“I don’t want” may mean “I want it more than anything”… Or “I don’t want”

When the Young Soul* says they don’t want something or they don’t need or wish for something, it’s quite possibly code for “I want it more than anything.” the Ravens*, however, say “I don’t want it,” and mean… *drum roll* “I don’t want it.” Therefore, whenever a person says, “I don’t want you, it, them, that, those things…” be mindful of whether they really do or not.

the Young Soul* Thinking (Potential) TrEmoRs.

When dealing with the Young Soul*, expressing “don’t want” is dangerous. It’s better to express “don’t want” as if you want it but then keep losing interest in it. THAT SAID, if your True Emotion Mirror is the Young Soul*, you need to keep the pressure on for a lot longer than what any the Ravens* feels comfortable doing. WE HATE IT when the Young Soul* doesn’t take no for an answer. To us, it’s an emotional rape. A love rape. We would jail people for that. A Young Soul* doesn’t BELIEVE you love them until you break their walls down to be with them. The whole Wrecking Ball thing.

But, you could turn the tables. “You don’t want me? I didn’t think so. You’re too good for me anyway. I understand.” See if the Young Soul* will take up the chase. It’s just that the Young Soul* don’t like insecure people, which then… You might want to break the bond by showing them your insecurities. “I don’t believe you want me. So I won’t chase you.” That’s why the Ravens* don’t do it anyway. If that’s what is going to come in between you, then so fucking be it, I figure.

“No” is too important of a word to be sacrificed for this shit.

I personally believe “a no” is a very powerful and necessary word in our languages. We cannot just ignore it because we want to be chased. Disrespect of the word ‘no,’ and removal of consent MUST BE a punishable offense, IN EVERYTHING.

A NO MUST BE RESPECTED, no matter what. It’s a safety issue that cannot be just thrown away because some of us like the sensation of being raped (we do) or forced into relationships, friendships, schools, jobs, and fancy clothes. It may take a tad of the fun out of it to have to give consent to certain things, but that said, ‘a no’ is FAR TOO IMPORTANT to be taken out of the vocabulary and to be treated if it meant the same as “fuck me harder.” Your INSTINCT is simply NOT good enough to replace the need of a no. A rape victim MUST say no in order to classify as a rape victim, too, by the way. Otherwise, it can be just people playing games.

And put “don’t” into the category right next to “no.”

Play-level: Here’s the deal. Respect a no and don’t, but ignore silence and not say ‘yes.’

Consent MUST BE given with silence. No ‘no’ means “keep going.” Even if the silence means something like “of course, I don’t want a job but I know the rules… Keep going.”

Not objecting is consent. No and don’t is removal of consent. Ignore those words, and face the (natural or agreed upon) consequences of ignoring them.

True Emotion Mirrors must figure this out between themselves. Still, they’re not YOUR True Emotion Mirror until they say they are, and they have to say that in spirit AND in person separately. If they say they are not or you are not theirs, in spirit or in person, either or, just once, consider it a fucking NO, DON’T, you rapist piece of shit, whether you are a male or a female.

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