to love or trust a guy who has a lot of women. In reality, a lot of women are turned on by the very idea of this guy being popular with women. Sometimes women and men are turned on by the fact someone has a lot of sex, and they simply want a part of that action, like magic dust would fall on them in their close vicinity and stuff would start happening for them as well.

The permission to feel what you truly feel

You know exactly what you should be feeling for women. You know how you SHOULD react. But that’s like telling the wind that excuse me, wind, today the weather broadcaster said you’d blow from a different direction and I need you to comply.

No, it is stupid to tell people to feel a certain way about things. They can try, and we sure as hell do try, every single one of us, but we fail.

A feeling is a natural reaction to something that is happening around us. Feeling guilty is a natural reaction to the experience of being constantly told that This is right, and this is wrong and what you should be doing is right – and then believing it, too. Guilt and shame are feelings that are linked to the inability or unwillingness to function as expected. 

You shouldn’t want to fuck someone who you truly respect…

Hahah. Feel again.

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