“I don’t care what you think of me” what does it mean?

People, when trying to adjust to each other’s social circles try to moralize each other to make each other adjust to the group. There are people, who, despite this, declare “I don’t care what you think of me”. This rarely helps, but the moralizing will keep ongoing.

What we mean when we say; “I don’t care what you think of me”, is: “I don’t care if we are not friends.” To this person, your approval is inconsequential because they are not trying to win your approval, nor are they trying to make their way into your social circles. Therefore, you are free to think of them whatever you like without it having any effect on their lives or happiness, apart from the annoyance of you thinking they would be your friend (or idol or..?) if they met your approval.

In saying “I don’t care what you think of me” they are also saying they don’t approve of you in some way, and on top of that, they criticize you for having such a high opinion of yourself you assume without much proof, that they’d actually be your friend if they could.

It’s just a small thing

Often, the disagreement is over a small matter the original moralizer thinks is easily solved; you just have to stop wearing those clothes, listening to that music, stop being friends with those people or whatever, then you can upgrade your social circles to “ME”, lucky you. What the subject of this critique feels, however, is that the moralizer needs a good look in the mirror with their assumption they’d be a higher regarded friend than the people the object feels loyalty and admiration toward. They may also wonder WHY you have such an issue with something as inconsequential as what they wear, or other small stuff, without even realizing you’re grooming them for a friend or something similar.

What people who offer their opinion of others often fail to realize that the people who are dissimilar to themselves think from the perspective of different morals and value system than themselves. Usually, the moralizer is somewhat of a basic person. They are well adjusted. But what well-adjusted people don’t realize is that they work from THE MEDIAN. A median means average, and then, there are people who are below average and also those who are ABOVE AVERAGE. Those who are below average CANNOT reach average even if they try. Those who are above average are not going to start cutting themselves down in order to go from above average down to median, are they?

Why wouldn’t they want (more) friends?

Some reasons why above-average people often disassociate themselves from the median are often along these lines:

• They have a higher IQ and find discussions with the median people intellectually uninspiring.
• They feel a higher responsibility toward other people, and thus expect more of their friends in terms of aiming to better the society. (And this, to them, is not just words.)
• They may be higher energy people who feel the median people are lazy, uninspired, and thus uninspiring.
• They may feel a greater need toward creativity and social discourse than the median people and thus prefer the company of other creatives and philosophers.
• They may simply have a high interest in non-standard hobby or pastime, and don’t understand (nor should they) why anyone would have an issue with them spending their time on something they enjoy when it harms absolutely nobody else.
• They may be an introvert who genuinely doesn’t need the company of other people. Extroverts often tend to take “introversion” as a negative symptom of “shyness” or social awkwardness, when introversion is simply a relaxed habit of entertaining oneself intellectually in one’s own company rather than socially with other people. From an introvert perspective, extroversion is a handicap because it makes a person pathologically dependent on other people and their approval, hindering an individual’s ability to survive alone and their capacity of making independent, better decisions. Intellectuals feel often that being tied to other people with a lower IQ than their own would force them to make stupid decisions out of loyalty toward their friends or force their own opinion on others (which is what extroverts expect high IQ people to do, by the way). I point that out to say it’s all just a perspective.
• Along the same lines, an intelligent introvert may feel they don’t really CARE if low IQ people don’t do well in life, therefore they have a “save yourself” mentality about their existence. They don’t wish to DRAG unintelligent people behind them, wasting energy on arguing over matters low IQ people refuse to accept and are difficult to sway to as they argue illogically and even as a form of social entertainment, while time’s a-wasted on stupid arguing when action should be taken from the high IQ person’s perspective. Therefore, they are more likely to seek for a company that they can easily sway to take action on what they feel is important for the whole of humanity rather than sit around arguing with low IQ people for the sake of social interaction alone.

Ad insult to injury?

Here’s more. I believe the need to be constantly involved in making and nurturing friendships is a sign of a low-average IQ. It is a means for survival; when banded together, low IQ people have a higher chance of survival than separated. Low IQ people are also instinctively attracted to high IQ people who are an asset both genetically and as a member of a group.

A higher IQ individual often benefits from cutting the weight of low IQ people, and spending time alone with other individuals they regard worth saving; other high IQ individuals. They are also more sex-driven, as passing on high IQ genes is beneficial to the human species. Or to put it more in accordance with Free Spirit Theory: bringing more of your Precious Soulmates/True Emotion Mirrors into the world) and oneself, as your PS’s and TrEmoRs, would also be high of IQ simply because you are.

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