How to snare your True Emotion Mirror; Sex, food, and good advice.

You’re going to die (laughing) when you get it. We’ve created all this complication around bagging a bloke. 😀 All it takes is sex, food, and good advice.

This sounds so stupid—or what I’ve thought it needs sounds stupid—I don’t know which. Love confessions will backfire almost 100%, no matter how much you want to say them. Playing games will backfire one way or another. Playing hard to get, pondering when it’s OK to call, to chase or not to chase, refusing sex, putting out… anything you do to try and be enough is all wasted effort.

Sex, food and good advice. Sex and a shared breakfast. It doesn’t matter how grand; get him/her to sit down for breakfast. When they get used to that routine, tell them you’re doing X, and if they want to join you.

Bad timing? Not at home?

If food is not an option, a back massage might be the ticket. Anything “boy/girlfriend” that friends also (could) do. At the very least, exchange Netflix tips. Start small and add to it when they and you get comfortable. Make them feel like you’re home. True Emotion Mirrors feel like home to each other anyway, not let the physical reflect that.

You have to make them feel like a friend, that they’re safe with you – often we try to do the opposite. “I’m exciting, fun, a little dangerous.” Create a home. Offer a home. Give advice when you can, but don’t push it.

To be fair, all of this also applies the other way around; men can offer breakfast and advice, too, but… It’s just funnier this way. You need a routine of sorts; approach it with little treats, quite literally, if he or she seems jumpy. Tame them like a wild dog.

Food is more powerful than sex, I’m afraid.

Food has a “stay” energy in it. Sex has a “run” energy. Advice can come off as controlling. Even if intellectual connection, sex, and romance were more important to a person, they are not every day… They sustain you for longer than food does. Still, we all need to eat. And no matter how much you wish to stay, hunger will pull you away. (Some men faster than others. :D) If you want a person to stay, you have to take care of hunger one way or another.

It is so stupidly simple but any former life lady or gentleman won’t notice; they had servants to take care of food and physical needs (besides sex).

This will be too domestic for a real one-night stand with no intention of staying.

If they’re not interested in you in the serious sense, they will not come back to the home that they don’t feel is theirs. While they may share a breakfast once to be polite, it’ll be too domestic for a real one-night stand to return. Only the ones who want you for real will stick around. Only do this for someone who you wish to stay. (If you have a habit of offering food to all of your guests and keep winding up in a relationship with random rif raf, stop giving them food. 😀 It’s like feeding raccoons, cute as they are, hoping they’ll turn into dogs. Sex is fine; food is for serious.)

You don’t have to cook anything per se; whatever you would have for breakfast is fine, even if you have servants. You’ll invite them to your every day, to your shelter – bed & breakfast – whatever it’s like. (If you don’t have breakfasts, there’s no reason better than this to start.) If you go out for breakfast, invite them to join you. Order Uber Eats. The point is that you invite them to your every day. You give them shelter—emotionally and physically.

One out of 3 will get you far.

Good advice and conversation will get you their reapect. Good sex will make them an addict. Food earns you their trust.

0/3 will get the interest of your True Emotion Mirror. 1/3 will get you interest of any one-way sexually compatible person. 2/3 will get you a domestic partner, but it takes 3/3 to keep your True Emotion Mirror.

Don’t beat yourself up if you didn’t get before 😀

And don’t beat yourself up… sometimes the obvious is blinding. 😀 Past life ladies nor hookers didn’t cook or clean, and we’ve been trained away from a lot of the natural ways people bond permanently. To be fair, there are the social classes who do those things but don’t do sex. It’s all vital: sex, (emotional and physical) shelter and food.)

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