How do you get into the inner circle? What do you need to be or do?

So, ‘the inner circle’ of cool people, celebrities, whoever, and how to get into them differs from the Normal Person* and the Savants*. If the inner circle is Cat Type Thinking*, the Savants* knows what it takes to get in – but the center of the circle may not realize they are in the position of giving the invite, to be fair.

the Normal Person* have a different procedure. You beg for attention; you fight for attention; you belittle and attack them for attention; you manage to arouse a discussion or a fight; you solve the issues, and bang, you’re in. However, the more you fight a Savants*, the harder and thicker they’ll build their walls to keep you out.

An Savant* may allow you in their home, you may even sleep in their bed with you, and STILL, you may not be in the inner circle where, while someone who lives on the opposite side of the world to them and is only an online friend they’ve never met in person might be. What does it? Intellectual connection. Sharing ideas. Being mutually intellectually uplifting. (In any field of intellectualism.)

Because getting into the inner circle is difficult to understand only when a Savants* has shut their doors from the Normal Person*, I’ll focus on that dynamic.

I can tell you exactly how to get into a Cat Type Thinking* inner circle, but it won’t help you AT ALL.

The thing about the Savants* is that they are very difficult to manipulate to loving you. They will be easily manipulated into accepting your presence, allowing you into their lives, and making you a part of their daily routine. STILL, you will be treated as an outsider. Plus… Even if you were in their inner circle, they wouldn’t pay you money for loyalty, only for your work. The Savants* don’t pay for friendship or love. They’d be offended at the mere thought, so offended in fact they’ll pay you to fuck off if you ask them to.

Making a Savants* love you is not… Even possible as a decision: “I want to make them love me.” You can’t. You simply won’t be able to. Either they do or they don’t. They’ll TRY to love you; you can make them decide to TRY to love you, but they won’t. They’ve never managed to coax those feelings out of themselves for someone they don’t already love… Not one of them, ever. Not if you were their mother or father, sister or brother, and they had an issue with you as a person, there’s nothing you can do about it. You will have 0 impact on that, and I can tell you why – and you won’t listen or believe me, I know.

These are not OPTIONAL; all conditions must be met unless otherwise stated:

• You need to be interested in the same stuff as they are. You had to develop the same interests as they had before you even knew they existed, and you need to be able to prove this. If you develop an interest to their stuff after meeting them, you’ll need to be able to ADD TO IT by offering your knowledge to help them boost their own experience in the field of their interest.
• You need to be able to make them feel that they are growing as a person as a result of your presence.
• You need to be able to make them laugh, not just laugh at their jokes. Alternatively, you need to be able to make them cry about the same stuff that always made you cry.
• You need to be able to give them accurate philosophical or psychological insights and help them know themselves better, not just receive these services. True Emotion Mirrors exempted, as they do this automatically.
• You need to have gained their respect as an equal intellectual in your field, preferably the same or complimentary to theirs but not necessarily.

To be PERCEIVED as a member of their inner circle is MUCH easier.

If you are satisfied with just being associated with them as typically is true for the Normal Person*, the conditions are a lot less demanding. This means you maybe working very close to them but that doesn’t mean you’re their friend or a true trusted member of the inner circle. They may also CALL YOU a friend, even a best friend, without it being honestly true. Other the Normal Person* will never be aware of this, but every the Savants* will know the difference without any room for confusion.

To get into this circle, and stay there, these are your requirements:

• You must understand that this position is not a fast ticket to everything you ever wanted. It’s going to disappoint you.
• You need to know the Savants* are loyal to intelligence, competence, altruism, high moral values, what another person does for other people, etc BUT the Savants* are NOT loyal to loyalty shown to them. Not at all. I can say this about them because they’d be horrified and appalled you’d even assume that.
• You’ll need to be bold enough to push your way in, and the Savants* must have not yet made a sound decision to not allow your kind to squeeze through the door.
• You’ll need at least a low-requirement job and a nominal reason to be there. The Savants* are not fond of no-function entourages. If you want to be a no-job member of an entourage, you’ll need to be a family member, friend of a family member, or a friend of a girlfriend or a boyfriend. (He or she will allow you to hang around even if they didn’t like you that much. The best deal you can make is to be friend of their brother or a sister – they’ll be protective of their children, and as a friend or boy/girlfriend of one, you’ll be under keen scrutiny the whole time.)
• You must be able to perform this job well enough. An Savant* is not the biggest disciplinarian, however, but even they have their limits.
• You always behave well. ALWAYS. I cannot stress this enough. Exceptions are afforded to the no-job entourage ironically, but begrudgingly, up to a point.
• You do not break laws. (Apart from those that the Savants* is also breaking. Don’t go experimenting what is allowed. It’s allowed for you to NOT break any laws, but you cannot brake more laws than the Savants*, unless they say so. I mean mainly doing drugs, but other laws apply.)
• You never put another person in danger. You fail at this, you’ll fly out this circle like you were a fibre glass spear. You can take personal risks, but you’ll never put another person in danger.
• You cannot be caught lying, spreading rumors, or causing controversy or be the source of gossip spreading.
• You can look like rubbish, you don’t need status, but you do need to adhere to the above rules.
• Being a perceived friend to a Savants* is a non-paying job no matter how rich the Savants* is. DO NOT EXPECT to be paid for being a friend, or paid more than your job contract stipulates “because your loyalty is valued.” Your work might get bonus paid, but your loyalty must be free or a Savants* will think both your loyalty and you are worth less than shit. They will not make you rich. You’ll always depend on their handouts. They will NOT give you a nest egg to live off on for being a friend. Just don’t expect that. They may do this contractually, if you stipulate terms of your employment, but then, perceive yourself as an employee, not as a friend. The Savants* won’t pay you for being a friend, they will call you a gold digger and a false friend, or someone who loved them only for their money if you think this is how it works.

To do-list for the Savants* who wish to put an end to “the bullshit”…

I am a Savants*, so our definition of “bullshit” is just about the same.

• You have to realize that the Normal Person*’s friendship (and familymembership) has a price tag. They are mercenaries. Hired guns. They do not friend for you for free. EVER. They expect you to give them a retirement package for putting up with you all these years, and to give it with gratitude for having been a friend to them. Ironically, they don’t seem to owe you even if they made more money than you.
• You cannot hire people out of pity. NEVER. Pity will turn into regret soon enough.
• You cannot blame yourself for not trusting someone or not liking someone. There’s a reason for both, your gut knows even if your brain does not.
• Learn not to feel guilty for not loving people or not enjoying them near you. There’s nothing wrong with you. Love isn’t meant to be something another person demands of you. Your guilt is the reversed colon that bullshit uses to squeeze in through. ( LOL You’ll remember that, yes?)
• Realize that there are people who deserve to be in the inner circle, who don’t beg for it. You could offer those jobs to people who you instinctively respect, even if they’re not begging for them. The Savants* rarely push their way anywhere, but they do appreciate an invitation.
• Stop pretending people who are not your equals are, or thinking they should be or be treated as if they were. Just take a second to think about people who deserve that honor instead but are not there whining about it.
• Hire the Savants* for every job you can, but remember they will define what you can use them for, the Normal Person* will take on any job that they can be trained to do, the Savants* already do their thing their way – you hire them for their skills, not for their devotion to you.
• Never again hire for devotion. Devotion is toxic in this context, and it comes with a hefty price you don’t want to pay. (I mean this literally. Johnny Depp hired a financial manager for devotion. When Depp didn’t appreciate him enough, he took money from his account as if he’d earned it by now and it was his to take.) The price may also be paid in revenge and selling details of your private life to gossip magazines to compensate for all the devotion that you forgot to pay for  in a timely manner.
• How do you get rid of the Normal Person*? You pay them for their loyalty so far and let them go.

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