How much awareness of your sexuality is fun, and how much of it just spoils the surprise?

There is the problem of consent. It’s all playing it quite safe, even too safe. We should aim for a society that accepts a wound or two in grown-up people rather than trying to molly-coddle everyone into a ball of cotton wool for safe protection at all times.

We kinda like things rough at times, but we don’t all like the same thing. That makes things difficult. I think we should consent to a relationship, have some rough boundaries, and then play within those boundaries. We should also forgive some mistakes when our partner oversteps the boundaries – assuming they are worth forgiveness, that is. As long as they’re worth their own shit – the same with friends. Don’t commit to a lasting relationship; commit to allowing your partner to play within what they believe you’ll enjoy because they enjoy it – if they get it badly wrong, they’re not your True Emotion Mirror, right, and now you know you can safely leave them without fearing missing out on something.

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