How do you appreciate true love if that’s all you’ve ever known?

At 17, I wrote in my diary: “What would be so special about true love if it was easy to find.” That was the thought of a young woman who hadn’t found true love yet. The inexperience of it. The answer is “everything!” Everything is special about true love, and the difficulty of finding it is the explanation only for those who haven’t experienced it from an early age.

What is more accurate is that if you find love easily and early, you won’t understand those people who don’t have their people there. You wouldn’t be a good coach, you would suck as a psychologist; you couldn’t give appropriate life advice if you didn’t know what it feels like to NOT LOVE. You’d cast anyone who struggles to feel love toward anyone in their life as a psychopath. If you’re poised to be any kind of a life coach or a psychologist, you HAVE TO KNOW how it feels to NOT LOVE.

I don’t think we need to wait to find our First Tier people in order for OURSELVES to appreciate it, but we’ll learn to feel empathy for those who have not found their true lovers and friends yet. We’ll find more compassion toward them; we’ll understand how and why they are unable to find happiness with another person.

If we find our precious people right from the get-go, we may be fooled into thinking we’re somehow especially capable of loving; better people than others. We’re not. Everybody is capable of feeling love toward people they find lovable. People are INCAPABLE of not loving people whom they find lovable; that’s the thing. To feel love is about as skilled as seeing color – you don’t create color in your eyes; you simply sense its existence. To feel love requires 0 skill or “goodness” of character.

Your separation from your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates has a meaning, but it isn’t to teach you to appreciate them when you find them; you would, anyway. It’s SAFE FOR YOU to meet them at 17 and keep going. However, you won’t have much sympathy toward those who didn’t. True love is valuable and worthy regardless of how easily or early you found it; that’s the magic of it… But there is a reason for your separation, anyway… You just have to figure out what it is. (One good popular reason is this: You don’t know how to handle it yet, and you want to learn to without causing damage to the connection and do so from a safe distance.)

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