How to be “a Free Spirit Theorist” or Sebastynist or whatever the heck you want to call this.
This is very much the Young Soul* question within a very the Old Souls* philosophy. So I’m trying to answer what is the DOGMA of a philosophy that very much fights dogma… Dogma is the set of beliefs that a “true believer” must hold in order to call themselves a supporter or “an ist” of a philosophy or a religion. First of all, if you’ve understood the Free Spirit Theory correctly, you understand that it is a PHILOSOPHY, not a religion. It is a pure New Age philosophy; each person is to critically and intelligently form their own personal worldview based on any source of information or knowledge they can find, including, but not limited to, their own observation. The Free Spirit Theory is Sebastyne Alpha’s earnest attempt to do just that, nothing more. Hopefully, it will help others to do the same.
A real, true Free Spirit Theorist CANNOT regard the Free Spirit Theory as a religion. If someone refers to it as “a religion,” they have misunderstood it and are attempting to misuse it. It is a New Age philosophy, but it has some principles that a true philosophical match cannot disagree with and consider themselves accurately described under the label “Free Spirit Theorist.” Ideally, you will write your own theory under its own name, but it might be a bit much. 😀
There is NO REQUIREMENT for anyone to read/study the Free Spirit Theory.
Studying the Free Spirit Theory is a personal decision. It is not a community decision. This is not a church, a community, or a “movement” – per se. You cannot be TOLD TO read it or to accept it, nor can someone tell you NOT TO. This especially means minor children. The need to read it must come from the person themselves, and minors should know only a general description of it if it becomes historically necessary. It starts to become relevant to teens at some stage, but they should seek to read it themselves with their parent’s permission, not be MADE to read/study/listen to it.
The Free Spirit Theory is your right to read, not your obligation. I have developed it to HELP YOU, to LIBERATE YOU and others, not to oppress you or anyone else. To be a Free Spirit Theorist gives you NO ADDITIONAL advantage apart from a greater understanding of humanity and spirit. All advantages that you gain from “being a Free Spirit Theorist” are better relationship skills and a higher awareness of how the spirit works. That is all. There is no admittance to heaven or avoidance of hell or any such humbug here in any other way than avoidance of hellish(ly boring) relationships and lifestyles and finding those that are heavenly.
The goal of a Free Spirit Theory is to find yourself a way to live that you will feel excited about for a foreseeable eternity, the sweet spot between pleasure and pain, crafted to your own enjoyment and the enjoyment of those you plan on sharing a good part of your future eternity with.
The Free Spirit Theory leans heavily on the premise of reincarnation and the concept of soulmates.
Much of what the Free Spirit Theory is about leans heavily on the concept of ETERNAL, never-ending reincarnation and soul-bonds lasting anywhere from a short moment to millions of years or an eternity from when they started for all I know.
Although I wouldn’t go as far as to say a true Free Spirit Theorist has to believe either, most of it makes no sense without these ideas. Along with it, the concept of soulmates becomes highly centric to the theory, and again, you don’t truly have to believe in them, either, but much of it becomes utterly pointless without that concept, and basically leaves the idea of individual’s freedom of choice behind, which is better served by other philosophies and simple psychology.
You are alone in your aim to form your own worldview, moral code, and spiritual identity. The Free Spirit Theory is an individual thing, not a is not a community (at large) thing. You are responsible for your own beliefs. Always.
A Free Spirit Theorist is ALWAYS a single unit of one as a Free Spirit Theorist. (They can become A PART of other things, but they’ll always be alone as a Free Spirit Theorist.) This also means that you don’t need a community to agree that you get to read this or don’t get to read this, or to live by the principles if you so choose. This blog is public and will always remain so. Your community also CANNOT and SHOULD NOT consider itself free to hold you to your principles. You are responsible for watching your own morals as a Free Spirit Theorist. (Nobody is their brother’s keeper.)
A Free Spirit Theorist, no matter how much in love they are, no matter how tightly knit they are with their True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates, they will always maintain a sense of individual identity and their own personal belief system and aim to make sure that even when their beliefs directly align with those who they are close to, they maintain an INDIVIDUAL sense of who they are and what they believe as an individual; they will not aim to rid themselves of the idea of who they are (their ego) but to protect it even from those closest to them – as a favour to the people who love them for who they are.
A Free Spirit Theorist will never submit their own cognition into the hands of a guru or any other person but remains in control of their own belief systems. A real Free Spirit Theorist WILL NOT adopt beliefs, principles, and ideas that they do not believe in or fully understand. A Free Spirit Theorist will not substitute understanding and wisdom with blind bravery of “blind faith.” Still, a person cannot call themselves a Free Spirit Theorist until or unless they agree with the rest of the ideas on this page.Â
Do not form groups of Free Spirit Theorists; always use the sub groups instead.
A true Free Spirit Theorist group should not aim to form a communities, either online or offline, around “being a Free Spirit Theorist,” but only its subsections, “being a Dog-Type Thinker,” “being a Cat-Type Thinker,” and so forth. “Being a Free Spirit Theorist” is too broad a term. It would recreate the mess that the Free Spirit Theory is created to solve. If and when the Old Souls* and the Young Soul* communicate and interreact, they should never be considered to be of the same group. The Cat-Type Thinkers must protect the Dog-Type Thinkers from getting too cosy with them when interacting. A Cat-Type Thinker must remain a little cold toward a Dog-Type Thinker as not to confuse their emotions and to cause pain to them later on. They are too different to live happily as one single group. One or the other half will always suffer from too emotionally close interactions.
Another group that the Free Spirit Theorists should think about carefully before forming one is around “being a True Emotion Mirror.” Any group leader should always be a Cat-Type Thinker for the protection of everyone involved. They must be VERY CAPABLE and WILLING to block/ban remove any people from the group who seem to be wishing to bond with the group by using their supposed True Emotion Mirror as a ticket, rather than aiming to bond with their True Emotion Mirror by using the information provided by the group. True Emotion Mirror -coaching/peer support groups should ALWAYS focus on the INFORMATION provided, not on bonding as a group. Anyone doing it for bonding purposes should be banned from authentic True Emotion Mirror groups as they will be VERY HARMFUL to the True Emotion Mirror reunions that the group members who would be there for a good reason would be seeking from these places. (Any coach should spend some time understanding what I mean from my many other texts.)
Understand this part.
For the love of God understand this sentence (which is not a difficult sentence by any means, but if you don’t understand it, just… Fuck off my website as you’ll have no chance of getting the rest of it: “Two people can be Free Spirit Theorists but are likely to not be each other’s True Emotion Mirrors or Precious Soulmates.” This is not a difficult concept to understand, but it is an important one to understand. This is not a free fuck/free love -theory, despite my own proclivities.
Some people seem to struggle with separating different terms and individual preferences from each other, and I promise the rest of this will go WAY OVER THEIR HEADS if that part proves too hard for them to do. The Free Spirit Theory is NOT a promise for eternal love for everybody automatically in the “if you just join, we’ll all love you” -type of way, and never ever promote it as such in general. It is a promise of eternal love in the sense that you WILL find your True Emotion Mirror if you understand and follow my teachings without cutting corners. (It’s just that the Young Soul* want to cut every corner in their way in their desperation to find belonging, keeping the very thing away from them with every corner they choose to cut.)
the Young Soul* can promise love for everyone who joins and agrees to their individual group rules, but should NEVER promise it in reference to the entirety of the Free Spirit Theories and people who study it. The Old Souls* should absolutely reject and promote their own standards for love and acceptance, and SCREAM their right to reject people and their need to be loved and accepted from every roof top they can find – figuratively speaking – if the Young Soul* try and twist this part of the theory into their own liking (cutting corners) as they have a tendency of doing.
Do not conform to non-conformity to prove you’re “a follower,” “a believer,” or “to belong” or to “be a part of the elite.”
There is no ONE right way to be a Free Spirit Theorist, but conforming to non-conformity in order to prove yourself to be “ready and willing” or “worthy of a heightened status” to be whatever bizarre freak you’re expected to be in order to fit in is definitely a wrong way to be a Free Spirit Theorist. There are people who are willing (but obviously unable) to fit into ALL AND ANY category of people mentioned in this theory, just to fit in. Just bravely and randomly fitting in parts like rags from an op shop waste bin on their way to strut their stuff at a fashion show thinking “this will do it! It’s so bizarre it must be original! If nobody’s like me, it must mean I’m being authentic!” No. One person’s authentic is being weird, another one’s authentic is to be very freaking ordinary… If such a thing even exists anymore.
You can use the Free Spirit Theory teachings as a helpful set of texts to discover who you authentically are, whether that makes you an insider or an outsider. Still, if you want to be an insider at any cost, you are not ready to be a Free Spirit Theorist. If you are looking for a way in, you’re looking for a key in the right place, but you still need to find a door you want to open. Being a Free Spirit Theorist is the room where they hold the keys to whatever room you want keys for, not the room to be in or to stay in. The Free Spirit Theory is only a tool that you return to when you need to open up another lock, not a destination or a group where you stay forever polishing a halo or a fucking crown or a trophy.
A Free Spirit Theorist is looking for their own authentic way of being without trying to PROVE that they BELONG in the Free Spirit Theorist “faith” or “community.” There’s nothing to prove. If you agree and understand what’s on this page, and feel the term “Free Spirit Theorist” accurately describes your way of thinking (not your wish to be taught to think that way) you already are good enough, but nobody is going to pat you in the back for it. There’s no welcome committee or fanfare for you “getting it”. It’s really quite freaking basic what’s on this page. If you get it, you’ve grasped the basics. Now, the Free Spirit Theory will guide you to what YOU need to know in order to make YOU happy – the reward is your solo work on yourself, NOT that you get to have tea and scones with yours truly if you’re a good girl or boy if agree with everything I say. (A true Free Spirit Theorist would now wonder why does that even need to be said.) This page is where your work STARTS, (or sifts into a higher gear,) not where it finishes. Your happiness is where your work ends (pauses), not with my approval, not in this lifetime or thereafter.
You maybe elite, but this is no elite group, and if you are a Free Spirit Theorist or call yourself one, THAT doesn’t make you a part of any type of elite. Only your capacity to understand these theories, formulate your own further ideas, and your execution of these ideas may make you elite, not simply trying. Calling yourself a Free Spirit Theorist and failing to understand what it’s about can possibly make you a social outcast rather than a part of any elite.
NEVER force another person to believe in what you believe.
Your beliefs are your beliefs, and they are potentially incorrect. So are mine. You are responsible for what YOU believe, and everyone else is responsible for what they believe. While you are free to explain what you believe to another person, you are not free to manhandle or force your views on another person and call yourself a FREE Spirit Theorist. Every person is a spirit, and each of them is free to live their life the way they choose, hence the FUCKING NAME OF THE THEORY! The Free Spirit Theory is an anarchist theory; each person has a freedom to be themselves, but each person can thus NOT LIKE another individual based on who they are; the price of being loved for who you authentically are by one person or group of people is to be rejected by another person or a group of people for who you authentically are, too.
The problem here is that the Young Soul* want to be included into everything. Therefore, they will think they are being FORCED TO BELIEVE something, if the punishment is rejection. “Oh, I need to turn bi/straight/gay in order to be loved by you.” They also want to LOVE YOU by telling you what horrible thing you need to become in order to be loved by them – and they love you further by keeping you locked in that relationship “until you understand”; “I will not give up on you no matter how long it takes for you to become what I’d love.” This is the very thing a true Free Spirit Theorist cannot do to a Old Souls*. They can do that with the Young Soul*, but they will have to learn to respect the different way that the Old Souls* think, or they cannot call themselves Free Spirit Theorists.
Cat-Type Thinkers can ALWAYS reject a person; you don’t need to be friends with anyone; you don’t have to like others, or accept them into your personal circles for whatever reason you have for it. Still, you can always demand love from the Young Soul*, and for them to change into whatever you want of them, and hopefully at some stage someone who they really don’t want the love of will do that to them, and they’ll learn why that’s a fucking nasty thing to do to a person and as a consequence stop doing it themselves… but a real the Old Souls* would find that kind of a relationship not only unrewarding, but annoying, and exhausting, even as the dominant party.
You have to let people go, even if you almost fully like them.
A true Free Spirit Theorist would never stand in the way of another person’s happiness, authenticity, or forcefully change them or keep them locked to themselves while simultaneously demanding they change their belief system or way of being. It is UTTERLY FORBIDDEN from a person who calls themselves a Free Spirit Theorist to hold this way of thinking: “I love you, therefore, I won’t let you go, but for us to be happy together, and for you to love me back, you need to change.” This is INCREDIBLY common, but only among the Young Soul*, who will have to start changing from here if they ever want to call themselves a Free Spirit Theorist. It flies DIRECTLY against the philosophy itself.
Having said that, the Free Spirit Theory states, as a matter of fact, that each person is free to do whatever they want, including and not limited to, limit other free spirit’s freedoms, but philosophically, a true Free Spirit Theorist will condemn forcing their will on a person until they have received a permission from that person to limit their freedom for instance as True Emotion Mirrors might: “I love you, I want to spend the rest of my eternity with you, you have the permission to do with me as you please, and to limit my freedom so it suits you.” A Free Spirit Theorist recognises a person’s freedom to willingly allow another person to limit their freedom, but NOT another person to forcefully limit another person’s freedom without their full consent and will to be limited by that person.
The aim, truly is to become a balanced combination of the Young Soul* thinking and the Old Souls* thinking: “I get to do anything I want to you, but only with your consent.” A the Young Soul* cannot yet comprehend the concept of consent, but a Old Souls* takes consent too seriously and apply it also when it’s not truly necessary. But only a Old Souls* understands how dangerous it is to ignore refusal of consent or rejection, or how easy it is to get it wrong.
“What you enjoy is what and who you are; what you enjoy is your identity.”
A real Free Spirit Theorist believes that what and who you are, what your true identity is, is determined by what you enjoy being or doing, NOT your environment, a group you belong in, or family you’re born into etc.
For instance, you can be technically someone’s wife or husband, but if you don’t enjoy being that person’s wife or husband, that is not who you are as a part of your identity.
Never stop another person from enjoying what they enjoy (even if it means you have to start over.)
The Free Spirit Theory is aiming for each individual to find a way of living that they enjoy to the fullest possible extent. A person who has understood this principle correctly, will never interfere into another person’s true joy and enjoyment and will never try to stop or hinder another person from enjoying what they enjoy, even if it means they, themselves, have to find another way to enjoy their own life, or another person to enjoy it with. True love will always demand it; if you love a person, what you want is for them to enjoy their life, EVEN IF it doesn’t include you, and this principle can be and MUST BE employed by a Free Spirit Theorist, even when it’s a case of a Partial Value Mirror or another lesser soulmate.
Even if a soulmate of yours decides that they would rather X, and that goes directly against what you’ve always thought to be true, a Free Spirit Theorist will let them go and do that thing, even if that means that the last 3000 years you’ve spent together was based on a lie; no point wasting another life on a lie or a misunderstanding. The First Goal of a Free Spirit Theorist is to learn to let go of things and beliefs about life, the Universe, god and gods, and other people that are not true to the best of their ability to figure out what is or isn’t true and to let go of it.
What if they’re harming themselves while they’re enjoying themselves?
A Free Spirit Theorist does not force his or her needs/will/or beliefs on another person. If that person is ENJOYING themselves and harming themselves in the process, you can offer to help them but not force your help on them, EVEN IF they will kill themselves. There’s an exception to this rule. A Dog-Type Thinker might be harming themselves for the attention and to see if anyone cares enough to save them. It is up to you to decide if that is the case here, but do your due diligence and don’t jump into conclusions. Never interfere in a Cat-Type Thinker’s self-harm without their consent in any situation; it’ll only motivate them further. They’ll only go harder to show you how you can’t control their actions. Know that a Cat-Type Thinker maybe harming themselves just to make you suffer, and for as long as you are in their case about it, they’ll keep doing what they’re doing just to piss you off.
Now, if you know a person you love enjoys something harmful, you may find it possible to help them find something even better to do; sex is often a good place to start looking for such a thing.
Self-defence and defence of others. You open the door, you set the game.
We then arrive to the situation where a person is enjoying hurting other people. If a serial killer kills because they enjoy killing people, there is a potential conflict of enjoyment, don’t you think? Then, YOUR enjoyment takes precedence. Do you want to be a hero? Do you enjoy the idea of catching this person? Let it go? Do you FEEL the spirit drawing the killer to his pray that wants to be killed?
You kill, you open the door for yourself to be killed/captured/punished. If you take your own enjoyment to the level of harming others, you also automatically open the door for others, who you are potentially harming in the future, by targeting them or their loved ones, to stop you before you get there. By the Free Spirit Theory, this is a game, a part of the game, but it’s a game too rough for many people to enjoy. But to avoid hypocrisy, don’t we all love a good serial killer story, as long as it doesn’t get too close? A Free Spirit Theorist believes that you always get what you want, 100% of the time, no matter how dark, weird, or fucked up it may be… (yes, I want to use the phrase “fucked up.” I enjoy swearing, so fuck you. You can reject my teachings by that reason if you want, but I will continue swearing as much or as little as I please.) And sometimes, a person wishes to be killed brutally by a serial killer… and to face other quite dark fates. That’s a part of being human; we’re not entirely sane, if there even is such a thing.
You open the door; you set the standard to that relationship.
Again: A Free Spirit Theorist does not force his or her needs/will/or beliefs on another person. If the only harm they’re doing is emotional pain on others, it’s fine. The line is crossed when physical harm is caused on others. Emotional harm should be avoided by leaving that person and their emotional toxic range, and a person who causes emotional or physical harm on others should consider it a declaration of others to be free to cause emotional and physical harm on them, too. In other words: If a wife hits a husband first, he is, by Free Spirit Theory (but not by the law) permitted to hit her back. What is fair, is that if you open that door, you live with the consequences.
Guilty by your agreement.
By the Free Spirit Theory, which is not a law; if you agree on a reason someone was harmed/killed, you do not need to, by Free Spirit Theory’s morality, inform about that harm or killing to anybody, but that will make you an accomplish to that harm/killing. This should apply to all controversial decisions of lesser nature; if you agree with it, you go along with it freely, but accept the reaction of others to judge and reject you the same as if you did the deed yourself… For if you agreed with it, the chances are that in a similar situation, you’d do the same thing, so others should react to you as if you’d done it yourself. Don’t agree with it, report it, reject that person or the basis of it, you do as you feel is THE RIGHT thing to do by your own moral code.
That is not to say you should receive the same punishment as the guilty party; apart from people who do not agree with your decision to reject your company and your friendship as is appropriate.
It is also to say that a full-blown criminal can be fully a practising Free Spirit Theorist, but is not to say that a Free Spirit Theorist is any level of criminal.
Aim to understand yourself and others better.
While the Free Spirit Theory aims to help you understand yourself better in the psychological sense, the other side of the equation is to understand others better, too. You cannot truly know who you are without knowing what you are not; what others are and what makes you different from others. A Free Spirit Theorist is as curious about what makes us different as they are of what makes us the same, and agrees that like attracts like, and people have no obligation to like each other, but that doesn’t make them enemies.
The Standing Laws and Free Spirit Theory.
The Free Spirit Theory agrees with certain things that the law may not agree with. It is my recommendation to always try to follow the standing laws as much as your morality allows (in case of a utopian future scenario where laws are oppressive and impossible), but open discussions to change them if you feel it is necessary. Still, a true Free Spirit Theory may wholly disagree with the laws, and act outside of them, without truly braking any real code of the Free Spirit Theory. Therefore, unlike “being a Christian,” being a Free Spirit Theorist should not, even in theory, be any guarantee of a person’s moral code to be in anyway the same as another’s, while they still agree on the principles of this page.
Historical record of the Free Spirit Theory.
While I will be editing my writing at my own whimsy for the rest of my life, DO NOT edit my writing after I pass. NOT ONE WORD. The only thing you may add is references to the historical situation in which these texts were written, but do not go into guessing as to what that might mean in the official copies of the texts. Reserve that to anyone who might use these texts as their source material for their own world view ponderings in their own publications. Leave it as it is, and trust that people will be smart enough to understand that times change, and what was relevant in my time, may not be relevant in the future, but leave it in anyway.
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Whomever inherits the copyrights to these texts should consider deleting all of it if it comes to it, but do not edit it. Use it as a source material, but do not edit it.
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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.
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