Because the Survivalist* are hard-wired into believing everyone around them speaks in some kind of a code language, when someone is trying to present an unpopular, unpleasant, or unfamiliar idea, or to give them personal feedback that they do not understand why someone would say that, the Survivalist* tend to decide that what was said wasn’t really real at all. It was a dig, a trap, baiting (trolling), or blatant abuse. The more convincing you sound with your arguments, the less they trust you; the Survivalist* thinking is mainly based on inability to think logically, and, of course, it means both men and women alike, but men simply get trained towards logical thinking because they are expected to be logical. The Survivalist* simply think: “Do I trust you” and, they tend to trust you if they understand what it is that you are getting to – but not your logic. If you think in an unfamiliar pattern, they don’t trust you no matter what you say.

the Survivalist* fear smart, logical people who state what they mean, honestly. This is because logic is something they can’t really dispute, and honesty is something they don’t really see the point of, and that makes them feel suspicious, because if they sense someone is a lot smarter than they, they feel they are being HAD, badly. If they cannot follow a conversation, they will revert to: “Oh I must not change my mind on the basis of that, because… Frankly, I don’t know if the argument is valid.” And, worse yet, if the argument seems valid without flaws, they fear that they are being lied to by someone who is really fucking good at lying.

When the Idealists* get confused, they go silent. They retreat with the new information and they mull it over until it makes sense or until they decide they can’t follow the logic and drop it. The Survivalist* do not. They start arguing louder. If a conversation doesn’t make any sense at all, why bother with logic, right? Just be the one who shouts louder! A Survivalist* can also never admit having been wrong or being mistaken because that is when they risk revealing that they can be successfully lied to.

Unfortunately, suspecting that everyone lies, shields you from valuable information

“The liar’s punishment is, not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else.”

George Bernard Shaw

Nothing confuses the Survivalist* as much as an honest person. Because they are always on the lookout for the lie or the deception, they will never truly trust anyone who is being honest with them. The reason is; They can’t FIND the lie. “He is such a good liar!” they say about a man who has never told a word of a lie. If he has told her, that “I am not looking for a wife” she thinks he said: “I am looking for a wife in all of these women I am sleeping with, and I want to find the exact perfect one. Keep trying to impress me, honey, because I am REALLY going out of my way to find a good wife.” When she finally realizes he is not looking for a wife and he is, actually, just sleeping around, she gets a shock of a lifetime. “Oh, he is SUCH A SMOOTH LIAR! I never once thought he was lying to me!” If you’d ask her to recite, word-for-word what he actually said, she would tell you, under oath, that “he said he was looking for a wife and I believed him.” What is worse; not knowing what his game is turns her on; she likes a conundrum.

When the Survivalist* receives criticism, she/he can avoid it all by thinking the other person is simply playing an angle on him. “Oh he’s saying I am not listening to him… I don’t understand his logic, I listen to him plenty. I don’t know what he is saying!” To the Survivalist*, listening to someone talk is simply a physiological process like listening to the birds sing or listening to instrumental music. The words need no meaning. All they listen to is the emotion behind it, but if the emotion matches the message, they can’t decode it. It is like putting it under a bolt and a lock, the message gets lost because there is no encryption key to find. Let me clarify.

I suspect, that men who served in the army in decrypting written messages, may have been reincarnated dyslexic. They are still subconsciously trying to find the hidden message in the text, thus making what is actually written irrelevant and incomprehensible. When they can’t find the decrypted message inside the text, they panic and think they can’t read. Similarly, I think some smart women have, (for a reason I can’t yet put my finger on) learned to be continually decrypting messages, and thus, with a straight talk, they can’t read it. What I do suspect, too, though, is that high-class women who have been shielded from the outside world in courts learned to play the back stabbing game so well they still think it is vital to decrypt every message they ever hear, trying to find who is plotting against who. As men would be more likely to be serving outside the castle, the women would have learned this way of thinking gender typically rather than gender specifically. I, for instance, have no ability to suspect foul play, because my incarnations were spent in the company of knights, philosophers, priests, and scholars – all men.

The objective of the modern parlor game is to never get offended by anything people say. The Idealists*, however, get offended, or they simply think “wow that person is stupid. Better not get close because I don’t like stupid people.” This is why the Survivalist* always try to find the hidden positive message in a negative sentence, but they also have a tendency of believing that nobody would ever really want to hurt them – essentially, they can simply hear what they want to hear because they believe nobody says things straight. It depends on a person whether they think “everyone is rude” or “everyone loves me and wants to be friends with me” as a default interpretation when they can’t crack the code.

the Survivalist* know instantly when you are lying, but they don’t know when you are telling the truth

If you’ve ever tried to lie to your mum, you know what I’m talking about. Here’s the kicker though: Because they are ALWAYS looking for the angle, you might tell them a lie, then they think you’re lying because you don’t want to reveal to them how big of a nerd  you are so they suspect that you lied to them about having not done it to make them think you did something bad – just to wind them up… Or something. The reason why their thinking is complicated is because they don’t know when to stop looking for a lie.

When the Survivalist* arrives to the point where she or he thinks that they’ve got you, they start doubting themselves for perhaps having been gullible after all. “Is this what they WANT me to think, or is this the truth?” And still, they seem not to be able to go into the idea and dissect it: Is it actually even possible for this person to have done what you accuse them of, like… “I’ve been with my husband the week on a holiday. I think he is lying when he says he hasn’t cheated on me.” At what stage should he have performed the act she is afraid he has performed… “Well, I haven’t stayed up all night…”

Don’t kill my fantasy

If a person is so convinced that everything that happens around them is some form of a lie or pretence, they prefer to control that lie by dictating what you can and cannot do around them. If the closest thing to a romance is a play that they direct… To love them means to pretend to love them, to put on a beautiful show they can lull themselves into believing to last.

Anyone who threatens that fantasy must be destroyed.

And… To protect a person they care about from a beautiful lie (such as true love) it may be impossible to stop them from interfering into your relationship – because it is too good to be true to them.

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