How/why a narcissist (genuinely) likes/loves you.

Narcissists** do love you and like you. You should be aware of WHY or HOW they like/love you to pin your attention to it when you feel it: They like you for the things you can do for them – your skills they can utilize (for free) or the money you are good at making. It is easy to understand how narcissists go after rich people, but it’s a lot less obvious when they like you for being nice and kind – usable.

In contrast, normal people like you for your sense of humor, your conversation, and your company. Everything else is a bonus—a narcissist likes you first for what you can do for them, and if you’re nice company, it’s a bonus but not necessary for them to want a relationship with you.

Having said that, everyone’s job in everyone’s life is to give them something – and the most important part is not whether someone is a narcissist or not, but whether what they want you to give them is the stuff you want to give to them. That is to say two narcissists focussed on material, status, and other perks will work quite well as a pair, but a normal person would hate that interaction.

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