How do you know True Love?

This question comes up, obviously. 🙂

The question is, to begin with, do you know how to know THE TRUTH, before you try and see true love? Because, if you can’t face the truth, how on Earth could you even recognize true love if it stared you in the face? If your method of living is blind-sighting yourself from everything unpleasant, how can you tell the difference between what is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen and something fake?

Let’s back up a bit.

Truth is like keeping your house clean

There are people who live their lives avoiding the boring truth of it as a coping method. They blind themselves from everything unpleasant, look the other way, and let ugly, unpleasant truth grow and take root in their lives.

Not all truth is unpleasant, of course, there are truly beautiful things in life, but if you hold onto lies in your life, you’ll stop yourself form allowing TRUE BEAUTY and TRUE LOVE enter your life.

In plain terms, you maybe in a horrible relationship, but because you’re too co-dependent to actually accept that the relationship isn’t working and you need to find another relationship, you just keep excusing the abuse, finding alternate explanations about “a phase” they’re going through, and that “deep down they love you” as if that would make a difference even if it was true. (I mean, if that’s the way they treat their loved one, you wouldn’t want to see them with someone they hate, would you?) As you are wasting time with this person, your true love is out there looking for you. Doesn’t that make you feel awful?

Giving yourself compliments and making yourself promises on behalf of another person

Now… There’s trust, and then there’s plain foolishness.

One bad, bad habit I’ve found people to have is that they give themselves compliments and make themselves promises on behalf of another person. You know:

– You’re going to come fix my roof, won’t you?

– No I don’t think I can do that. I’m too busy, and frankly, I’ve got playing clients for that day.

– Yes, but we’re friends. You can reschedule your customers, can’t you?

– Well, that’s actually pretty inconvenient.

– Yeah but you’d do that for a friend, won’t you?

– I’m not so sure about that.

– But I could really use your help.

– I can see that.

– I’m glad you can. Well, see you later, then.

Then, on the day, you’re surprised this person doesn’t show up to fix your roof. You made yourself think that because he could see why you could use his help, that means he made a promise to be there. Now, you KNOW he didn’t promise such a thing, but you tell yourself that because it feels nicer. What also feels nice is to milk the condolences when someone promised to do something big for you but then won’t show up for the day. Poor you, right? Now, you rile people up to tell this guy off for telling you he’d do something for you and then not showing up, and he’s like… Ummmm… never said such a thing, specifically told her (you) that he ain’t coming.

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