How the Survivalist* get confused about the True Emotion Mirror connection

First and foremost, to  understand why the Survivalist* are confused about The Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology, you have to know this: the Survivalist* do not have True Emotion Mirrors . Only Clay and the Idealists* can possibly have a True Emotion Mirror. (The Survivalist* would now pout their lip and act as if I just told the Sun to not come up because I don’t want them to feel its heat.) The reason why the Survivalist* cannot possibly have a True Emotion Mirror is that they do not have a defined personality to match to another person. Therefore, the existence of a True Emotion Mirror is not possible for the Survivalist*.

The Survivalist* are able to adapt to anyone’s needs and desires, therefore they CANNOT understand the kind of compatibility that the Idealists* and Clay Thinkers feel for their True Emotion Mirrors . That doesn’t stop them from being fully convinced they know everything there is to know about love and marriage and a real commitment nor does it stop them from ramming their unwanted opinions down the throats of a Idealists*.

Therefore, to know what you are dealing with when one of these people is trying to confuse you and get you to drop your dreams and wishes about your True Emotion Mirror, be aware of the following points of confusion with the Survivalist*. Also, if you ever start teaching these connections to anyone, MAKE SURE you’ve got these points down pat as you may create a lot of damage if you teach the Survivalist* about “eternal soul bonds”, which is music to the Survivalist*’s ears. “I CAN HAVE THE ONE I WANT EVEN THOUGH THEY REJECTED ME AFTER ALL!!!”

1. The Idealists* are POLITE by their natural instinct. In contrast, the Survivalist* are about as subtle and sensitive as a sledgehammer. They may appear fragile, cry easily, and be very emotional, but they are not easy to break. The Idealists* are the opposite. They may seem unbreakable and cold, but they are sensitive and easily hurt emotionally. The Survivalist* WILL NOT understand gentle letdowns or gently phrased instructions in the matters of the heart. They won’t understand any kindly vailed inconvenient truths that you’re trying to tell them. They need a sledgehammer to a sledgehammer approach, and they’ll thank you for making it clear to them.
   They are not easily offended, trust me. An Idealist*, who thinks he’s unbreakable, breaks down in a gentle breeze in comparison to the unshakable the Survivalist*. That is not really bravery or valiance, it’s numbness and simplicity. If you will ever teach or coach or try to break up with the Survivalist*, be blunt, easy to understand, clear in your communication, as I said, they’ll appreciate it. (Do it before you have to be brutally vicious about it as if you keep increasing the breakup heat, they don’t get it, as they can’t see why you couldn’t just tell them you don’t want to hang out anymore if you meant it….)
2. The Survivalist* don’t like focussing on the detail. They have a very selective hearing and they hear exactly what they want to hear unless you make it IMPOSSIBLE for them to misinterpret you, and once you think there s no possible way to misunderstand your message, they’ll still manage. It’s best teachers avoid making anything relating to True Emotion Mirrors or True Emotion Mirrors available for the Survivalist*. The Survivalist* turn into crazy stalkers with no concept of “no” with this information at their disposal. When “God has already married them” or “this bond is unbreakable” is promised to them, you won’t convince them otherwise until someone is dead or in the mental asylum…
3. To the Survivalist*, the biggest sin in the world is to not love everyone. (Political correctness, inclusiveness to the point of everyone being everyone’s best friends.) Therefore, ALL moral rules, all spirituality, all philosophy, all love, to the Survivalist*, must always aim towards more COMMUNAL LOVE, NEVER towards individuals shutting everyone else out of the world in order to focus on each other. This is why they will always assume that a nice person actually DOES love everyone, them included, and everything contradicting that is false or a play of some kind.
4. If you are a True Emotion Mirror to person A, you are not automatically a True Emotion Mirror TO ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS and other people. This is difficult concept for the Survivalist* to understand. They take the True Emotion Mirror title as “Someone (individual) better than others, someone more capable of loving than others”, which, they, as a consequence, assume also means they love EVERYONE like they love their True Emotion Mirror(s). In other words: The Survivalist* think that if you are a true lover of A, there is no reason why you shouldn’t transfer those emotions to them instead.
5. They have a trouble with the idea that The Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology is a RELATIONSHIP description rather than a personality description. There may not be an easy way to explain this to them due to the following:
6. First of all, the Survivalist* thinking relationship goal in all relationships is to fix and perfect whatever they’ve got rather than find someone special. They do not believe in special. They believe in familiar (better the devil you know). Therefore, they take The Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology as a drug prescription rather than a diagnosis.  The Idealists* and Clay Thinkers understand the point better: Whether something is worth fighting for or not. Whether it is real or not. Whether they are fooling themselves or not, and only then, how do they close the gap to their True Emotion Mirror (the only relationship TRULY worth saving for a Idealists*). In contrast, the Survivalist* feel the only point of a relationship theory is to teach you how to fix a broken relationship, and how to know when the relationship is finally fixed. They do not see the point of identifying an existing relationship based on the description (as what it is meant for). They cannot comprehend the use of any theory that they cannot use to force another person into a relationship with them.
7. The Survivalist* do not understand the concept of a permanent break up, therefore they also cannot see a point of identifying relationships to assess whether they’re worth keeping. A break up means “a break” from the relationship, not the end of it (the Idealists* and Clay Thinkers see this as comforting only in the case of the True Emotion Mirror, the Survivalist* want it to mean EACH AND EVERY relationship they’ve got). This means that to some of them, it is logical to accuse their ex-husband or their ex-wife of cheating on them. They can also always view an ex as “deliberately doing something to annoy them” when the ex would have long moved on.
8. The Survivalist* may take ONE sign of a True Emotion Mirror and assume one sign is enough to identify their True Emotion Mirror when the majority of signs should be present in one relationship. Then, once they’ve established ONE SIGN, they use that sign to obligate their target person to demonstrate the rest of the signs: “Because we are/you are a True Emotion Mirror(s), (somewhat akin to a personal Jesus,) that means you have to love me as described here. You have to feel this way, or you have to treat me like so.”
9. The Survivalist* have nearly 0 ability to see another perspective or to be empathically aware of YOUR emotions, situation, needs, or desires. All that they are capable of accessing is their OWN feelings (at the sledgehammer sensitivity level) about whatever is happening in their lives. From THEIR perspective, their emotions are your emotions, they cannot tell the difference between the two. Therefore, if you don’t feel like they do, YOU are in denial about YOUR emotions or don’t know how to feel the right emotions. To fix a relationship, they will try to fix the other, malfunctioning, person. TO them, the only proof they need that you are faulty and in need of serious psychiatric attention is your need to break up a relationship, let alone taking space from your the Survivalist* thinking family. They don’t understand that, at all. They truly think “feeling”, and “belonging to a family” is a skill you can teach.
10. The Survivalist* are not very intelligent. This means they will try and connect things that sound similar to each other. Along the lines of “Apples are red. Apples are healthy.” “A ball is red. A ball is healthy.” They will try and trip you with connections like this. “You said red things are healthy.” Therefore, having a discussion about complex emotional matters that they have no experience of is going to be a long, tedious battle. They will, also, attempt to simplify a complex thing into something they understand better: In spirituality that leads into going from Jesus walking on water in a dream, vision, or as an astral projection to meaning that Jesus walked on water, literally.
11. The Survivalist* have a very different idea of how relationships work to the Idealists* and Clay Thinkers. They don’t understand why having a personality is important. Their idea is “I can pretend to be anything you like me to be”. This means they can look at your True Emotion Mirror (no matter if they’re Johnny Depp) and say “I can be like him”. The Survivalist*, no matter how old they are, thinks that if they have a role model, they can pretend to be just like them, and that should be good enough. They also don’t sweat about the details: “Sure, I’m not worth 400 000 000 dollars, I’m not the star of Pirates of the Caribean, I do not have a complex, broody personality, and I am a female (your mom) – but I can wear my hair just like Johnny Depp! This is not a problem.” Therefore, they cannot understand why you have to have Johnny Depp when you could have your own mom! (I am not exaggerating. Sadly, this is NOT an exaggeration.) Plus, they’ll think you’re crazy having such odd fixations as Johnny Depp’s hair, but they will be willing to accomonate your affliction. (That might be the only difference they really see between themselves and Johnny Depp.) (One way to get rid of the Survivalist* is to take them up on their offer and then start a rigorous training to turn them into Johnny Depp and see how they do. Every morning, compare their face to Johnny and go “let’s see…”)
12. When you are looking for true love, they understand that very differently. To the Survivalist*, “true love” means more or less the same what to the Idealists*/Clay Thinkers mean “lasting love”. They interpret that as “you want ANY lasting love at all”, and that you have pinned your hopes to finding it on a specific individual, Johnny Depp or otherwise. They feel you are fishing further than the Sea, as they are there, ready and willing to give you “true love”, which to them means a person who won’t leave them no matter what. In essence, they confuse true love to be a very irritating case of incurable, chronic rash. To a Clay and the Idealists*, of course, true love means an incredibly deep connection with someone their equal whose personality, needs, desires and sexuality matches with yours perfectly and whom  you cannot ever get enough of. (Or something along those lines.)
13. The Survivalist* thinking idea of a the ultimate romance story is different to the Idealists* thinking relationship goal. To the Survivalist*, the height of romance story is to bring feuding parties back into a harmonious relationship. The bigger the fight, the bigger the pleasure when the fight is over. Therefore, they get excited and throw fuel into the fire whenever someone they care about gets excited about fighting. On top of that, they are equally (or even more so) excited about platonic love as they are of sexual love. This means that if they can cause drama by getting in between two True Emotion Mirrors , whom they care about, they’ll do it just to show how much they care. The Idealists* are looking for The One, a person with whom the relationship goes from 0 to a 100 in a split second and never cools off. They want to find love that will never die, and will never force them into a drama or conflict that would drive them apart for years on end. To the Survivalist* and a good lot of the Clay Thinkers, separation from their loved one is a part of the romance, to a Idealists*, it is something of an annoyance. They TOLERATE it, but they do not think it’s romantic or exciting, but simply how things go sometimes. A Survivalist* may further think that the more you fight with them, the more important they are to you, which is absolute load of crock to most the Idealists*.

I often put the Survivalist* and the Idealists* into a contrast of each other because they are. They’re like cats and dogs, and the Clay Thinkers are caught in the middle. The Clay Thinkers should be more than capable of understanding what I write, even though I am a Idealists* myself.

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