How much attention and company means – and doesn’t.

Unless a person is a complete recluse, we all tend to like attention and easy-to-have relationships. For many of us, even if we would prefer the company of person A, we might choose the company of any person who we can get to easily without the risk of embarrassing ourselves. This is also not true for people who believe that anyone who rejects them is worth more as a friend than those who don’t. The rejection may sometimes even be imagined, and it still works as a positive for “climbers” and a negative for those who don’t feel like they SHOULD NOT NEED TO resort to social climbing to be associated with the A-listers, so to speak. People who wouldn’t want to be a member of a club that would accept them as a member will want to feel rejected – a lot. But MOST PEOPLE, nice people in particular, prefer relationships and friends that they don’t have to fight to have.

The point of this post is; that many people are quite coy in their willingness to give others attention and… compliments. People might underestimate the worth of their own company to another person. We are often coaxed to play hard to get and to pretend indifference, but we notice that it is NICE to get attention from other people, and you feel THEY ARE BEING SELF-CONFIDENT by showing attention to others, NOT the other way around.

For online relationships, you also might not notice how much it means to see you online without talking to a friend… Over and over again. While this doesn’t always matter, it certainly matters when it’s a potential romantic match. If you are romantically interested in someone, you should make an effort to say anything to keep the discussion line open until they learn you’re ALWAYS happy to hear from them. If the person you want talks to you, always respond, unless you’re truly unable to talk, and if you have to go RIGHT NOW; don’t underestimate the value of sending a message to them right when you return. Know that your True Emotion Mirror is very quick to get the message you don’t want to talk to them or hear from them unless they’re quite a bit narcissistic… Or your level of telepathy is through the roof. (Even if you are telepathic, you have to understand we tend to talk ourselves out of believing we truly are and into believing we’re only imagining it.)

Still, where getting attention stops being nice is when it’s pushed on you, and attention is demanded as a return gift, so to speak. There’s a point where you can get too familiar with a person, too soon, but the good news is that for your True Emotion Mirror – you cannot push too hard for them to dislike it. The bad news is that if you get it wrong, and this person is NOT your True Emotion Mirror, you may wind up married to someone who didn’t love you, but accepts the offer simply because they figured you were easy to get.

So what to do? Keep your eyes and ears open, and try to make your best guess. Sorry.

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