How does an actual True Emotion Mirror talk about their counterpart?

Sometimes, you’re in the position when you have to give love advice to a potential True Emotion Mirror. It might be helpful to know when someone even sounds like a potential True Emotion Mirror, and when your friend is just an ego-ridden rejection/drama junkie.

The only reason why True Emotion Mirrors would ever stay separate is the belief that the other one doesn’t want them, or that they’d be better off without them. True Emotion Mirrors can easily be convinced to believe that they are not wanted back, even though this is NEVER TRUE between actual True Emotion Mirrors. Therefore, as a guide, you have to figure out why the other party thinks your friend doesn’t want them, or why they’d be better off without them.

The only thing you need to do with real True Emotion Mirrors is to convince them both that they both want each other and that they both would be better off with the other in their life.

What a True Emotion Mirror does NOT say.

A True Emotion Mirror CANNOT lie to a trusted friend that they do not love/want the other party. It would be an impossible lie.

A True Emotion Mirror tends not to pretend to be “fine” with the separation by partying too hard. They tend to be rather morose, really. That said, True Emotion Mirrors bring each other a type of peace, they KNOW their time will come, and they can be rather calm and peaceful about their separation. Many True Emotion Mirrors in a separation phase will simply calmly say: “Well, it’s just not time yet.”  True Emotion Mirrors are not desperate about “someone else getting them” for example. They feel rather confident usually: “Oh yes. He married someone. I’m rather peeved, but you know. It’s not like he’s in love with her or anything. He does stupid shit, that’s how men are, sometimes. Sadly for her, there’ll be a divorce I’m afraid.”

True Emotion Mirrors are rather drama-repellent, actually. It’s like others around them want to see drama, but they don’t get caught up in it; “meh, it’ll sort itself.”

The True Emotion Mirror who married another is in denial, but likely not very deeply in it. They’ve made a rational decision to marry because “well, I probably should think of this realistically.” They KNOW they’re married out of convenience, but try to tell themselves it was the right, sensible decision, even when they know better.

True Emotion Mirrors don’t dramatize things.

I’ll repeat the fact that True Emotion Mirrors don’t tend to dramatize their relationship, PARTICULARLY over years and years. For someone to be DRAMATICALLY in love with someone for years on end has got to be something other than a True Emotion Mirror. Just love of drama I think. True Emotion Mirrors know things sort out eventually, and that making a drama out of it won’t help matters along one single bit. They know they have work to do, or they patiently wait for their True Emotion Mirror to finish theirs, it’s like waiting for their husband/wife to come home from the office, nothing more dramatic than that – even if “the office” was a marriage to another woman/man.

In the very beginning of the relationship, True Emotion Mirrors might TRY to dramatize things, yes, we all love a bit of it, but they even find it difficult to do when they really want to.

Are all True Emotion Mirrors telepathic?

To my understanding, no. They may have a connection similar to telepathy, but it is not a given that it is actual telepathy, particularly all the time. Telepathy is a good, strong sign, but the existance of it doesn’t mean the pair is certainly True Emotion Mirrors any more than the lack of it means they’re not. It is just one sign among many others to be taken into consideration, along with twin-sibling -level looks etc.

So what can you do?

You can talk to them both maybe, and try to find out whether the feelings are mutual. It is ALWAYS OK to spill the beans on the other person’s true feelings to the other. NEVER help a True Emotion Mirror to hide their love from the other. The WORST thing you could do to a friend of yours is to help them lie to their counterpart about them not wanting them or not being serious about them. This love is not based on rejection junkie -drama. True Emotion Mirrors want to know they are wanted and welcome, and the only thing keeping them away is believing the opposite. With rejection junkies the attraction is in the rejection – not so with TrEmoRs.

Lots of drama, intensity, and arguing a True Emotion Mirror couple makes not.

True Emotion Mirror relationships are intense and strong, yes. But they are not dramatic. Not even in the middle of drama. They are the eye of the Hurrigane, the world can come apart from around them and they stand in the middle of it peaceful as ever. The intensity is the feeling of connection, love, and togetherness. The intense feeling of belonging. Feeling home with the other. NOT arguing, disagreement, and continual drama.

Is it possible for a True Emotion Mirror to hate their counterpart?

Continually? For years on end? No. Sporadically, in a heat of the moment, they can be VERY ANGRY with each other, but no matter how angry they are at each other, they’ll never HATE each other. They are also continually AWARE of their love for each other. They may TRY to hate each other at times, particularly during times when they believe they’re not wanted back, but it’s very difficult for them to do. It is possible they may build up an ego wall of “I don’t care” for a time, but hating the other is quite impossible for them.

Even in the deepest anger… “I hate you” would never come out of their mouth. If it does, it would have to come with a touch of humor. They may say it, but I’d imagine it to burst into laughter if they’d try to say something so ridiculous to each other. Like trying to convince someone that they just saw aliens outside on the patio.

Do True Emotion Mirrors always confess their love to the other party?

Of course not, but only because they fear the other would laugh, reject them, truly not need to hear it, or that they wouldn’t care… Or that they KNOW without the need to tell them. (While it maybe true that they know, it’s never good to trust that they do, and this is something you as a friend can make them understand; they may not know your friend loves them.)

The one thing you can TRULY do with your True Emotion Mirror friend: Don’t force them to move on.

The biggest thing you can do with a friend who has a True Emotion Mirror is to NOT force them to move on with another person. Don’t assume they’ll have fun sleeping with other people, let alone marrying someone else. IF they are in danger of marrying someone else, maybe try to talk them out of it before it’s too late, rather than support it thinking “moving on” is healthy. It isn’t.

However, you notice a non-TrEmoR to be obsessive. They couldn’t be talked into moving on if their life would depend on it. A True Emotion Mirror can be, but seriously should not be.

If your friend is in love with the drama of rejection and the idea of “only chance of happiness”

Don’t get embroiled in their drama. Show very little interest in your friend’s dramatic love life if you want it to end. Brush conversations aside expressing boredom with the whole topic. “Give it a rest already, you sound like a broken record” is better than “my dear, dear friend, you’re hurting yourself with this, you have GOT TO MOVE ON…!”

Reply obsession-related messages with a bored sentence or two at most, and then change the subject to something related to you. Don’t give this drama your attention if you want your friend to move on from it, or at least waste someone else’s time with it.

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