How To Stay On Course To a Commitment

The only thing you need to know about other people and their relationship goals is this: They don’t necessarily want what you want. That is all. You want something different. To you, it’s the bigger and better, and other’s biggest dream is something else, but whatever you want, is your guiding post. There are tons of people who feel the way you do about things, but if you never admit it to yourself that you want something, how are you going to admit it to someone else and ask for it from someone else?

So. You want commitment. First and foremost. That is your goal. You also need to jot down some pointers of what kind of a person you wish to get a commitment from, but that’s for another time.

Now… Your expression of what you want need to match the way you behave and dress and carry yourself. In very blatantly obvious terms, that are known to happen… Do you know this type of a woman..? She dresses slutty, but wants commitment? She sleeps with a whole bunch of men and asks for a commitment from anyone, anyone at all..? She claims she’s “pure” or “very religious”, yet, she’s drunk sleeping with every guy who’ll have her amazed that men don’t make a commitment to her? Men who appreciate women for their purity and their sexual chastity are not going to be impressed by slutty behavior, you understand? Religious men are not going to be impressed by slutting around like your life depended on it.  Do not advertise to the wrong crowd, crudely expressed.

The more strongly you believe yourself to be something specific, the more you need to make sure others see you that way. You cannot send mixed messages to the Committed Type, you need to show them you are serious about forming a relationship, and that you are mature enough to do it. Committed Types are not fond of childish behavior, because they are looking for a life partner, someone to rely on, and someone to lean on, just like you are. Ask yourself, if you were the type of a person who you want to marry, would you want yourself? If not, you’ve got some changes to make. It’s not that you can’t, or that you’re doomed, you’ll simply have to change yourself into the person you would want to marry if you were of the opposite gender because your ideal partner shares the same values as you do – show them to the world in everything that you are.

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