How to avoid True Emotion Mirror -blocking relationships

Most old souls, by experience, believe that the height of true love is immediate, or it won’t turn into love. This is partly true. Curiosity about this person must exist and it must be mutual, or it won’t turn into true love. But you can be curious about someone without it being a Mature State True Emotion Mirror connection – yet. I call them Potential – everything that is needed for a full connection is there, but it hasn’t been actualized yet. You haven’t done the work required to make the connection real.

True Emotion Mirror blockers

Now, on another level, you may be curious about someone, because they have the potential of curing your emotional hurts, or they have the potential to take you fast up toward your best possible way of being. You’ve met someone whose energy is in full alignment with yours, even if this is not a True Emotion Mirror, they are like a fast elevator going up to the level you know you can achieve on your own using stairs, but you just want to hitch a ride. This can be mutually pleasurable, but it can also be VERY ANNOYING sometimes when someone wants a ride and won’t take a no for an answer… Or has taken a ride but won’t learn unless the elevator is IN LOVE WITH THE student, which won’t always happen.

So in those cases, we get a situation where the student is demanding both attention, time, lessons, and romantic or platonic love, often insists on monogamy or priority position, and is both demanding teaching and love but refuses to learn without love. That’s when we are in a bolt-lock karmic bond that is almost impossible to break – because it is impossible for a person of much higher intelligence to fall in love with one with a lower IQ, they can, at best, feel benevolent toward that person… But a younger soul CANNOT give anything back in this equation, not anything a old soul could possibly want. But young souls seem not to understand this. They assume love is just a matter of giving it or denying it, and it’s the fault of the person who REFUSES to love them, when, by their feelings, they should be both able and willing to give AND receive love.

Like needy children stopping mommy or daddy from going on a date

To young souls, everyone is a potential partner, but the reason they don’t fall in love with people who are readily available is fear and mistrust. They trust old souls, who have very little need to lash out at the young souls, and who seem protective and accepting toward everyone. They trust old souls SO MUCH in fact, that when the old souls turn genuinely murderous toward the young soul, the young souls believe “their loyalty and willingness to commit” is being tested. NOT that they are being chased away.

This is why old souls should LEARN to avoid all younger souls for as long as they are in a committed True Emotion Mirror relationship themselves, and have “met their quota”. Once they are confident, that their soup is complete, they can start teaching young souls again. This is so that they will ensure their own happiness doesn’t come into jeopardy for a good deed toward a young soul. Get your oxygen first, then, tend to your children, as the instructions on a plane go.

You should also, boldly and self-confidentially socialize the young souls you take in for guidance. Pick their company for them, and put them in groups you feel is right for their energy. At some stage, they will “thank you” by announcing to you that these people are much more useful to them than you’ve ever been (you asshole) and leave “home”.

If it feels good, it is good

If something feels good to you, it is good FOR YOU. This doesn’t, at all, mean that it is good for you both. Therefore, you have to take the other person’s feelings into account, as all old souls understand. Feelings are not always mutual.

I am almost 100% certain, that whatever one-sided attraction is about, it’s about a big difference in IQ. The smarter a person is, the more attractive they are – to everyone. However, a person with a high IQ cannot love a person with a lower IQ, or, even more certainly, a person with strengths the other is currently interested in. EVERYONE wants to learn to love, therefore a person with a high IQ in all matters love and sexuality is going to be a highly sought after partner. A person with a high IQ in the mathematical sense is not going to be equally popular.

However, the point of this being, that if you both feel curious about the other for ANY reason, and it feels mutually pleasurable to “go there”, go there. See what it’s about. It doesn’t matter what the actual title or name of that soul connection is, as long as you are mutually curious about finding out what it is and how it will work. (The typology is there to mainly help you to understand WHY you don’t want one relationship and why you want another, to give you self-confidence in saying “thanks but not for me, still holding out for someone who can give me that”.)

Do not sell your love for love alone

You may not be starved for love, even if you are starved for a relationship. You may have all the love you can stomach, sexual opportunities, sexual attention and experiences, but you may STILL feel the need of a “real relationship”. This is often how high IQ people feel, like they are starved for a COMPLETE union with someone, so it can fully respond to ALL of a person’s needs at once.

Many people are skeptical this is even possible, yet, an old soul knows it is more than possible – it’s what life is all about, really. Finding those fully satisfying people who can be everything to you at once.

This doesn’t, by any means, mean that incomplete relationships were completely meaningless, but once you find more than one of these fully completing relationships (which seems like a contradiction in itself, but can happen, fully satisfying can come in many flavors), you’ll feel more of a need to cut these mildly or partially satisfying, or even dissatisfying or truly negative connections, that you considered somewhat harmless or even meaningful before, out of your life. With limited time in your hands, why would you want to spend five minutes in a dissatisfying company, when you can fill that timeslot with fully satisfying human connections?

Stop looking for “a relationship”

It is good to know, that young souls often feel starved for love, and old souls are starved for substance, for intellectually and sexually satisfying relationships. Therefore, when looking for RELATIONSHIPS, the young souls understand you’re looking for SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU, when you may be surrounded by offers, with very little intelligence there. This is why you’ll often find love only right after you stop looking for a relationship. The love-starved young souls will leave you alone.

Therefore, stop looking for relationships, and start looking for creative partners, your intellectual counterparts, and your equals in whatever you want. This will change your energy in the right direction, as “love” is not what you’re actually short of.  Sex is also often available in high quantities in a rather satisfying way, but creative equals… They are hard to come by. But… Perhaps you have to put sexuality in there in some clever way, to avoid getting tangled up in NON-sexual creative partnerships, which is also not what you want.

The goal is not to stop looking for what you were looking for all along, but to be more specific. Change vocabulary so that young souls stop believing they can offer you what it is that you are searching for; love. You can buy love in the form of a pet dog, as they are fantastic for it, but… Creative sexual partnerships… That’s another matter.

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