How to (re)direct a Modern (trans) person.

A Modern is basically a trans person. However, in this context, it’s not about gender transitioning only, but basically, a Modern wants to transition into anything they are not (yet). They must be given the idea, however. This often happens when a school teacher points out an option: “You could be a firefighter; you’re so strong!” And a firefighter they will be. “Oh, you draw so nicely! You could be an artist!” And so it shall be. “You could be trans and not even know it,” the teacher said to a whole class, and 4 of them thought: “Well, since they are lobbying for this thing so hard (like an army was needed), that looks like a good future prospect!”

You can give Timeless a million compliments and ideas, and if they don’t like them, they’ll ignore them. Young Soul* can’t choose for themselves. If you give them too many ideas, they don’t know which one they’re supposed to take unless ONE OPTION is heavily promoted: “Be a gender-transitioner!”

Give the Modern child direction

You have to give Moderns a direction. If you’re their parent, you should think about it. What does your child show aptitude toward? Then, when you know, give them a plan you can support them with. The more support you can give them, the better, as Moderns are not independent performers. Choose something you have both time, money, and interest to be involved in. Young Soul* may need constant admiration for their success and praise for doing the right thing (which is why the trans community is so tempting to them at the moment.) They also need help to perform their role in life, so they know you care. In the same way that Timeless means “I don’t trust you to do your job right,” Modern means “I care about you and your work, so I’m here to support you in it.”

Do not make the mistake of presenting an identity as a job role for the Modern. They will treat it as such. They’re professionally gay, they’re professionally trans, even if they’re not really. They will go out to disrupt and challenge perceptions because that’s their role now, their job. (Timeless modern trans people may educate and guide, but they are not there to annoy and disrupt as if it were their place in life.)

Timeless difference

You can also help a Timeless child or teen find their path without drama. They will reject the options they don’t like. With them, it is important not to push them into anything specifically or express disapproval toward a path they’ve chosen; they will rebel and leave you. They also need help in what to do as an adult, but you have to present it differently: “These are the things you ARE ALREADY.” The path is chosen for what they already are rather than what they could become, as with Modern people. The difference here is minimal. You still have to find the Modern’s natural talent but not make a big deal out of it or give it a loose connection: “You’re so strong you could be a firefighter!” Strenght is a trait that could be used for many things, but you chose firefighting for them and they like that.

Identity, to a Timeless is an in-born-permanent thing, whereas to a Modern it’s more of a choice. However, the Timeless will tone it down when they age. When they were in full rock star regalia as teenagers, the only remnant of it at adult age may be a telling T-shirt or a bracelet. They’ll still sign up for the same ideals, but they won’t be as “loud” about it as they were in their teenage (unless they are literal rock stars in adult age or their role otherwise supports it. They are very good at dressing for an occasion, so they’ll be mindful about where full identity dress is worn and when to tone it down).

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