How the Young Soul* and the Elder Souls* shame each other (while trying to show love or respect)

the Young Soul* function largely on the feeling of love. The Elder Souls* are far more interested in earning people’s respect. The Young Soul* are very much like small children after attention, where as the Elder Souls* act like young adults trying to prove their capability in this world. The Elder Souls* have the capacity to become Ancient, but their the Young Soul* family members may hold them back for a lot longer than what is needed. Now.

the Young Soul* feel abandonment is the worst way to shame a person. To be not taken care of, treated like an orphan when the parents are still alive. “What did I do to make them leave me? How have I earned this cold neglect? People will think I am a terrible person.” the Elder Souls* cause them this shame by trying to signal: “I have respect for your abilities to take care of yourself.”

the Elder Souls* feel that the biggest shame for an adult person is to be molly-coddled and babied as an adult. Therefore, the Young Soul* trying to show them love will make them feel like they’re saying: “I can see you are not capable. You think too highly of yourself. You’re special needs. I need to take care of you because you, obviously, cannot take care of yourself.” Thus, a Elder Souls* particularly with the Young Soul* parent will always feel diminished and shamed by their parent’s mistrust in their capacities. All the while, the Young Soul* parent is trying to signal two things: “We love you. We are not ashamed of you. We want to take care of you and help you. You can always trust us – but you are not taking care of us! You are ashamed of us. Our way isn’t good enough for you. You need to be kinder to us, we don’t deserve this.”

Misunderstandings

the Elder Souls* need to voice this to the Young Soul*. “I feel shame because you don’t trust my ability to do my own work or to take care of me.” In reality, the Young Soul* parent may feel: “Your work is so important, you carry so much responsibility, that you need and deserve pampering after a hard day in the office.” An the Elder Souls* reacts poorly to the constant attempt to interfere and carry some of their workload, with anger over mistrust and attempts of mollycoddling them like a helpless child. The Young Soul* can often literally destroy the work of the Elder Souls* as the Young Soul* doesn’t understand what the Elder Souls* is trying to achieve sometimes.

When the Elder Souls* attempts to force the Young Soul* to back off by simply yelling at them or trying to explain to them that “look, my work is hard or important…” the Young Soul* feels like “the baby is crying”. They feel their anger comes from the fact the Young Soul* isn’t taking care of the baby inside the capable adult, and the Elder Souls* is trying to signal that. In reality, the Elder Souls* is trying hard to tell the Young Soul* that the baby is long grown up and needs no fussing over, and the Young Soul*’s attempts to do so irritate the adult so much they could explode.

You must voice this out

Whether you are the Elder Souls* or the Young Soul* in this equation, you must voice out the origin of your anger.

If you are the Elder Souls*, you must tell the Young Soul* how you feel; ie. “I am angry because you cause me shame by treating me like a child when I feel I am very capable of taking care of my business/life/family etc.” With the Young Soul*, you must emphasize shame. Anger, they ALWAYS associate with “you’re not carrying YOUR share of MY load”.

If you are the Young Soul*, you must word yourself along these lines: “I am angry with you because you are not carrying your share of my burdens in life.” You’ll snap the Elder Souls* right into place with that one, trust you me. You can also tell a Elder Souls* you feel shame because they’re not taking care of you, but you cannot just yell at them about something random. They will never understand you that way. (It took me 25 years and I WORKED HARD TO GET HERE. Most the Elder Souls* will not have the time or the interest to do what I did. And for me, human psychology and relationship problems is a SPECIAL, PERSONAL interest, and it took me 25 years to get there. Therefore, if your the Elder Souls* isn’t interested in psychology, they’re not going to be solving this in time for them to take care of you until you’re on your death bed. TALK. Use words. The Young Soul* have a TERRIBLE habit of forcing their people to guess what they need.)

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