How to attract men – the easiest magic bullet in the world

OK, I just hit the roof when I realized there are women in this world who think that you attract a man by dressing up. By demonstrating “you know how to dress”… I am not even going to go into the details of the logic used there, but here’s the ultimate outcome I want to share with you.

IF you want to be what a man wants you to be, IF you want to attract a man to yourself, IF what motivates you in this life is the dream of a man’s love, and you are willing to be what a man wants you to be… Here’s the simplest, the most effective answer ever:

Be as much a bloke as you can be

Men love bloky women. They love easy-going, easy-to-talk-to, down-to-earth women. They love a good bad-ass girl. However. You CAN be a bloke that looks real cute.

So, toss your fucking nail kit if it exists in the hopes some guy would be wooed by it. (No man has ever loved fake nails; a nice french manicure is the best you can do for a man as far as nails go).

Clothing wise

Although NOTHING is required in terms of clothes, there are SOME things that (most) men appreciate, like high stiletto heels, but NEVER if you don’t like wearing them. NEVER assume a man is enough of a dick to want you to be uncomfortable for his sexual gratification.

“Sexy” lingerie makes most men uncomfortable in the worst way rather than turned on, and most men believe all this fashion stuff is for the girl. This is because THEY are certainly not into it so it CAN’T BE for their fun, right? Having said that, many men love garter belts and stockings, go figure. 😀 That’s probably until the rest of your clothes come off, tho. Garter belts are supposed to show you’re into sex, and you’re actively signaling that, but if you don’t LIKE wearing outfits like that, DO NOT! They HATE the feeling you’re being uncomfortable thinking THEY expect this of you. You CERTAINLY won’t make a man fall in love with you by wearing clothing that makes you uncomfortable or feeling weird.

Everything you wear should be worn for SOME OTHER REASON other than “dressing right” for a man or men. It is the biggest fucking faux pax, too, to create a look because you’re going out with a certain style a man, for instance, creating “a rock-chick look” when you’re going out with a rocker. Theeeey haaaate that. Shows effort, but they hate that. If you’re dressing in a way that doesn’t speak to you as a person to impress a guy, you’re not only showing your ignorance but insult the validity of his style and the values they represent.

Therefore. Whatever you do, be as laid back, as blokey as you can honestly be, chill, relax, GOD HONEST an old stained flanel shirt you love is a thousand times sexier and more lovable to a man than some uncomfortable corset you hate wearing. (Unless you love corsets, that is, but never complain being in the dress you chose, if your heels are too high, wear them like a true princess; with a smile on your face without a trace of discomfort.)

Guaranteed.

BIGGEST things men hate

• Elaborate long nails. Fake nails are sometimes fun only. Use nailpolish is OK IF YOU ENJOY IT, but keep it real. Do elaborate nail designs as an art form only, but NOT to attract men. They’re not fucking impressed.
• Caked-on makeup that makes you look like an unfuckable and unloveable porcelain doll. Men like rag dolls.
• More than caked-on makeup, men HATE lipstick… Of ALL KINDS. Lip gloss maybe even worse. Lip balm, good, everything else, save it for PHOTOS ONLY. (They don’t want to lick that shit off your face, trust you me.) Guess why lesbians don’t generally speaking wear makeup? Nobody wants to kiss it, but girls are not shy on informing each other on the fact.

Men love

Women who don’t get upset (angry, ticked off) too easily. Flowing conversations. Sexual, HONEST conversation topics. Non-pretentiousness, being real. Women who know about guy-stuff. If you want to get a man’s respect, work at a hardware store rather than the beauty salon – and you’ll be excused 20-40 extra kilos of body weight, no drama.

Women who don’t treat them like an alien species, but as fellow humans, really. (Same is true in reverse, too, btw.)

And for those of us who love high heels, short skirts, and skipping the chocolate

The KEY to all of this is this: Whatever you love doing is what you love doing, and what you love doing is something that the right men will love you for. I don’t want you to think that you CAN NEVER wear a dress again, or that I put a ban on anything feminine or “uncomfortable”, no. If you like it, men like it. But do not fall into the “I wore this horribly uncomfortable thing for you” trap and expect them to appreciate you for it.

Some will appreciate the girls who look like a movie star, some men will love the girl who looks an inch from a lesbian. 😀 Some men like to play with fashion themselves, and it’ll be those men who appreciate women who do the same (within reason). The trick with fashion is to never over-do it. It has to look like you ENJOY your fashion play, and that you know the inherent language in it. If you don’t, PLEASE don’t pretend to. It’s just not your thing.

Do what’s real about you, the way you WANT TO BE, whatever it is. And even though I will continue going out in high heels (if I will ever bother going out again) and wearing short dresses, trust me, you don’t have to. And, heck, most of the time I’ll be in my holy old slacky dacks (jog pants) anyway.

You Do You. (Try it. Try it. Try it. I dare you.)

The downside

The downside to this is that once you master being every guy’s dream girl, they notice the fact ALL MEN want you. And that means they are not likely to think you’re after HIM, that individual you’re after. Then, you’ll have to also learn how to encourage that guy to believe the feelings are mutual. Men tend to, just like women, go for the next one down, or the one a few steps below of what they wanted, simply to not be too presumptuous with the girl they truly wanted. Hence the more love you get may result to less love expressed.

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