When it comes to True Emotion Mirrors, a delicate balance is needed. If you chase a True Emotion Mirror too strongly, they may think that there is something seriously wrong with you; why would someone as gorgeous as you want someone like your True Emotion Mirror (who has an incredible amount of insecurities, just like anyone, and from their point of view, you are amazing and they are not…) As their insecurities about themselves flair up, they will start thinking you have an agenda that you are running if you are chasing them too strongly, because otherwise, they cannot, quite, trust their luck that they’d be the object of your devotion.

The second most common mistake is to chase and then stop chasing and then chasing again – this tells your True Emotion Mirror that unlike them, you are not really interested in them, all the while as they would die to be with you – but not so bad as they will allow you to simply take them for granted. When you turn the tap on hot, and then turn it cold again, your True Emotion Mirror will easily think that you are interested for a while, maybe because your other guys or girls are not currently there, and then, when they are the best available one, THEN you’re all over them. You’re playing them; making them feel like you are toying with their emotions for the sheer fun of it, when in reality, you are insecure about their feelings for you.

The third most common mistake is to avoid chasing altogether, letting them do all the work, thinking that they should know that you’re interested like they were a mind-reader. Even though telepathy works between you two, it is  not at all given that you both trust this telepathy to be real rather than your imagination, and the last thing either one of you will want to do is to confess that you think the other one is talking to you while you sleep.

Mimic yourself in a normal situation

To figure out how to approach your True Emotion Mirror try to think about how you would normally act and replicate that behavior as closely as you possibly can muster! Also, compare the way that you behave with your True Emotion Mirror to how you’d behave with someone you’re just interested in, and see how that behavior reads: Not interested at all? You think way highly of yourself? Expect too much too soon? Hot one minute, cold the next? You can easily chase a True Emotion Mirror on a run by behaving erratically with them, not interested enough, way too interested (acting crazy), or unreliable, so that they don’t know which way is up.

In my case, my True Spirit  Mirror played the “not interested” card, to which I responded with the hot/cold -approach, trying to figure out what it was that he wanted. He had learned that girls love it when a guy treats them mean to keep them keen, and I just figured he must mean it because he systematically told me that he wasn’t interested. I should have pushed him at that stage, but instead, I tried to figure out why he was always acting so interested otherwise, but as soon as I approached the topic, he slammed the door in my face as if I was selling him maggots.

He also thought I was completely sure of him, and I was, it was just that his behavior was completely opposite to what my instincts told me. He wanted to tell me not to take him for granted, but he overplayed his hand and chased me out completely, as to me, he was a God. In return, when he finally came to me with a tentative approach, I was so peeved with him that I decided to turn the cold shoulder thinking “I’m not making this easy on you” making him coil back as a result.

And no, we’re still not together – I haven’t seen him in 15 years, but he is with me in spirit with burning ears.

If I had behaved like I’d normally behave… Well, I think he still would have chased me out the door, but I should have taken a leaf out of other girl’s playbook, and push him a little… So:

The way other girls/guys do it!

True Emotion Mirror or not, we all have our idea of how relationships are formed. Someone who is constantly being approached by the opposite gender will react differently to those who have to chase the one they want a bit. If both of you are always the center of the attention, the likelihood that you have NO IDEA how to approach someone is super high because everything you ever do is wait for the ripe fruit to fall into your lap. Then we get into the ego aspect, and we start thinking “someone hot like you deserves to be served the cold shoulder every now and again” and we give them the flick just to avoid being another fool in their chain…

Normally, people are used to chasing the moon a little. Some chase A LOT. Have you noticed, that the less attractive a person is, the more talking they do – and often wind up getting around a lot more than their super sexy friend? Now, there is something to be learned from that, but someone super hot does have to avoid getting overly eager because that gives the crazy bitch / axe murderer -vibe because NORMALLY hot people do not need to chase people, so if you go overboard… There must be something wrong with you, right?

Unfortunately, all of this requires you to be perfectly aware of how hot you are compared to other people… Sucks, but it has to be done.

If you are being chased… Just be realistic

If you are the one being chased, try not to play them too much, or doubt their intentions too much. Give them a freaking break if you’re actually interested… And, again, compare yourself to them, realistically – are you that far off, in reality, or only in your mind, and mind how you come off to them. The hotter they are, the less they have to fight for attention, and the more baffled they are going to be if you try to tangle a mouse in front of them when they’re used to getting their dinner right to their plate… On the other hand, they are used to giving people the flick A LOT, and if they do it, they are likely to expect others to do that to them, too, if they go chasing someone, so they are likely to react to your cat and mouse games a lot stronger than your average chaser.

So what is this running and chasing about anyway?

In all simplicity, it is two people being too freaking interested in each other to think straight. Both are tentatively trying to figure out the level of danger; if I say the wrong thing, will the whole thing go bust? If I am too easy, will they lose interest? If I’m too difficult, will they run off? If I press too hard, will he think I’m completely desperate? If I am too eager, too sure of myself, not sure enough… How serious are they about me, anyway? Are they toying with me – at which point from our getting together is she/he going to stomp on my heart like it was a dance machine pad? The risks are high with a True Emotion Mirror – especially when you were always taught that true love is not real at all and hoping to find the one is foolish, childish, and utterly stupid.

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