If you don’t want a sexual relationship, stop chasing sexual people into them.

There are asexual people in this world. Some of them are men, albeit they are less vocal about it. Asexual people will rather focus on other ways to spend time together than sex. That’s all fine and dandy, but you CANNOT EXPECT a sexual person to stop being sexual simply because you don’t want sex. These people are FRIENDS ONLY with you, they can never be anything more to you, and you should never try and push them into an asexual relationship.

You have no obligation to seek sexual relationships. None at all. You are perfectly free to look for a relationship where sex is not a factor at all. Maybe you want sex to be reserved for some once-in-a-blue-moon situation that you are perfectly permitted to define. But, you cannot pressure people into sex or out of having sex. Either way, it is wrong. However, a person CAN TELL YOU that if you don’t want sex, you cannot have a sexual relationship with them. If they are looking for a sexual (romantic) relationship, they have every right to seek for it, just the same as you have the right to look for something asexual.

And yes, finding an asexual relationship is hard. Finding the kind of sexual relationship that you want is hard, too. Both are terribly difficult tasks sometimes. Still, the situation won’t be fixed by trying to make incompatible people feel satisfied with someone inherently incompatible with them.

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