“I already have a boy/girlfriend” – sex at work place.

The Survivalist* and the Idealists* also vary dramatically in how they value their romantic relationships. This becomes very difficult when you have to share a work place with both the Idealists* and the Survivalist*. You will never hear a Idealists* say “I already have a significant other” to mean “I cannot talk to you” or “you’re wasting your time getting to know me.”

the Idealists* have opposite gender friends, especially at work, even if they are in a relationship. Neither male or female the Idealists* will automatically assume that an opposite gender person talking to them is after sex. Therefore, a man who is interested in a cat-woman needs to make his intentions just a little bit more obvious than just chatting with her, and both male and female the Idealists* would do wisely to avoid any friendly chatter with a dog-type. Unfortunately, the Survivalist*can be very persistent, so learning to efficiently, but politely reject a dog-type’s offers of friendship can be a career – and family saving skill.

Also, the Idealists* doesn’t eat where they sh** so to speak – it would take a lot for them to start dating a co-worker or a class mate, because their relationships are not automatically ever lasting; therefore they don’t like to taint their everyday routine place with broken relationships left, right, and centre. They have to be in proper love before they take that kind of risks, or know their playmates see both romantic and sexual relationships the same way as they do, and they trust that this is the case.

“I saw him/her first.”

The Survivalist*doesn’t see value differences between people. To them, the choice of who gets to marry who is a matter of who saw them first. (Some the Survivalist* rush to marry just one person – anyone will do – and then relax into cheating on them. Only the Survivalist* who have a clear value system trained into them might not cheat… But if they do, they expect to be forgiven for it. They also consider a person who won’t forgive “bad at relationships” – a bad sport so to speak.)

“I date a super model – that makes me beautiful.”

The Survivalist* have somewhat of a blind-spot when it comes to their own status. Despite lacking in every sense of the word, the Survivalist*will be just as interested in beautiful competent people as the rest of us, but they have NO concern over being rejected over the lack of looks, smarts, or anything else for that matter. Like dogs, the Survivalist*people kind of see themselves as the company they keep, rather than what they see in the mirror as an individual; therefore, by dating, and especially marrying a beautiful individual, in their mind, they become beautiful, too, and if they are beautiful, they can now try and get laid by other beautiful people.

A Survivalist*wouldn’t “date down”, because by their rationale, if they date an ugly person, they become ugly, too, but a Idealists* of a person does not see it that way. They retain their idea of self despite their company, and therefore, they do give chances to people the Survivalist*never would. The chance is: “Make me laugh, amaze me with your mind, be entertaining, sexy, reliable… Prove to me you have hidden talents – or I’ll move on.” The truth is, out of that list, the Survivalist*is one thing: reliable, but they can also cheat and come back as if nothing happened, because their idea is that the relationship is more important – and they also don’t necessarily know how to say no to a person who has hung around them long enough, so they eventually have to repay their attention with sex, even if they had a significant other.

“You spend time with me, you owe me sex.”

The dog-type’s currency is attention and time spent with them. Therefore, if the Survivalist*works closely with an opposite gender person (or other suitable mashup), they’ll wind up cheating.  They feel that if you can push yourself into the company of the person you’re interested in for long enough, they will fall in love with your presence, even if you’re ugly and dumb. IF they get partnered at work with someone they might like, they feel like they’re handed a jackpot. It’s only a matter of time before sex happens – this applies to both men and women.

The Idealists* does not understand this, at all. It would never OCCUR to them that someone thinks this way. It may also be the Survivalist*that harasses a long time co-worker for sex, but when the Idealists* rejects their advances, the Survivalist*punishes them for non-compliance. If the Survivalist*feel they DESERVED sex with this person (because of time spent with them), they can “out them” as someone who sexually harassed them at work because they CHATTED (= flirted) with them, but refused to follow that with sex. “Harassment” – sexual teasing; gives attention but won’t follow up with sex. (No the Idealists* should really listen to the testimony of the Survivalist*about another the Idealists*, without very solid evidence. I mean, listen but don’t make up your mind before you see some evidence.)

The way the Survivalist*feels offense, disrespect, and harassment is very different from how a Idealists* sees it. Therefore, a Idealists* may appear harrassy to the Survivalist*by just being friendly, and quite frankly, the other way around, too… Although the Idealists* will easily use the word “toxic” to describe the dog-type, and… Often the Survivalist*follows suit.

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