If you are good looking, the best thing you can do to good looking people you like and love is to tell them they are, too.

It applies to all positive traits, actually. The best gift you can give to someone you care about is a realistic self-image. To validate their ego, their idea of self. “You are that hot, yes. You are that talented, yes. You are that smart, yes.” Often, this validation comes from unreliable sources.

People often compliment average people quite without fear. They call very average people gorgeous, smart, and capable. In contrast, superior people will be attacked a lot. “You’re not as smart as you think you are.” “You are not THAT hot!” While there are a thousand people saying the opposite, it takes one to put doubt in a person, even if they had no merit in saying so.

You can show self-confidence by validating superior people. You don’t need to overdo it, but you can validate their idea of self by pointing out they are what they think they are, from your perspective, as their potential/approximate equal. It means a lot more than the words of the obviously average.

While you think… Know, gentlemen, that beautiful women get told they’re beautiful all the time, the number of handsome men who do the same is practically 0—an EASY way to stand out as the handsome man who isn’t a coward. Having said that, it’s worth doing even if it isn’t to stand out. And girls, the same is true in reverse. Men can use honest compliments, too. THAT, TOO, is a sign of self-confidence, that you don’t feel diminished and inferior to a man by paying him a compliment every now and again. Of course, you can also pay compliments with an air of superiority: “I pass judgment on you, and I find you please me” -tone, don’t do that. It’s… Tacky and cunty.

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