How I discovered polyandry

The stereotype is that monogamy is the spiritual form of love. I disagree, and so do many other polyamorists. The reason why people reject their polyamorous side is not spiritual, but habitual. We reject it believing we are hurting someone in a polyamorous relationship, whichever form of it you prefer.

I was just as much a monogamist as the next person when I was young. I dreamed of the white wedding and us two against the world and so forth, only, without children. I wanted to focus solely on my guy, not our children.

The first time I thought about it

I was in my 20’s or so, when I first thought about polyrelationships. I was thinking how much easier things would be if one could have more than one boyfriend. Then, I thought that OK, if I would have more than one boyfriend, then he’d want the liberty to have more than one girlfriend, too, and I didn’t like the idea. So, I figured well, best stick to monogamy, then.

Soon after, I met someone who I fell in love with quite hard… And I also met his best friend, who I fell for… Harder. One night, my boyfriend lamented that he might enjoy the idea of sharing me with his best friend who I was already head over heels in love with. Guess what I did..?

Yeah. REJECTED the idea, because I felt that if we would all sleep together, I wouldn’t be able to hide the fact I was more in love with his best friend… So much so that the thought of him touching me would surely make me cry. I knew eventually I’d have to tell him, but I wouldn’t want him to find that out with his pants down.

True Emotion Mirrors

Fast forward a decade and some years, I felt compelled to start digging into spirituality and my subconsciousness for answers to… Everything. Soon after, through spiritual practice, I found, what I, at the time, called “a Twin Flame”… At the height of our union in spirit, we started thinking that OK, if we are two halves of the same exact soul, effectively, our love is a scam. We are two halves of the same, we had no power picking anybody else, did we? We figured you know, even though we would never give this up for anything, as this feeling was the best in the world… It bugged us that truly, nobody else had even a foot to stand on in this game. There was NO POINT in trying to be something better if the end result was already determined…

Two weeks later, we realized he wasn’t on solid ground when it came to my undivided attention. 😉 Two more of our True Emotion Mirrors showed up into our spirit circle, and completely changed what we believed Twin Flames to be…

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