How to take rejection?

I am a master at taking rejection; I’m even too good at it. I’m so good that men tend not to realize I was interested in the first place. That said, don’t become as good as I am at it. It does pay to be reasonably good at it, tho, for your own convenience.

Now. The secret is this: You cannot expect yourself to be 100% right for every person you’ll ever meet while dating. This is not a question of whether you’re a good person, a good “prospect,” rich enough, or whether you’re a full 10 or not. The question is; are you right for this person? Are you 100% compatible with this person in question? It would be a disaster if we had only people who are right for everybody or if true love was a matter of just finding another single person at the right location of about the right age. That would be SOOO BORING!

So don’t think that your ASL -dating profile with a blurry picture is going to cut it if you want to find LOVE rather than some partnership against complete loneliness. It doesn’t matter what you do, how you are, as long as you’re open to dating someone just like you. If you wouldn’t date yourself, you’ve got a problem. However, most of us love some version of ourselves in another person. Mostly we all love images of our own self. That’s all good, as long as you appreciate the fact not everyone loves you as their first choice quite as much as you do.

Everybody holds themselves as a template of authentic perfection. This means the more alike you are, the more you’re going to like each other, and also, the closer to the same you get, the more the little differences shit ya.

So. You have to know that people tend to date in the 80% right category OR 100% right. One or the other. The 81-99% category is just too annoyingly close to being right without actually being right. It’s easier to casually date the 80% right because they don’t really affect your good night sleep that much. That said, getting rejected for that 1% is scary… But at the same time, you know that the closer to perfection people get, the pickier they get, and that means the difference between swiping left or right is a matter of a nuance, nothing to take personally. You’re just not perfect for them based on their personal template to match them, not to a generic female/male ideal, that’s all.

You don’t have to be the perfect person for every single person out there. You have to allow yourself to be disappointing to all the people who don’t authentically love you. You only need one (even if you want several ultimately.)

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