“I don’t need you anymore” maturing per the Idealists* and the Survivalist*

The Idealists* thinker type, again, compared to the Survivalist* does this one thing the opposite way: How they become independent.

An the Idealists* never truly feels like they need a parent, therefore, they spend their youth trying to prove to their mother or father that they are already old enough to be trusted with their own life. Therefore, they constantly give their parent the vibe: “I need you to…” as in: “I need you to let me go. I need you to trust me. I need you to allow me to grow up.”

A Survivalist* feels their adolescence strongly. They FEEL like a child, and many of them feel like a child a long way into their adulthood. Therefore, they have some needs of their parent that are much more childish and easy to define than those of a Idealists*. Once they feel they find their feet, they give their parent the signal: “I don’t need you anymore.”

An the Idealists* parent will let you go around late teen years

An the Idealists* parent will assess their child’s ability to deal with the rigors of the world. A Survivalist* parent is waiting for their child to decide when they are old enough. Therefore, the Survivalist* child will feel abandoned when their the Idealists* parent assumes they’re self-sufficient at the age of 20 when a Idealists* child feels suffocated at adult age because their the Survivalist* parent won’t trust them with their own life resulting in massive conflicts all through their lives. This is because the Idealists* hasn’t declared themselves independent as they don’t think it is even necessary to state the obvious.

Ironically, the Idealists* may feel too much like a child due to their parent hanging onto them to even look for a job, and before they find their financial stability, they don’t feel like they can be proudly declaring their independence from anyone at all.

A Survivalist* child feels “adult” for such things as getting their period or having gotten laid for the first time, or some other, relatively irrelevant life event that feels important to them.

the Idealists* trick

An the Idealists* that feels the parent isn’t letting them go despite all logic and reason should focus on this mantra: “I don’t need you anymore”.

This can be even offputting to a Idealists*, as they don’t feel they EVER needed their parent, so to state “I don’t need you anymore” at the ripe age of 35 doesn’t necessarily feel like the grown-up thing to do, but do it anyway.

Subscribe to get a Daily Message