“I didn’t mean it” is not true; Anger brings out the truth

If you have ever wondered which side of a person to believe, the kind or the angry; believe the angry. When we lose it, we say what we feel, and the emotions come out unfiltered. If a person who has obstructed feelings for you, they will spew them out when they are angry, whether they love you or hate you. Nobody has ever attempted to explain the: “Yes I fucking love you, but I can’t DO anything about it because I AM MARRIED!!” away by saying “They were angry and didn’t mean it”.

Anything that you are harbouring inside when you are not angry will come out unedited when you lose your temper. When you say “you didn’t mean it” you really know you meant it, but just didn’t mean to say it THAT WAY. You wanted to say it kindly, but you didn’t, the content is what you meant, isn’t it? When you yell at your kids saying you wish they were never born, you do mean it, don’t you? (I’m sorry if someone said this to you or you said it to your kids – that is not an easy situation and sadly one that many people are in although are unable to voice it because it’s such a taboo. For the record for those who wonder; statistics show that virtually nobody who choose not to have kids grows to regret it. Incredibly, approximately one third of parents wouldn’t have kids if they could choose differently. Think before you have them!) We all wish we didn’t feel that way, but when we go back and say “I didn’t mean what I said” it is, sadly, a lie.

So, why this is cool is that sometimes you KNOW someone loves you, and you KNOW their feelings are obstructed because they feel a sense of duty towards the society, your spouse, their spouse or are even afraid of their own emotions. That is when it is a good idea to get them suitably mad at you so that they will say what they mean, but here’s a level of warning again: People can tell you to go away quite sternly, almost angrily for quite some time, and it may well sound like the truth. In a sense, it is: it is true that they want you to go away so they wouldn’t have to tell you the truth, so they could keep hiding the secret. Their anger is teary-eyed and they don’t look you in the eye while “shouting”. Their anger protects a shameful truth. It’s only when they lose it completely that the truth comes out. They turn toward you, look you square in the eye and yell. You have to be brave and really piss them off, or simply try more subtle methods which might take years to solve. You also need to find out WHY they have decided not to love you but hate you instead, such as: “Yes I fucking love you, but I know you think you are too good for me and you only want me because you can’t have me!” (In avoidance state they may still just use the accusation part: “You only want me because you can’t have me!”)

You need to get them to lose their lolly, to royally piss them off, so that there’s nothing but truth coming out of them. The louder they yell, the more truth there is to what they are saying.

This is what you MAY hear if you try and piss off a True Emotion Mirror runner… You may even know what’s going to come out without trying:

“You just have to flirt with me and coax me and tempt me with all your might and you know I can’t do a fucking thing about it, you fucking whore!!! I can’t stand you!” This means they do love you but they believe it’s only sexual desire. Ask them what you’ve done that is so flirty, because chances are you’ve just been you. If you drive someone to that state, it’s love. 😀 True Emotion Mirror.

“I need you to fucking get it! I need you to go the fuck away, FUCK OFF! I have had it with you, we are NOT lovers! We are not fucking True Emotion Mirrors, I can’t even stand the sight of you, let alone LOVE you, are you INSANE or WHAT?!” This speaks plain and clear. Not a True Emotion Mirror, and you need to accept that. They meant it. This is not obstructed emotion, this is the fucking real deal. Anything that a person screams at you is not obstructed anymore. Enigma.

“I told you I loved you back then, didn’t I, but I don’t fucking NEED THIS! I don’t NEED THIS BULLSHIT! This is TOO MUCH, THIS IS TOO FUCKING MUCH, THIS IS NOT SOMETHING I CAN DEAL WITH RIGHT NOW!!!” This means they love you but they can’t deal with it because of what is going on in their lives otherwise. Ha – just like they said. 🙂 Many things to work out, but they are a True Emotion Mirror.

“I don’t NEEEED you, I don’t NEED ANYBODY! I am FINE!!! I can’t give a damned about your Florence Nightingale bullshit, you don’t need to save me I am FINE as sooon as you vanish!!” No explanation required. The message is clear; go away, your help is not needed nor wanted. An Enigma.

These emotions do not exist IN ORDER to hurt you or insult you, they are true emotions that come out DESPITE the fact they might hurt or insult you.  Obstructed emotions are not always positive! In fact, most of the time we obstruct the negative emotions because we know they may hurt someone. When we obstruct the positive emotions, we do it for the same reason; someone might get hurt, a spouse, a child or even ourselves. “Obstructed emotions” does not mean unconscious emotions; emotions a person isn’t aware off, but emotions we fear are either based on something ‘false’ like sexual attraction or wanting the unattainable, or emotions that we believe are wrong somehow, like, obviously loving someone other than your spouse.

Unfortunately we have been taught to be kind and polite to each other, and especially the Infant Souls find it extremely confusing. The new members of our species don’t understand politeness or friendliness, to them, there really are just two types of people; Friends and Enemies. Pack members or enemies. The difference of superficial friendliness, a normal crush or fierce passionate love, as incredible as it may seem to an old soul, goes often lost with an Infant Soul. That is why it is sometimes INCREDIBLY difficult to describe True Emotion Mirror bonds in a way that will make sense to all people at the same time and without room for misunderstandings. Where as to an Ancient Soul I can say: “You KNOW THIS. This is well within your grasp, there’s nothing you truly find difficult to understand, it’s simply that it’s too good to be true,” to an Infant Soul I can’t stress it enough: “You have to take their word for it, you have to let them be if they don’t want you.” The Infant Soul does have a very good intuition, but also a capacity to read too much into nice things, and too little into unpleasant things. They have an incredible ability to pick and choose what they hear, and that is why my blog is full of these posts, and I apologise to all Elder Souls for it. I know you are the ones who do get the message, when you really should be encouraged to just believe in your love.

The kind person that you normally talk to, is probably trying hard to tell you something in not so many words through their demeanour, short sentences, avoidance… They are dropping hints all over the place but if you refuse to listen, it’s only when they get so angry and frustrated that they start to yell at you that they sometimes can find the courage to tell you what they’re really thinking. The veneer of politeness and friendliness is dropped off, and they start screaming from their true soul. This is when you’d better pay attention. Anything that starts with “Don’t You Get It?” is what is followed by the previously obstructed, true emotion.

Just listen to what they are saying. Even when they are NOT that angry. The hints are being dropped all the time.

But yes, anger is great. I wish I had pushed a bit harder with my True Emotion Mirrors when I had the chance. He dropped hints too that I stupidly ignored: “You just want me because of the way I look” being one of my favourites… Why didn’t I realise he wanted me to prove to him that I actually did love him? Oh well. One of these days I’ll get it right myself, in the mean time, you get it right, okay? 🙂

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